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My husband didn't really come to the appointments beyond the first "You're definitely pregnant" and then the ultrasounds. I didn't really want him there while they rummaged around, and he didn't have many questions because I covered everything. I was able to relax more being there by myself.
My husband has attended every appt. He really wants to be a part of it every step of the way. It wasn't awkward for us during any of the exams, even the pelvic ones. If he's going to be there for the labor I think this is a good warm up. If something went wrong I couldn't imagine being there by myself.
My DH came to the first one (with our family doctor), and the ultrasounds, he hasn't been able to make it to any other due to work commitments. He does want to meet our OB eventually, so he is going to try to make one of the next appointments.
He came, and has come to everyone, except one which was just a reg appt (listen to heart, pee in a cup, blood pressure, etc)
My husband came to every appointment except one when his best friend was defending for his PhD. He loved going, hearing the heartbeat, and seeing the u/s. Let him into the room if he wants to be there. There's nothing like hearing the baby's heartbeat or seeing the baby on the u/s for the first time.
My DH came to almost all appointments. I like that he's there so he can ask all questions he wants. At first, I'm pretty sure he only came because he thought it would make me happy, but the more we're approaching the due date, the more I feel like he wants to be there too. He gets all excited about hearing the baby's heart and about the ultrasounds. Now that we had all our prenatal classes and he knows so many details about labor and stuff, he can actually understand the tests that are done and be all excited that I'm "normal".
My husband has come to one appointment and the anatomy u/s. He didn't have much to say at the appointment but he came in and just sat in the corner. It was nice for him to meet the doctor and hear the HB. I didn't have any internal stuff that day but I don't think it'd be weird if I did. I'm not planning on him coming to any more appointments, just so he doesn't have to miss work, and because it's not really necessary (unless of course anything comes up/goes wrong, then he'd come for support).
@JewishBride: My first appointment I didn't get poked and prodded at all. They just gave me a pee test and a LOT of helpful information. The nurse spent almost an hour going over EVERYTHING with us, like what to expect in the next couple months. It would have been a mega bummer if hubby missed that! I also got an ultrasound at my first appointment.
He has come to every single one of my appointments. At each one there has been something he wouldn't have wanted to miss!
That is the date of my appointment too!
For our first baby together my husband came to all of the appointments. We had some complications so he started going with me in the begining just in case we got bad news. Then it turns out my MD use to be a ciil engineer and so is my husband so like half of our apointment would be the two of them chatting:) This time around he will probably go to the first appointment and then the ultrasounds. I don't think he will go to all of them though.
My husband always comes in the room with me that way he could ask his questions too, he was there when I had a pelvic exam and pap smear, it didnt bother me or him, in the end he is gonna be there when the baby comes out so its no big deal to us
I didn't ask my husband not to come or anything, it was just easier to go on my own and that's how I preferred it. He tends to talk a lot when he gets nervous and he hates doctor's offices. I had a completely normal healthy pregnancy and didn't need him there for support. The ultrasounds were fun for us together and he caught her when I gave birth. Every couple is different :)
My appts were split up first dating ultrasound then check up the next day. My husband came to the dating ultrasound but not the check up when all the poking and prodding happened. ;)
He didn't come to the one after that because I didn't feel it was necessary and with schedule I didn't want both of us to have to take time off for it.
He wasn't going to come to the next one when we heard the heartbeat but he decided last minute to come. I was really happy he did and as was he because he heard the heartbeat!
He will be coming to the next one for the anatomy scan. :)
Not sure about the ones afterwards but I'm thinking yes because they are early enough and winter will be here so I don't think he would want me to wait for the bus when it's bad weather.
I've had to have a few intravaginal ultrasounds and sonograms during my fertility workup, and DH came in for all of them except the HSG. For me, it wasn't a big deal for him to be in there as my doc (and medical student!) was poking around. He loved seeing the procedures and even asked the doc about measurements and to clarify which were my ovaries and follicles. He's seen it all before ;) I loved having him there as I was kind of shell-shocked during the whole process and scared of what they would find.
My husband hasn't been to any yet, but is planning on coming to the anatomy scan. He would have come to the first appt had I known they'd do a quick u/s, but I didn't know.
Most of the appointments so far are relatively uneventful; I pee in a cup, they take my weight and blood pressure, and listen for a heartbeat. I'm in the room for less than 5 minutes. I just don't think it's worth it for him to have to move his work schedule around and I don't feel like I need support or anything.But he is definetly coming to the rest of my ultrasounds. Very similar to you, @KatyElle.
My husband came to all my initial appointments and sonograms. He's been in the room while they have poked around - I don't think it is a big deal. It's not like he hasn't seen my vagina before! ;-)
And, as my pregnancy has progressed I have found that modesty has gone out the window. Especially as I realized that once in labor there is no chance of modesty.
@bree72: Ha glad I'm not the only one. Obviously it's not about modesty (he had a front row seat while we were making the baby...) I just like to get in, get the info and go home. Now that I'm pregnant again it will be the exact same way unless there are unexpected complications.
@MrsMeNow: yay! My husband is going into civil engineering...I just thought that was cool:)
I just realized that my dr. office doesn't confirm pregnancy (just checks your levels) and I'll be about 9 weeks so they'll be doing an u/s, and heartbeat stuff so I think my dh should definitely come. I thought it was just going to be a "pee in this cup and leave" type appointment so I didn't really think it was necessary. Like a lot of you said, it's kind of practice for the birth so it's not a big deal:)
DH has come to all but the first one (nurse appt where I peed and answered a lot of questions). I've found it helpful for him to be there because my OB is always running late and it's nice to have someone in the room to chat with/calm me down when I get irritated.
And the OB gives me lots of information about various test options (cystic fibrosis, quad screen, etc.) so it's nice to look over it together with her, ask our questions and make a decision right then.
I probably won't ask him to go to the appointments at the end, when I have to go in once a week for her to check my cervix. That would just be too much schedule-rearranging.
I'm not pregnant nor have I had a child, but I would probably only ask FI to come for ultrasounds or if I have an emergency appointment of some kind.
My husband comes to my ultrasound appts. I don't really see a need for him to be at the other appointments.
Does he want to be there? If this is your first one, maybe it would be worth it to go together and see how it goes. You may decide together that he doesn't want/need to be there in the future, or you may realize that it's a really great thing to have him there. 
Good luck with your appointment! We're not TTC quite yet, so I live vicariously through all of you ladies with your BFPs and your prenatal appointments and picking things out for the nursery... 
My fiance never missed an appt tho for the first time they checked me out, down there, he was in the waiting room but my mom was in there since I was 17. But he was in the room for every other appt!
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So my first doctor's appt. is dec. 20th! So excited!
Did your husband go in the room with you? I've been to my obgyn before for infertility stuff and I felt more comfortable with my dh in the waiting room (I hope that's not weird). I just don't know what it's going to be like for us when I'm getting poked and prodded. Did your dh just sit in the corner and let you do all the talking with the doc? Mine is foreign, so the communication is pretty limited anyway and I just don't want to feel awkward. What did you ladies do?