DH is furious with me…

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@SamanthaBolero:  I am so sorry. I did something similar to DH’s “baby”, his Camaro. When I was opening the door to get out, the wind caught the door and it banged into the car next to him. 

He was pissed. I crid because I felt bad and it was a total accident (like yours was). It took about 2 days for him to “get over it” but when he did it was like nothing had happened.

 

I’m sorry sweetie.

Post # 4
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2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Let him have his space & you take yours.  It’s clearly not the end of the world, but once you both cool down you can discuss having it fixed & taking him out for a beer ..or something.

Post # 5
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6204 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

wow. over some car rims? Why were you driving his car in the first place?

 

I would say something to him. He’s damaging your relationship, which is way more important than a car part.

Post # 6
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2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I also have expensive custom rims so I understand being pissed when they get curb rash but I think he is COMPLETELY overreacting!! If he’s that sensitive about his rims then maybe he shouldn’t let anyone else drive his car! Shit happens, there’s no way you did it on purpose and you have already apologized. There’s absolutely nothing else you can do in this situation. I’m sorry he’s being this way, I would be so upset if I was you right now 🙁

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I can’t imagine treating your spouse so terribly over an object.  I screwed up DH’s old Mac laptop once by dropping it on its side and denting where the power plug went in (this was before they had magnets).  He didn’t stop talking to me over it.

Post # 10
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1520 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

boys and their toys!  He prob just needs his space and time to vent.  I understand where he is coming from, I kinda get that way with my stuff 🙁  and my husband is all about his car…..

The rims can be buffed and polished and the scratches should come out!  Call a car detailer and get more info.  Sounds like you probably shouldnt be driving his car….

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

double post! oops

Post # 13
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yikes! It does sound like he’s overreacting, but stress and being overworked can do that to a person. You’ve already apologized, so let him cool down and I’m sure he’ll realize that he went a bit overboard. If not, you need to let him know that, yes, you effed up, but his reaction was uncalled for and he needs to get himself under control in the future.

Post # 14
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1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SamanthaBolero:  I just wanted to say hugs! I can totally relate to having a car guy, they really are like emotionally invested in their vehicles.  He is definitely overeacting but hopefully it blows over soon. 

@MrsMaskatoBe:  “It took about 2 days for him to “get over it” but when he did it was like  nothing had happened.” <


THIS.

He really shouldn’t hold this against you for too long.

Post # 16
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1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If my fi yelled at me extensively and refused to speak to me over a material object that is replaceable I would begin re-evaluating my relationship. Wtf 

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