DH going on a cruise, without me. Can't help but feel a little hurt..

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mallorey:  If you are tight financially, how did he justify spending $1500 to you?

Post # 4
527 posts
Busy bee
  • This would not fly with me for a bunch of reasons!

Your mom needs surgery! He should be there for moral support!

7 days?? While you work??

During your anniversary week??

You guys can’t really afford it?


No. Sometimes, our men need to compromise too.

Post # 5
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Did you ask him how he would feel if the situation were reversed?


Post # 6
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

mallorey:  He’s pulling overtime every day… and has been now for two weeks. Working double shifts every day to pay for it. <br /><br />Why hasn’t he been doing this to take care of you guys’ financial problems!!?  Is he aware of those problems?  Sometimes when we wives do the budgeting the guys aren’t as aware (or worried) as they should be!

Post # 8
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

mchitt329:  Exactly…or why isn’t he doing overtime every day until a cruise for BOTH of them can be afforded?

Post # 9
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

At first I was going to tell you that it’s really not a big deal. But then I read that your mom would be having surgery.

No way, no how would my FI have left me alone if my own mom was having surgery. He would have stayed with me and supported me even if that meant he had to miss a cruise.

As a matter of fact, my mom had surgery 3 days after he proposed and he came with me and sat with me and my family while we waited for Mom’s minor knee surgery to be over.

That support was invaluable to me.

Post # 10
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

mallorey:  Yikes.  I think you’re financially smart, he shouldn’t be blowing $1500 if your savings account isn’t in the place you two like it to be.  Funny how he’s working harder for the vacation but not to make you guys more stable 🙁

Post # 12
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If my husband did that, I suspect he would not be my husband for very long.  Wow, I am so sorry~!

Post # 15
560 posts
Busy bee

mallorey:  You’ll feel better about it knowing you’re helping your mom. 

I guess he thinks of it as his pleasure money, because he does overtime?

It doesn’t sound ideal, but at least you’re both with your families.

His family will definitely understand your situation and if it worries you, then the next time you see them, you can explain.

I hope you find some lovely things to do in the time he is away. Those things don’t need to be expensive if you are budgeting but don’t feel bad about doing something nice for yourself. He clearly has no issue with that. Especially on your anniversary, I mean he would have bought you a present right? Tell him you picked one out for yourself 😉

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