Post # 1
He doesn’t KNOW that it’s my dress. I’ve shown him about 100+ pictures of dresses and each time he gives a honest opinion with details and all about why he dislikes or likes it along with varying levels of like/dislike. So, of course I cherish his opinion. I haven’t told him that I bought the dress yet but I put a deposit down, showed him a picture of it, and he absolutely hates it.
I had planned to go up to the shoppe and get measured today and he wanted to come with me to the city (an hour drive). After finding out that he hated my dress so much I was hellbent to get back to the shoppe stat and pick out another gown. Imagine the wrench in the works when he said he wanted to come. He absolutely wants to keep the dress a secret until I walk down the aisle so I fibbed and told him I was getting measured for my gown and he couldn’t watch if he was going to be in the store.
It was insanely busy today but Marion, my consultant who helped me find the first gown, was an absolute gem and kept an eye out while helping find several new gowns to try on without my fiance seeing.
End result?? I found this gorgeous piece of work that is just my size and right in my price range!
Post # 3
How do you know he wont like this one also? It’s a shot in the dark.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry too much about what he thinks honestly, because he hasnt seen the dress ON you.
I did the same thing and my FI didn’t choose my dress from the options I had given him. I’m not too worried about it.
Post # 5
This is why I don’t think the guy should really have a say in the dress. I mean, he can suggest, but I am against showing him dress pictures. He doesn’t have a say in what I wear any other day, so why on the wedding day?
Post # 6
Can we see a picture of the original dress? I’m curious to see what style it is.
I agree- he can’t judge until he sees it ON you. Like how when we go shopping and something looks dreadful on the hanger, but awesome once we put it on.
Post # 7
To be honest, when he sees you he will not be thinking about the dress…he’s going to see how beautiful you look walking down the aisle as his wife!!
My mom told me that she’s never seen a bride’s dress look bad, because the bride is so glowing and beautiful on her wedding day.
My FI hates a certain type of dress and I ended up LOVING that style on me. I didn’t buy a dress like that, but I showed him what it looked like on me and he changed his mind!
Post # 8
@lochnessy: Don’t show him anymore pictures. They aren’t photos of you…he will love any dress that he sees YOU in!
Post # 9
From seeing my fiance look at wedding dresses, you’d think he hates ALL of them.
Post # 10
@lochnessy: CAn you post the first dress that your fiance didnt like?? curious to see the difference!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Guys are idiots. I can guarantee when he sees you on the big day he will LOVE IT. Stop showing him dresses!!!
Post # 12
I agree, stop showing him dresses, and by the time the wedding rolls arond he will have forgotten anyway. Don’t sweat it. I’m sure his mind will be on other things, and he will be nervous. He won’t throw a fit if he sees you in that dress.
Post # 13
go with you original dress you fell in love with!
Stock images look nothing like the actual dresses. I did the same thing with my FI but when I showed him me in the dress he loved it and commented how different it looked in real life from the photo.
He will love you in whatever you wear once he sees you all dressed up on your wedding day. And if he throws a fit about your dress, I think you should reconsider signing that marriage license.
Post # 14
you should do a search on here, there are many bees who’ve posted the same thing, but when the groom saw her he didnt even realize it was the same dress and loved it… guys are funny like that. when he sees you coming down that aisle, he wont care what you’re wearing, even the picky ones, you’d be so surprised. Even on say yes to the dress, the brides end up picking something that the groom didnt approve and at the end, they always say something like: I can’t believe that’s the same dress., I love it.. BUT-that being said, go with whatever dress you love (assuming it’s in the budget). good luck!
Post # 15
Yes please post original dress! I’m sure he’ll love whatever you walk down the aisle in. Guys have no clue sometimes! The second dress is gorgeous though- he has to love it! My FI wants to be kept in the dark about anything I’m wearing on wedding day- this is the best way to go imho!!
Post # 16
I forgot to specify that all the gowns I showed him that really meant anything to me were photos online and photos of the dresses I tried on. I showed him about 25 dresses that were of me in them. This is the picture I showed him. I didn’t tell him it was my dress and I’ve shown him dresses of every shape/style/color with me in them and this and the trumpet gowns were the ones he didn’t like. He felt like the bottom didn’t math well and the strap made me seem chunkier than I really am. Unfortunately we were so rushed during the random stealth dress find that I didn’t catch any shots of me in it but I got a gazillion compliments from the other patrons and I LOVED the way I looked along with the fact that I was able to fit perfectly into a size 10!
Here is the original dress: