(Closed) DH making stupid mistakes.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Do you have access to his credit statements? If it were me, I’d like to know just where he maxed out that card.

Post # 4
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I really don’t know what to tell you about the credit card deal, maybe some married bees can give some more insight on that. But I think you are absolutely NOT overreacting by being PISSED at the craigslist thing. I’d be livid, and you have the right to be, too!

Post # 5
2750 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

These are both red flags and you are right to be worried.  By posting here, you are recognizing that these are both big issues.  Have you vocalized these to him? 

Post # 7
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Seems like he needs some time to mature.  Is he actively searching for work?  If he’s maxed out one credit card already and not footing the bill, why in the world does he think he needs another one?  The whole craigslist thing is pretty immature too.  I can understand getting on there a couple times with a friend and “dicking” around but if it’s on his phone too… he’s got issues.  I don’t have advice.  Just wanted to voice that I agree you have a right to be pissed.

Post # 8
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@figgnewton:  the credit card thing is way too crazy! Then with the Craigslist stuff on top of that? No. Id cut that credit card up. is your name on the account as primary? I’d tell them they need to cancel Dhs card and remove him. Opening a credit card for fun money when you don’t have a job seems like he is having some sort of crisis. How old is he? 

Post # 10
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He should just request to up the limit on his current card instead of opening a new one (but he’s not going to be able to do that while it’s maxed out). He needs to grow up!  

The craiglist thing – eh I wouldn’t worry tons about it if he’s honestly telling you he just messes around with his friend – my Fiance and I definitely have a good laugh looking at those sometimes.  If he is contacting people then yeah I’d freak the F out.

Post # 11
8215 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If he refuses to discuss these issues with you I’d suggest finding a marriage counselor. He’s being very disrespectful towards you IMO.

Post # 14
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Westwood:  +1. There is something fishy going on! And it definately needs to be sorted out quickly. I wish craigslist would take off that whole section, in my opinion. Those girls/guys need to get out and find someone that is good for them!

Stand your ground & tell him something needs to be done. You got this! :}

Post # 15
3943 posts
Honey bee

@figgnewton:  You discussed it with his mom? I would not be ok with that.


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