Post # 1
So I was having a pretty good day. FI had a small fight last night about the tuxes because his brother called whining about them and how supposedly FI’s dad and cousin went in to pay for them and the prices were wrong. What he failed to mention was this was 3 months ago. So FI and I argue about it because I have been dealing with the tux place and getting things taken care of. So I tell FI today that I got it all taken care of and he is still crabby about it and I get pissy about him being crabby. Then as I am heading back to work he texts me about the tuxes and I tell him exactly how much each one is all that.
I get another text from him that says between the bachelor party and the tuxes he is really stressed and will be glad when this is all over with. Then says he wants to wait another 3 years to have a kid. That would be all well and good if he and I hadn’t already decided that I should stop my pill and get aflac. I am not paying for aflac for 3 more years if I don’t have to. I wouldn’t mind going back on my pill but we just had 2 “oops” moments last weekend. He even told his good friend who told his wife who told me that he was going home to get me knocked up.
He said he wants to get his car and motorcycle paid off first and be prepared. That’s fine. I get that. What if we are already pregnant? I can’t test till next week. It really kind of broke my heart because I don’t want to be 35 and pregnant. I don’t want 14 years between my oldest and youngest.
He says we will talk about it later. I don’t even want to see him right now I am so hurt. We are suppose to go to a wedding tomorrow, I don’t want to go. I just don’t even know what to do.
Post # 3
This is a converation for face to face only.
Post # 4
It’s likely just his financial stress talking. Instead of being mad and avoiding him, tell him you both need to have a sit down about having kids and what’s an acceptable goal for both of you. Communicate about this now before serious resentment sets in.
Post # 5
Yep, face-to-face conversation. It’d probably also help if you explain the increased risk of birth defects if you wait much longer.
Post # 6
First off i cannot believe he would text you something like that. Those should be face to face conversations. As for possibly being pregnant if you are or aren’t things will work out because you are in love and planning a wonderful wedding together. I know it might hurt for him to say those things after you already went off the pill and most likley are excited to see if you might be pregnant. But, if you are he will be happy. Trust me.
Post # 7
Absolutely – face to face is the way to go. I would just sit down and tell him that you need to talk and you just want to figure things out.
Post # 8
@roxy_angell13: I just feel like someone just punched me right in the stomach. I know the only reason he texted that to me is because he knew I would be upset and wanted to avoid a whole fight.
Post # 9
@KatyElle: I don’t know why he is so stressed financially, he just bought a stupid car to enter into stereo competitions and paid cash for it. He’s not hurting for money.
Post # 10
who does that? how could he bring that up in a text? I think you need to sit down and talk about it face to face, girls have their freak out moments because of wedding stress that might be what he is going through hopefully after a good talk things will be better