Post # 1
DH has been unwell on and off for the past few months. He has been getting recurring tonsilitis and strep throat. With that, on top of his promotion, finishing his masters and his training for his bodybuilding competition our sex life has been non existant.
When he would want to do it, I wouldn’t (example- Have my period, feel sick in the stomach, etc). I don’t usually have a very high sex drive and neither does he, we are once a week kind of people and that suits me just fine.. but I need to have it once a week!!!
It hasn’t bothered me too much up until these past few weeks. I NEED to have sex. I am having thoughts about other men and wondering what they are like in bed, when a sex scene comes on the TV I get jealous of the woman.. it is consuming me!
Right now DH is at home, in bed with a fever and tonsils you can see from space. He also has a massive assignment due in 4 days which he hasn’t started because he has been so unwell. I don’t think the opportunity for sex will present itself until atleast Wednesday next week, and even then usually on a weeknight we are so exhausted we just cuddle and talk.
I know I need to be supportive right now but it really sucks!!!
Post # 3
First off, it is normal to wonder about other men in bed. Wondering vs acting are two different things. You can wander mentally, but if you act on it, that’s another story.
Why don’t you surprise your husband? When he is feeling better, just pounce him and be like, “I am woman, hear me roar.” I know my husband gets all sort of giddy when I do things like that for him. I don’t have to be “in the mood” to enjoy sex with him. I love being intimate with him, close to him, and so whether or not I’m in the mood, we’ll have sex.
If you NEED it, then take it. Do something saucy or sexy or generally naughty. Have him come home to find you naked on the couch or something.
Post # 4
At this point, I don’t think being exhausted should stop you. Even if it’s a quick 5 minute round, it needs to happen. Make it happen! Once he’s not sick and in bed you need to just initiate and don’t take no for an answer! Even if you’re tired you’ll wake up rather quickly!
Post # 5
You have been by his side through all of this, but once he is better just pounce! He will love because it is a stress reliever and it will make him and you feel a lot better
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Go read 50 shades of grey in the bathtub hahahaha, and hopefully in 4 days he’ll feel well enough