Post # 1
When we were picking out erings for me, there were two top contenders – one that is more traditional and one that is technically a cocktail ring. We loved them both but we decided to go with the more traditional looking one. However, my Darling Husband surprised me by gifting me the other one as a wedding gift. As it is a cocktail ring, it is rather elaborate looking and a statement piece. Both pieces are made with diamonds.
I’ve been hesitant to wear it because we have some ladies in waiting (especially SIL) around us and some engaged/married friends with SOs that are not as financially well-off as my Darling Husband. This is an issue as some of the ladies in waiting are waiting because their SOs are trying to save up for a ring and some of the engaged/married ladies have admitted to us in private that they are not happy with their rings.
I’m concerned it may cause uncomfortable feelings or lead to awkward questions/drama. Darling Husband has said if anyone asks, I can just say it is a family heirloom, gifted to me as a wedding gift, rather than it being from him. If I do wear it, I would not be so “tacky” as to flaunt it and be like “Look at me!”, though being it is a statement piece, it is hard to downplay. However, he had to save up for this ring for me and it was definitely not chump change for him. He is generally careful with money and we don’t want people to perceive us as having more than we really do.
What would you ladies do? Should I just wear it and not care about what people might think? Should I wear it and lie? Should I just wear it around people we don’t know? Should I wear it only around people that are more financially well-off?
Post # 3
Since it’s a cocktail type ring I would wear it when the occasion/outfit fits. So not every day, but it also wouldn’t matter who I was around either. If it fit my outfit I’d wear it.
Post # 4
Why don’t you just wear it and not lie about it? It’s nobody’s business but your own.
There came a time in my life, not too long ago, when I realized that nobody else’s opinion matters more to me than my own opinion does. That was a very liberating moment!! Try it. 😉
Post # 5
If you don’t feel comfortable wearing it all of the time; I would wear it on special occasions or when you go out on dates with your Darling Husband.
Post # 6
Wear it and don’t lie about it. No one else’s opinion matters and no matter what you do, someone will criticize you for it. Do what makes you happy!
My husband just recently bought me an upgraded wedding set and a peridot and diamond RHR within weeks of each other. I wear them proudly and don’t care what others think!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t hide a gift from your Darling Husband because there are people who would be jealous. You will always have jealous people out there, you can’t control it. I think you should be able to enjoy your gifts still.
Post # 8
First of all, I think you should post pictures to help us decide. : )
Post # 9
@lilbluebird: i would wear it whenever i felt like it.
btw, you can’t tempt me with the description of this ring and not show a pic. i would love to see it, please. do you have a pic??
Post # 10
@mypinkshoes: Agree we need a picture!
And I personally wouldn’t wear any cocktail ring all the time, I would wear it for special occasions that warrent being more dressy. You have nothing to be ashamed of! Wear it with pride and if anyone asks I would give your hubby the credit for buying you a sweet wedding present.
Post # 11
Truthfully, I would love to wear it all the time as a RHR! Though it is technically a cocktail ring, we originally spotted it as a creative ering in one of the bridal magazines. As soon as I saw it, I showed it to him and it was one of the first erings he actually really liked. For a really long time after that, it was our only contender for an ering, though obviously we continued to shop for another more traditional one.
The major reason why we wanted to lie is because we didn’t want to make others feel bad that they are trying to come up with the money for a ring or that they received a smaller-than-they-would-like ring and here we are with two.
Post # 12
WEAR IT! Seriously. Who cares what they think? Yeah, you’re an incredibly lucky lady that you are well off. Doesn’t mean you have to hide who you are and what you have for the sake of their lives. If you bought a Porsche would you park it 3 blocks from their house and walk therest of the way simply to spare their feelings? No. If they can’t deal with the fact that you’re just in a different place than they are then they have some serious growing up to do.
By The Way,flaunting would really only be if you shook the 2nd ring in their faces and bragged about how lucky you were or used conversations as excuses to talk about all your rings. Simply owning and enjoying your own property doesn’t consistute flaunting and you shouldn’t have to lie about a single thing. If anything, as your friends, they should simply be happy for you.
Post # 13
Enjoy the ring and wear it when you want to 🙂 It’s none of anybody’s business!
I was wearing a stand in ring for my DH’s family and work so it would not look too showy. Apparently, they were still talking behind my back. I would not take into consideration someone else’s financial situation. They make their choices in life, you make yours.
Please post a pic 🙂
Post # 14
This is the picture of the new ring – sort of. Darling Husband had it replicated with some very slight modifications, including a slightly larger Ring Bearer “center”. (cocktail ring) I wear a size 5, so it doesn’t take much to make the stones look gigantic.
My ering is a 1.06 ct square cushion in a micropave halo with a 3/4 eternity band (1.8 mm).
Post # 15
Wear it when u want and don’t elaborate.
Post # 16
I’d wear it all the time as a right hand ring and wouldn’t lie about it. It was a sweet gift from your Darling Husband and you should be proud of it!