(Closed) Devorse. who gets what?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

if they don’t have a prenup, she may be entitled to half the house. 


they can sell the house and split the proceeds or if he wants the house, he can buy her out or if she wants the house, she will have to buy him out.


Post # 4
2954 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@suez:  Unfortunetly this is where it is going to get really messy. I’m sure she is not going to walk away without some kind of settlement. 

Post # 5
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It totally depends on the rules in your state/province.

In my province the “family home” goes to whichever parent has custody of the kids.  He/she has the option to hold onto it until the last child is 18 and then it’s sold and profits are split.  Or if it’s sold before that, profits are split in half and one has to buy the other out.

If there are no children, it’s sold and profit is split, or one has to buy the other’s half out.

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well, unfortunately for your BIL it really doesn’t matter who your family thinks should get the home, it’s a legal matter so hopefully he has a good lawyer who can help him out with that.

Post # 7
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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Post # 8
4496 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly it doesn’t matter what your family thinks, its up to the law. Everyone’s family is going to think that their own relative should come out on top in a divorce, thats a natural, subjective opinion. Her family probably thinks the same thing about her getting the house.

Post # 9
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you are in my state or another marital property state, and if there is no prenup, then she is entitled to half the house.  So they sell and each gets half the proceeds, or if BIL wants it, he has to pay her for her half.

It doesn’t sound like an amacable split, so I’m guessing she won’t just agree to give him the house.  My Fiance and his ex-wife split on friendly terms, and because he had provided all the income during their marriage as well as putting her through vet school, they together agreed on a non-50/50 split.  But if they weren’t amacable, she’d have gotten 1/2 of everything because of the marital property state laws.

Post # 10
8222 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d suggest a good lawyer.

Post # 12
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@distracts:  thank you! I was waiting for someone to say that!

Post # 13
2759 posts
Sugar bee

Come on, Bees. There is NO need to make fun of the OP for her spelling. Not everyone has a firm grasp of the English language – she needs real advice, so if you can’t offer any opinions or advice, why not move on to another thread?

OP – I agree with PPs, it’ll depend on the existence of a prenup and if that’s not something they have then it will depend on the laws of whatever country and/or state or province in while your brother in law and his wife live.

Post # 14
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissCalifornia:  +1 — I had the same thought. It’s just needlessly rude.

Post # 15
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP, did your BILs father buy the house and gift it to them? Or is it still in his name?  If he gifted it to him, was it before they got married?  If so, laws are often different for property owned before marriage. 

Post # 16
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

How immature and rude to make fun of someone for their spelling. That is high school behavior. Rip me apart if you want to but I am 100% correct.

Now in my state a marriage is viewed as a legit contract. Whomever voids out that contract loses the assets. If he can prove that she cheated, that would be great. It would prove that she herself broke that contract. But as others have said, look into the laws in your state.

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