DH doesn't think we need a dining room set :(

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Aquaria:  let the compromise begin LOL. I moved into my husbands house after our wedding and we just turned our dining room into an office :/ We ended up giving our table away to a friend.  I wasn’t thrilled about this because even though we live in the stix far from my family  I was sure they’d be spending a holiday or two at our house and thought we may need the extra dining space. So to compromise, my husband surprised me with a big ass dining table for the kitchen.  keep checking craigslist we were prepared to list our table for free if noone we knew wanted it. maybe you’ll get lucky! 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it all depends on what your priorities are. Do you have plans to entertain a lot? If so are they informal gatherings or are you planning hosting holidays?

My DH is pretty traditional in the “house setup” and he’s very “type A” when it comes to things being neat, tidy, and presentable. Because of this he would NEVER turn a dining room (which is essentially out on display) and make it a room like an office or such.

For us, we entertain a lot. We always have people in town staying with us, or having friends over for dinner, and we host the holidays. A dining room is a must for us – we use it a lot. That being said, in our old house we had a living/dining room combined in one big great room. We were able to fit a large dining room table, comfortably, and we had no formal dining room.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

if you don’t have a kitchen table, then you need a dining room table. where would you eat without a table to eat at?

a china cabinet isn’t a must, though. that’s just my opinion.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Aquaria:  Yes. The only thing that worked was having guests over and letting them rag on my DH for being too stubborn to buy furniture. The next time we were making plans to host, he insisted we go buy a table big enough for everyone. We got one that adjusts so it doesn’t take up too much space when it’s just the two of us. It seats a max of 8, before we were using a table so small that my husband now uses it as his desk. There’s hope for you!

It could be that he’ll just need to see how much more space you have and how the current amount of furniture just won’t be enough. It took my husband a few weeks of living with lots of empty space before he realized we’d need some furniture to make the rooms more comfortable and usable. I wanted one of the bedrooms to be set up as a guest room right away, but I had to wait for him to get tired of sitting in a campchair in it before he was ready to go out and buy a comfortable sofa sleeper. 

I also think a china cabinent is unncessary and sort of old school when it comes to decorating. We have some open shelving in our dining room to store pretty serving plates and bottles of wine, a lot cheaper and cleaner looking than a china cabinet. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’thave to limit yourself to a “set”. You can also get mix and match pieces, which are far more interesting anyhow.

We have a solid wood table that extends on each end and clear acrylic chairs.

DINING TABLE

Remember to check the Free section first. Here’s one example on Craigslist right now.

 

Also use AdHuntr to do your search. It shows all Craigslist sites at one time. You can narrow down the results by region.

 

 

A little paint and re-upholstering could totally transform this set.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband doesn’t want to decorate the walls AT ALL or have a nice, normal home.  Every space is used for storage.  Sigh.  I don’t understand why he’s okay with things like this!!!

You should definitely have a dining room set.  It doesn’t have to be wicked expensive — just something where you can have people over for dinner.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The other nice thing about a dining room table is that when you do have work to do, you can really spread out all your stuff on it.  Our dining room table is frequent covered with crap, and I definitely put my laptop on it when I have work to do.  But then if you’re having company, you can clean up and have a place to sit and eat.  Maybe you can sell it to him like that – you can do work on a dining room table but you can’t have a dinner party in your office.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Also, we got an old table from my parents and some unfinished wooden chairs from a warehouse, then I sanded the table and stained everything to match.  It took a few days of manual labor, but this is a set that probably would’ve cost like $1000 and we spent $300 on chairs, borrowed a sander, and only spent $30 on stain and brushes.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Gotta love men!

Mine thinks that the only table we need in our house is the coffee table. He sees nothing wrong with a family sitting down to dinner at a coffee table. (Brain exploding noise)

Ahem.

Anyway, I looked at Craigslist for tables, and they were all REALLY expensive or tragically outdated. So we actually got a table from Ikea that can seat between 4 and 12. Bless those Sweedes!

It was only like $200! And it is HEAVY. Then we got nice chairs (Just 4 to start with). So when we’re ready to upgrade to a “solid wood” table (as opposed to our Ikea composite), we can keep our nice chairs! And the bill won’t be as shocking.

We also got our China cabinet at Ikea. It’s a $25 bookcase with $40 glass doors and $20 glass shelving! It displays our nice crystal/silver very well and at $85 I really can’t complain!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

$500 is not much for all of that so I dont think it’s unreasonable!  My DH thinks I need to get every piece of furniture off of Craigslist..and I have to roll my eyes at him.  He thinks it’s crazy to spend more than $100 on a piece of furniture and thought it was crazy I spent $350 on our stroller.  I don’t mind looking on Craigslist but it can be really hard when you are picky or need items to match a certain look.

You definitely need a dining room set!  If you’re like me you need a buffet/china cabinet!  I have a lot of serving pieces and china and I need somewhere to put it.  Along with my full set of red, white, martini, and champagne glasses.

I really wanted this $1500 buffet and then later to get the matching hutch when I had the room but he threw a fit.  I’d rather spend more money on something nice that will last forever than on something cheap I will have to replace.  I did compromise and bought an nice cheaper buffet for $400 from World Market but I will still need a full buffet/hutch eventually.  I’m just planning on repurposing the one I bought (it is really cute) to either an entry way or bar area.  It’s cute but doesn’t have enough storage space and no matching hutch for a dining room.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d be patient.  You have time to make these purchases.  So settle into the home, use it for a little bit, then bring it up again later (after hosting people).  You don’t have to buy everything at once.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are taking our time at furnishing our house after moving in 1.5 years ago. I still have 4 rooms that are either unfurnished or partially furnished. 

I have one thing to say about buying furniture that has made me take my time; furniture is easy to collect, but hard to get rid of.  Be sure everything you bring in your house is something you want.

We took a year to get our table, which I found on deep sale at a nice furniture shop for $600.  I am so glad I waited as it is absolutely perfect.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Check out estate sales!  I got an AMAZING table and chairs for $250.  I swapped the fabric on the chairs to match our house and it’s beautiful.  We get compliments often.

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