- Miss Sorbet
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
[Sorry that I got long-winded!]
DH and I have been married for 5 months now, and we are settling into a routine that I’m not particularly fond of. I feel like I never see him!
I only work 3 days a week, in which I’m gone from 6:30 AM to 7 PM. DH works 5 days a week and is supposed to get off work at 3:30 PM, but lately he has been working late almost every single day. It’s not because he has a ton of pressing work to do, he just likes to get ahead (which is great! He has a wonderful work ethic, but I’m starting to miss him!). When he works late he’ll get off around 7 or 8 PM. He has also started working many weekends (at his discretion, by choice).
On top of THAT – he plays basketball with a group of friends 2 days a week, in which he gets home at 10 PM, and often goes to the gym on other evenings. These days I don’t see him at all until I’m going to bed. Not to mention that he’s out of town 1-2 weeks a month.
I want him to be able to do these things, because they are things that he loves. But today was my day off and I just ate dinner alone like I do so often now, I haven’t seen another human all day and I’m feeling kind of sad.
A part of me feels insecure and starts to think that he doesn’t WANT to spend time with me since all of the things he does are by choice, including working late. However, when we are together, everything is great…so maybe this is just what WORKS for him :(. I feel bad because he’s always in such a great mood and enjoys always being on the go, and I don’t want to drag him down by wanting him to be home with me all the time lol.
Also, I work as a nanny to an infant so I have VERY little adult interaction, whereas he has a ton. I know this feeds into my slight loneliness.
Is this something that I should try to adjust to? It doesn’t seem to be taking a toll on our relationship, and he’s definitely happy, so I’m wondering if I should just “deal with it,” more or less.