DH might go back to school full-time…I'm happy/scared!

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Everything is pretty rough right now. Even STEM. And if research is really what he wants to do (which I’m guessing because of the lab experience) he is probably better off going back for the grad degree now but continuing to apply for jobs. The majority of the people I know working grad degrees are going to school for free and getting a living stipend (They’re all engineers and chemists or some variation of the two so I think your DH will get similar offers). Several have started to work full time during the degree program and now have their employers fitting the bill for the rest of their degrees. Him going back to school is going to give you both better opportunities and at the very least give you some more forward momentum in your lives.

I’m sorry you are not well and your plans have been disrupted but I’m sure you can make it through this. Also if he hasn’t already maybe suggest he look at the FFRDCs.

Post # 4
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@LadyJDAG:  Ugh. I’m sorry you’re in this situation.  I went to grad school and had to drop out because of a pretty extreme family crisis.  What I learned while I was there is that you have to be absolutely sure that the field you are going into is what you are passionate about.  When you are getting your master’s, that is it, there is no turning back.  I went, dropped out, and worked in a myriad of jobs for a while and discovered that what I initially wanted to go for may not have been the best choice for me.

However, I’m not saying that your hubby is not sure!  I love that he is passionate about something.  But, if going to grad school is putting a band-aid on the no job situation, just encourage him to rethink his motives.  You don’t want him to get out of school, with a degree he worked very hard for, and be “over qualified” for all the jobs he applies for (happened to me…with only BA!!) and have even more debt to pay off and still no job, no $, and still no kids.   You are extremely lucky the ‘rents are willing to help with living expenses. 

When I was job searching after grad school it took me months and months to find a full-time job, that wasn’t even in my field (and I felt like a pretty qualified person).  Right now, it is just plain hard.  It’s only been a few weeks for him; I know highly qualified, intelligent people who have searched for 6+months. 

Good luck with your decision. Again, just my 2 cents worth.  Do what feels right for you.

Post # 5
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@LadyJDAG:  I’m actually in school for my Master’s right now. I graduated from undergrad in 2010, and went back to school this January. I go to school full time and work part time (20 hrs/wk). I’m really fortunate though, because FI has a good paying job and is footing most of the bills while I’m in school. It’s a 2 year program, but I’m taking extra summer classes so I’ll be done in 1.5 years.

I agree with PP that he should make sure it’s a field he loves. It’s definitely a lot of work. I love my program though, and I know I’m doing it to have a career. It really makes the hard work worth it.

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