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This may be a bit long, but I really just need to vent. For those who don't know, my husband and I just moved to the UK from St. Louis for the military and this is the first time we are living together after being LD for 2 years. Really, it's been mostly fine and we've been getting along well but this issue that I'm going to talk about is the one that keeps popping up and I'm frustrated.

This is the second day in a row that DH has come home from work in a bad mood and proceeded to act like a freaking child. He pouting, banging things around, won't talk to me and is now avoiding me. I think he's pissed off because I'm at home all day and he's working. He gets in moods like this sometimes and I just want to smack him and yell at him to grow the eff up.

Well, jerk, I just moved to another country 3 weeks ago (for him, I might add) and I have no transportation at the moment. I TOLD him that I would be getting a job as soon as we bought me a car. I quit my job to come here!

Yesterday, he was mad because I had his car because I needed to run some errands. Well, he threw a fit because I went home and napped for an hour before I went and got him from work. He wanted me to give him the car at lunch time but I wasn't done with what I was doing yet and he got all pissy that "I just went home and slept instead of giving him his car". I'm pregnant, dude, sometimes I just fall asleep and can't help it.

He expects me to do absolutely 100% of the housework while I'm not working. I've told him multiple times already that I don't mind doing it, but I expect him to be adult enough to at least clean up after himself a bit. Meaning a) take his dishes to the sink b)not leave trash everywhere c)throw his clothes in the hamper. That's IT. Apparently, that's too much work for him since he works all day. And, he's a SLOB. He leaves dirty dishes and food trash all over the place for days, his clothes stay on the floor wherever he happens to take them off at night, our bathroom sink is full of nastiness from him shaving... UGH. I don't really think I'm asking that much here. Be an adult and pick up after yourself a bit.

I never wanted to be a housewife. I want a job, a car, friends and a life. I feel like a shut-in in the house and I HATE it. I don't really know anyone here yet, I'm stuck in the house, I'm homesick because I've never lived more than a half hour away from my family before and I miss them, I'm pregnant, not feeling well and constantly exhausted and the last thing I need is his fucking childish attitude!

/rant

Goddamnit, I need a drink.... and I can't have one. :( Sorry for a bit of language.

Thanks guys. Glad to know I'm not just being unreasonable. As of now, he's still downstairs and I'm upstairs in the bedroom because, frankly, I just don't feel like dealing with it right now. I'm just mentally exhausted. I don't even want to go downstairs and get myself some dinner.

We do need to sit down an have a calm discussion about this. We had a fight about it last week and nothing has changed. :( I have a feeling that it's honestly not going to either. His dad was a hoarder and was a giant slob as well and DH was raised by him. The house he grew up in was definitely a bachelor pad. He has gotten a lot better with his cleanliness issues since joining the military, but he is still a slob. I think his main problem is just pure laziness. He just doesn't feel like doing it. If I ask him to do something, I'm automatically nagging too. I asked him to bring his dishes downstairs off of his nightstand and he got all pissy. He told me that me asking him to do something automatically makes him not want to do it. I mean, c'mon. 

I excuse a little moodiness because his father passed away just 2 months ago. He is still grieving for him because they were very close, but it's no excuse to be a jerk.