- 7 years ago
Hi everyone. I’m posting under an anonymous name. I am about 8 weeks pregnant, but the prognosis is not good and I need someone to talk to since my husband and I haven’t told anyone we are pregnant. I post on here somewhat regularly, but was too nervous to even announce my pregnancy here.
Basically, I went in for my 1st ultrasound at 7 weeks, excited. The baby was measured at 5 w 6 days, so about 8 days behind. There was a heartbeat, slow for 7 weeks, but normal for the 5 w 6 d measurement. My doc thought I might be off on my dates (I knew I wasn’t- I was charting and extremely regular) and asked me to come back in one or two weeks.
I picked one week, of course, because I was so nervous.
At 8 weeks, the baby measured 6 w 3 days. So over the course of a week, the baby only grew 4 days. That is within the error of the machine, but not looking good when the baby is now 11 days smaller than what I estimated off my period. Tnere is still a heartbeat, and a “very nice looking” egg yolk and sac, according to my doc. BUT given that the baby is 11 days behind, the doctor thinks a miscarriage is almost inevitable. I am going back in 10 days, just to be sure, but the doc said that spotting between now and then, and the start of a miscarriage, is very likely.
I am devastated. I never thought it would hit me this hard- I’m an absolute mess. I wanted this SO BAD.
My doc went over the options of a natural miscarriage, or a D&C. Pro’s of a D&C are that you can get it over with sooner, and start trying again sooner (after once cycle), and have less bleeding, but it is a bit of a painful procedure- they physically dilate your,cervix and the scrap inside- and there is a risk of infection. A natural one is, well, natural, but I think the bleeding might be a lot, it can take a long time, and you may still need a D&C if it doesn’t all clear out on it’s own.
My question is that as I read through the boards, I’ve seen a few ladies who have also miscarried. Do any of you have experience with either a natural miscarriage or D&C? I added a poll in case you don’t want to post under your name- I’d love to just know which one you had and how bad it was. Or if you have ANY advice, I will be forever grateful.