(Closed) DH is worried he is too busy to support me through TTC

posted 5 years ago in TTC
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  • Wedding: September 2011

@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d:  We didnt’ wait to TTC until our schedules slowed down, BUT when I did get pregnant, my DH took a HUGE promotion and has been working insane hours and traveling a lot.  I think the main thing to remember is that while it’s awesome and incredible to have a partner in this process, during the pregnancy it’s all about you and baby.  I would try and find out exactly what his fears are- is he worried that you’ll be resentful that he can’t be around as much as you’d like? Is he worried that he’ll look like a “bad dad” to others? Is he worried that you’ll have to stop working if you’re too sick?  Once you pin point what his fears are, it’ll be easeier to alleviate them.  Timing will NEVER be perfect- there’s always something going on in life that makes it “not the right time”.  And even if it is the right time now, will it be when you actually get pregnant/are pregnant?

I have found that with my DH being so busy, I have to reframe my expectations of him.  While I am tired and sore and cranky by the end of the day, so is he.  We have to “pamper” each other and take advantage of the times that we’re both feeling grear. 

Good luck!

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