DH is afraid to have sex with me…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How about a phone call from your doctor or a quick chat at your next appointment?

Post # 5
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

the first time my husband and i had sex after i got pregnant it did cause some bleeding. peanut was fine and was just told to refrain until bleeding stopped i was around 6 weeks when that happened. I had bleeding for a couple weeks from it, but after that we have not had any issues with sex and no more spotting afterwards. I can understand his fear but I am sure he will relax more as the pregnancy progresses


Post # 6
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve been having sex regularly and I’m 11 weeks in. It was especially bad around 4-7 weeks before the MS started. DH went to my first prenatal appointment and the midwife reassured both of us that it was perfectly fine.

I would suggest that your DH goes with you to the appointment. Also try to look for information around the interenet and show him that it’s ok. I never had spotting but I have read that light bleeding is common.

Good luck! That extra blood flow in the nether regions causes more friskiness than usual.

Post # 7
7198 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I didn’t find out that I was pregnant until I was 6 weeks, so we were definitely having sex during that time. We continued having sex regularly and I only had light brown spotting once when I was about 10 weeks. I’m 26 weeks now, and having sex hasn’t caused issues. My doctor says it’s fine.

Post # 8
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What about showing him a book/website like “what to expect when you’re expecting” or the mayo clinic? Ithey will advise that sex is perfectly safe throughout pregnancy. Might be enough to reassure him?

Post # 10
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Commenting for information.

We’re not pregnant or TTC but I’m sure SO will be just like your DH when we are!

Post # 11
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I actually had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and when I got pregnant the second time, my husband was not comfortable with having sex at all! We talked about it and we decided to abstain until the second trimester. We were still intimate, but no intercourse. After our 12 week scan, his mind was put at ease and we went back to our usual sex life. 

Post # 12
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@awakemysoul:  This is us but I’m the one who’s scared to have sex. Since I had a previous miscarriage and we continued on with our regular sex life after my bfp, I don’t want to do anything to risk it this time. I’ve heard of doctors telling women who’ve had previous miscarriages to abstain from sex in the first trimester. It might not be harmful but I will do anything to keep this baby safe. Can’t hurt to abstain.

@Monny:  This is my plan after my first trimester and everything looks good we will get back into our regular sex life.

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