(Closed) DH thinks I'm crazy …

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@nicollette1189:  Did he see the test? How did you know you lost the baby?

I’m just confused as to how he thinks you essentially made-up a pregnancy.

Post # 4
5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@nicollette1189:  if you had a clearly positive test, then you were KU. Unless it was a Internet cheapie that possibly had an evap line? It sounds to me like you had a chemical pregnancy 🙁

either way, im very sorry for what you are going through.

Post # 6
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m sorry for your loss. 

This is one of the most negative “side effects” of the early response pregnancy tests.  We can find out so early now…… 15 years ago you wouldn’t have even KNOWN you were pregnant…. so there was much less knowledge /  greiving / focus on early mc.  Since there is such a high early mc rate, it makes it tough to have that knowledge.

I would tell your Darling Husband that his comments are not helpful to you.  I would also try to get him to talk about why he doesn’t consider this a “valid” pregnancy.  it could be that he was excited and is now feeling disappointment that he isn’t really comfortable dealing with.  He could be one of those guys that prefers not to know so early.  If you are going to go right back to TTC these are issues you may face again… especially if you continue to test right away. 

I don’t mean to be a downer….. but 30-50% of all fertilized conceptions will be lost during implantation, which it sounds like is what happened in your case…… that’s a pretty high rate if you are testing before you are a week late.  Even though you are excited and you want a baby…. I might suggest that you wait a bit before testing next time.  And I know it’s hard.

Good luck.

Post # 7
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nicollette1189:  my sister had the same thing happen to her in september. her husband reacted the same way as well. Its called a chemical pregnancy. Id google it and show the information to your husband

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