- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I will start by saying that this girl is not mentally stable, and I know that. She takes pills to keep herself in order and I’m to understand she hasn’t been taking them lately. I also knew something was up… but not what.
About a month ago, my best friend and Maid of Honour began aggressively avoiding me. I let it go for a while, because I knew she had some stuff going on… but since her sister recently dropped out of my bridal party (another fun story) and my MoH still had her day-of attire I needed back, I started trying harder after a couple weeks. My other bridesmaids and I messaged, called, and texted her like crazy… no answers. I figured I had done something to piss her off and she was avoiding me. I lost sleep over it – it haunted me. I didn’t know what I had done and would never know if she didn’t answer at least one of those teary voicemails.
Yesterday I was running errands and decided that this needed to end. I went to her place and spoke to her aunt. She said she was not home and didn’t know where I could find her, but she was moving to Saskatoon (across the country) this weekend.
I was floored. “Oh. She’s supposed to be in my wedding in three weeks.”
After I finished screaming and crying in the car, wondering what I had done to deserve this, I went to check her mom’s place for her. Apparently I had just missed her and her mom didn’t know where she could be. Cue waterworks again.
Somewhere during the day, she found out that I knew and blocked me on facebook and blocked my number. She also blocked the rest of the party and won’t answer any sneaky attempts to talk to her. So much for closure.
All I’d wanted from the get-go was an honest discussion about what was going on. I knew there was something big going on with her life, and had no clue why she wouldn’t open up to me. Now to find out that she almost moved across the country, without a second thought or the courtsey to at least say, “Hey, sorry, I can’t be in the bridal party anymore”… I am totally devastated. No other words for it.
I know this type of thing seems to happen a lot. Bridal parties do awful things all the time. I don’t even care that she’s not in the party anymore… in my last pathetic voicemail begging her to call me, I told her that she didn’t need to be in it anymore if she didn’t want to. I’m just so depressed I somehow lost a friend over all this, when I didn’t do anything.
In what universe do friends treat friends like this?
I just need a pat on the shoulder, and maybe some suggestions on what I can do to bounce back up and feel better. I have a shower tomorrow and I don’t want to go to that with all this bad energy. Thanks in advance, ladies. Sorry about the rant.