(Closed) DH thinks Im nursemaid to the world.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@TexasSpringBride:  Provided you feel like you are living a balanced life, and like your Darling Husband said that your own family isn’t suffering at the expense of your charity work, I don’t see a problem with it. I always say, take care of your own backyard first.

Post # 4
527 posts
Busy bee

I am the same way.  DH is always telling me that he loves me because I am always trying to help people out.  Then he scolds me for giving homeless people money.  🙂 

If you feel like you cannot say no when people ask for help, even if it will negatively affect you, then that is definitely a problem.  But I think as long as you have time and energy for your own life, family, and friends, then it’s okay.  🙂

Post # 5
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@TexasSpringBride:  You know, I can kind of see his argument…I read all of the amazing things you’re doing for all of those people, but I didn’t see a single thing you’re doing for yourself.  And you just aren’t going to be any good to anyone if you fall apart, so while I applaud your generous nature and kindness, point some of it at yourself more often, you’ve certainly earned it.

Post # 6
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You sound like a wonderful friend and community member!  It does seem like you’re getting pulled in a LOT of directions though.  Maybe your compromise could be to not take on any new projects for a while – just finish up the ones you have, and when those come to an end, take a break.  

I’m curious about your SD having read that thread – how is she doing?

Post # 7
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

While I think what you are doing is great, I think your Darling Husband also has a point.  While it is wonderful to help other people, you and your family still have to come first.  Having seen your other posts, I don’t think you’d ever allow your family time to suffer but it seems like you may not be getting enough time just for you.  Time to relax, time to do something nice for yourself.  That is also really important.

Post # 9
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@TexasSpringBride:  That’s the problem though!  You shouldn’t feel guilty because, for your own sanity and mental health, you NEED to take time for yourself.  It is just as important (if not more so) than the help you provide to others.

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