Post # 1
My Dad didn’t approve of my “lifestyle” and that’s putting it mildly. He wasn’t going to be at the wedding and I thought I was OK with that. Tonight he had a heart attack and died almost soon after. He went quickly. I guess I figured we’d have time to work things out. I’m hurting right now and although I was extremely mad at my father for the way he treated me and expressed his hatred for all gays, I loved him on some level. On top of all that, if he hadn’t died, my parents would have gotten a divorce. I miss my father and all the good times we shared before I came out 4 years ago.
Post # 3
Oh no I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is so difficult especially since you weren’t in a great place with him before it happened. You are in my thoughts and we are here if you need to talk.
Post # 4
oh my goodness my heart goes out to you. i know you must be going through a really rough time right now. i hope you get all the support and love you need from your partner and family.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry about all the pain you’re feeling right now. 🙁 My only advice is to take the time to write your dad a letter, and get your feelings out there on paper. Something about the process of writing a letter is really helpful, even though he’ll never get to read it, it can be very healing and help you to work through your internal conflicts and come to some emotional resolutions. I wish you all the best as you grieve this loss over the next few months. Our thoughts are with you.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I am so sorry – that has to be insanely difficult. We’re always here for you if you need to talk! (HUGS)!
Post # 7
I am really sorry for your loss that is a really hard situation.
We are here to talk if you need us!
Post # 8
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, hun! That is never easy! I am very sorry for your loss- but keep those good memories in mind! They’ll stay with you forever!
Post # 9
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. I’m especially sorry that he passed away while the two of you had unfinished business. I hope you can take comfort in knowing that while he may not have agreed with your choices, I’m positive he still loved you as much as you loved him.
Post # 10
I am so so sorry for your loss. What a terrible situation. (((hugs)))
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss! Yours seems to be such a difficult situation. I also recently lost a family member unexpectedly, and it was so hard for me. Hold tight and always remember the good times. That will help get you through.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Post # 13
I am really sorry for your loss, I bet your dad loved you very much and he probably wanted to make amends. Its the stupid pride that keeps people apart. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry, Rosie. Whether or not he approved of your lifestyle choices, I am certain that your dad still truly loved you. If he didn’t love you, your choices wouldn’t have upset him (i.e. he wouldn’t have cared what you did), if that makes sense.
I hope your wedding can incorporate an element of honoring him, because it’s obvious how much you loved him as well!
Post # 15
I’m so sorry you are having to go through this painful loss. I’ll say a prayer for you and hope that you can feel some peace. This must be incredibly difficult.
Post # 16
all of the other bees have offered such great advice so I am here with ((HUGS))… feel free to come here and mourn or if you just want a break from the “real world”