Post # 1
So my DH and i have been married for almost a month now, and he just accepted a new job thats 7 hours away from where we currently live. And I am SOOO excited for him and excited to start our new lives in a place where i think we will both enjoy being!
Only thing is i have to stay behind for a month and keep working at the job im not crazy about. The reason im staying is that our land lord is a b***h and is making us pay rent for the whole month of August, even though we just told her a day later then she wanted us to. So im staying (sicne we have to pay rent anyways) and because i dont have my cosmetology license to practice cutting hair in CO yet so i would be out of a job for a month anyways. This will also give DH time to find us a place to live and give me time to save up some money incase i am out of work for a little…. I’m just dreading being that far away from him… makes me really sad.
Anyone else have a similar experiance with there DH or FI?? we’ve been apart for a month before and it was hard. I mean it is only a month… But its a MONTH!!! haha
Any advice for dealing with the blues??
Post # 3
It’s not easy, i know..i’ve been away from my now husband 2 weeks the max and i think it helped the fact we have 3 kids! But now it’s just me and our 5 years old and i play a lot with her. If not, i would read till i dropped!
Post # 4
That’s hard. I’d take the time focus on myself. Go out with friends you haven’t seen in awhile, watch girly movies, give yourself beauty treatments, organize something you’ve been putting off around the house, etc etc etc. Enjoy some ‘you’ time.
Good luck- I was just apart from DH for 3 weeks and it actually flew by! I just kept myself busy, stocked up on great wine, saw old friends, went to the beach, etc. as listed above. It was actually fun having the house to myself 🙂
Post # 5
We were long distance from MO to NM for the first 8 months we were married. and the year and a half prior to our wedding. Just keep busy and keep on your regular routinue. 🙂 Sitting at home moping is the worst thing you can do. Time will fly by before you know it!
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation now. Just be glad it is only a month. When DH took his new job, I thought I would be able to follow in 8 months but it looksl ike it will be a full 13 months before I can finally move to be with him. In my case, grad school kept me here and I was not able to rush my research as I had hoped. To be honest, living a part has been hard BUT a month is totally doable. On the plus side, you will have that month to think about furniture moving and get rid of stuff you don’t need. Also, a month is short enough that you will still be super excited and he will still see the new city as new so you can explore and settle there together. Maybe you can also look into using that month to transfer your license and start searching for an ew job?
Post # 7
Thanks Everyone! I know a month is totally doable and people have had to go much longer but its still hard! The only thing that sucks is that the town we live in, there is NOTHING to do. we have to go an 1 1/2 to do anything. but i think i will take up some reading and probably go to the gym a lot more lol. And im working on getting my license and hopefully will apply at a few places before i even move up there. Changing my name though is complicating things a little more with that!!!
@slicey19: 13 months! wow!! that has got to be hard! Sounds like your coping well with it though and staying busy!!! 🙂