- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
DH just got offered this AMAZING job, I mean, it’s amazing, really. He’ll be making more than both of our salaries combined right now. However, while his job will allow him to primarily work from home, occassionally he’ll have a month or two where he will be all over the world (Japan, Germany, France, Italy, S. Korea… just to name a few places). Because of this, DH would LOVE for me to quit my job and become a stay at home wife so that when he has to travel we can travel together and go do fun stuff on the weekends. We’ve always wanted to travel, but both fell into our careers early on and just never really had a good time to take off the amount of time we’d like for travelling.
Now at first when DH told me, I was gungho! It sounded great! We get to stay home together ALL day and we get to travel for really low costs (just the price of my plane ticket and food, as lodging, his plane ticket, and living expenses for him would be paid for by the company) – but last night I started thinking… I like to work and I like the idea of me contributing to the household funds. I brought up my concerns to DH and he said that I could still contribute – I could keep him organized, as well as take phone calls for him and set up meetings (basically assistant work that he’d have to do himself, but since I’d be home I could help) or he’d be fine with me just doing house stuff, which I basically already do while working fulltime. I also told him that I was hesitant to leave my job because if he ever lost this job, we would both be unemployeed. He admited it was a valid concern, but that regardless, he’d still love for me to be home with him all day and to be able to travel. However, he said ultimately it was my choice and he’d support me with whatever I chose to do.
And here is the problem: Logical me says – “Keep your job crazy girl! Even if financially it’s okay right now, it might not ALWAYS be so!” Emotional me says – “This is a once in a lifetime chance to be able to travel and spend lots of time with DH! Don’t pass it up!”
I’ve considered what I would do during the week while DH is working when we’re abroad, but lets be honest, we’d be in an exciting country with lots to explore – I don’t think I’d get bored! I’m just really on the fence about this one. Honestly, my heart is telling me to become a stay at home wife and support DH in his career (if I take on all the assistant work, it frees up DH’s time to focus on the actually work work he needs to get done), but my brain is telling me that I am crazy – I guess I hear all those echoed “Once you leave the workplace you can never go back!” and it scares me. So what are all of your thoughts. I’m not asking what I should do, because I know I am going to have to decide that on my own, but maybe hearing what other people would do, and why, would help me make a choice. If DH takes this job (which he likely will, but he’s having a meeting with the top dog today to negotiate stuff – yeah sorry I’m not sure what exactly) he would start after the new year (12 Jan), and DH was saying how it would be nice to both give our 2 weeks ASAP so we could BOTH have a few weeks of pure vacation time, especially over the holidays, before he starts. Thanks in advance.