Post # 1
So I was talking to Dh about our honeymoon plans, we dont want something extravagant as we dont want to spend alot of money. I suggested that we could stay in a hostel(private room) and he freaked out and started to give me a “speech( I am an adult, not a baby) about that being dangerous etc etc etc. I know we’re very different in lots of things, but it really anoys me that he never wants to take any risks. I dont see the big deal on stay on a hostel. I belief if something will happen to someone it will happen anywhere, a resort, hotel, even in your own house. He is always being like this. Always find something wrong with things, Dont like to take “risks” with money, dont like to try to new things. My dream honeymoon will be being able to go somewere and enjoy places like a local, not staying all day in a resort…..I dont want a honeymoon were I could not enjoy myself.
Post # 3
you don’t have to stay in a hostel to experience the local places, just because you don’t want a resort. you can stay in a hotel too, with the right location. can you compromise?
Post # 4
Hostels are more dangerous than hotels. You are generally sharing a room of many bunk beds with lots of other people (strangers) and you have no idea how they will behave or what they will do.
Plus, hostels are usually twin beds. Do you want to spend your honeymoon sleeping in separate beds????????
Post # 5
@brokeninnj: Hostels… even if you can get a private room, you can’t really leave your stuff there. You’ll have to pack all your stuff in a duffel/backpack and carry it throughout the day with you. There’s no security whatsoever for you or your belongings. Plus there are no standards for cleanliness at all… I know hotels aren’t the best, but you’re taking many more risks with hostels as far as sanitation goes (I’m a germaphobe). No idea when those sheets have been changed.
Why would you want to stay in a hostel on your honeymoon? I’m guessing you’re not planning on spending much time in the room…?
Can you NOT stay in a hotel…?
My fiance dares not go to Mexico or really anywhere in South America. I’d love to see the Mayan ruins… but he’s convinced we’ll be mugged or killed. Basically anywhere on a Western itinerary cruise (Labadee, Dominican Republic, Mexico…) he doesn’t want any part of any of it even when we’re not even staying in a hotel on actual land. He’s even wary of Jamaica. So I understand your frustration somewhat.
Post # 6
Dude, what hostels are you all staying at? It must really depend on where you go. I traveled through Europe (France, Germany, and Switzerland) and stayed in hostels and they were prefectly fine. They weren’t dangerous and only 1 of the 5 we stayed at had questionable bathrooms. The rest were VERY clean. You do get fresh linens at each place and usually clean towels (sometimes they charge extra for towels). It was pretty much like living in a college dorm.
You can also get private rooms and some even have their own private bathrooms (of course you pay more for that). I didn’t have to carry my stuff around all day. When we had a private room, we just locked our stuff in there, otherwise we either locked everything up in a locker at the hostel or left it in the hostel check room, which is also locked (we did keep our valuables on us though).
Post # 7
I doubt I could be afraid of hostels after going through all of college in dormitories… I knew the filth I was sleeping on, in that case. Still had to make it work.
Post # 8
@RunsWithBears: I stayed in a hostel in Switzerland, my own private room, while I was searching for an apt. It was fine!
So yeah, to the OP, it really depends on the hostel and the country. It’s your honeymoon though, do you really want to stay in a hostel where you have to lock up your stuff and share a bathroom with other people? I don’t think it has to be dangerous, per se, but you won’t have as much privacy or even basic luxuries as you would at a hotel. You might also want to look into renting someone’s apartment, there are a bunch of sites where you can do that for cheaper than a hotel.
Post # 9
Sounds like watches too many horror films 😉
I can relate to the way you want your honeymoon to be – I’m the same way! I would rather stay local and explore/really get a feel of the place. I can’t stand all inclusive resorts. I hope you can come to a compromise!
Post # 10
@brokeninnj: what is hostel?
Post # 11
@mariegerbasi: low cost accomodation, usually cheaper than a hotel. Sometimes you have to share bathroom with other guests. there are lots of hostels over the world.
Post # 12
It’s your honeymoon. Splurge on something nice. It’s a special occasion!
No way would I want to be in a dormitory on a bunk bed for my honeymoon, and while I’m sure there’s many hostels out there that are quite nice, there’s also many where you’ll have no privacy and strangers trying to steal your stuff.
You can enjoy yourself without staying at a Hostel. In fact, in a hostel, you won’t meet any locals, only tourists on budgets, so the argument that you can’t enjoy yourself in a hotel because you’re cut off from the locals doesn’t hold water.
Post # 13
Personally, I am a worry wart. I would not be comfortable staying at a hostel. MAYBE if we booked a night in a nice hotel, we could go to various hosteld to check them out, but at the end of the day I will not stay somewhere I am not comfortable in.
I’m sure your husband is not proud of his paranoia and I suggest you give him a break. I am germaphobic, claustrophobic, and I constantly live in some degree of anxiety/fear. I am not happy I am like this, and I really can’t help it. I feel for you wanting to have an exciting honeymoon, but surley there is a middle ground between 5 star luxury resort and hostel.
Post # 14
I’m not afraid of hostels. But I am disgusted by the idea. I like me some 5 star hotels! Perhaps that’s his major reason?
Post # 15
It seems like there is a lot of room in the middle here for both of you to find a honeymoon you would be happy with. FWIW, I’m with your FI on this one. Saying that something can happen anywhere so there’s no point in trying to minimize your risks is pretty faulty logic.
Post # 16
Lots of misconceptions in this thread. I’ve stayed in *a lot* of hostels. Hostels have ratings websites, just like hotels have–so you can find the nicer hostels. I generally stayed in shared rooms when traveling, but I’ve also treated myself to private rooms when traveling solo–when I just want some privacy for a while. If you read reviews, it’s easy to find cheap (and of course, basic), but very clean places. They usually have free breakfast included, clean bathrooms (a private room will usually also have a private bathroom) and a kitchen you can use to cook.
I’ve stayed in hostels in Mexico, Guatemala, Costa Rica, Argentina, Uruguay,all over western Europe, and in India. I haven’t had a bad experience yet.
Never had anything stolen (I always leave my clothes and shoes, but take any cameras, electronics, etc)–they also provide lockers for stuff, never gotten bedbugs, never had weird roomates–
And again, YES, there are hostels with private rooms.
I went on a trip with my husband to Veracruz, Papantla, and Xalapa (all in Mexico), and we stayed in private rooms and had a wonderful time–for cheap! I recommend Hostelworld.com for booking hostels. Good reviews there.