(Closed) DH in Nesting Overdrive :(

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you looked around for any moms groups locally or expecting groups? There has got to be something like that you could look into. What about neighbors? When I moved to our new neighborhood, I met all the neighbors and started spending time with them (they are all at least 10 years older than us it seems). The majority of my friends left after college, or are too busy to hang out, so I tend to be on my own.

You really need to talk to him to workout a timeline to complete things, and a timeline to spend together. Darling Husband and I have this issue as well, as we both work full time plus he has his own business that he does work at nights/weekends on. We almost always spend dinner together and at least an hour a night outside of that.

If my Darling Husband went crazy and wanted to get things done like that, I’d probably just let him. He’s extremely handy as well (we refinished our basement, including new walls and a tile floor), but seldom wants to do anything. Have you offered to assist in any of it? I know your pregnant, but even then, you could hand tools or other things to him to help out. You could also help with painting.

I actually enjoying hanging out with Darling Husband when he works on projects. I always hand him things and help out when I can, but I’m pretty handy as well.

Post # 4
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

First, I think you need to plan some date nights!  Once a week or so, where you two go and do something special non-baby related.  It will not be long before this will become much tougher.  And I love the other poster’s suggestion about a mom’s group, or look for a charity group to join, or even a pre-natal yoga class, which I have found to be very social.  What you’re hubby is doing is sweet, but I get how it can be disapointing to no longer get his attention.  Plus, pregnancy emotions are tough!  

Post # 5
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

That’s so sweet… I’ve had to do everything to prepare for the baby myself, I wish my husband would get on board and realize we have 9 weeks left until she arrives, and that’s if I go all the way to 40 weeks.*huff*

Let him know! Yes it’s important to do maintenance work for when the baby arrives, but it’s also important to do maintenance on your relationship as well, and pregnant mamas need to be nurtured even more than usual. That means making your partner a priority, planning date nights, being intimate, snuggling. Once the baby arrives it will bring you closer in many ways, but you will be missing the “just you and me” time you had before.

Post # 6
522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

can’t you sit in the room while he’s working and give him conversation or help with little things? it seems like he has a big hobby, you might want to join in

Post # 8
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@PandasWifey:  Have you looked online? Try googling “meetups yourcity” and from there you can probably find different categories. For sure there be a mommy or pregnant one. Or just google “pregnant mommy meetups yourcity”  

I’ve been meaning to do the same thing where I am, though I am fortunate to be in a city where we’re going to organize a pregnant bee meetup. 

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