DH Wants to Invite Female Co-Worker to Our House

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Meet somewhere in public first before inviting her into your home. Also, keep an eye on her because she may be flirting with him.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

I don’t really think it’s all that weird. He likes this girl (in a totally platonic way) and he thinks you’d like her too, so he wants to invite her over to do something all three of you would enjoy. 

What if the situation were reversed – you knew someone of the male variety from school, you got along, and you thought your DH would like him too? 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My hubby also tries to set me up on friend dates with women he knows. I think it’s because he thinks that we may get to be friends. Honestly, I don’t see it any different then when women set their  husbands up on man-dates or other husbands of the girlfriends we hang out with. Same thing. 

However, I would try to feel her out and see if it may be an issue. I think if you’re not sure, invite another single guy over or if she has a friend/bf then invite him as well. It will prob make you more comfortable. 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I honestly don’t see a problem with inviting her. He wants to introduce her to you, I don’t think there is any reason for suspicion. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

It sounds like he’s trying to help you make friends, but I would suggest meeting somewhere public first.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I agree with beachbride in that maybe you should meet in a public setting first, like go out to a festival or get drinks or a meal someplace together first, just because I find it weird to jump straight in to home visits!  But yeah, hope it goes well and you guys click!

 

Post # 9
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Newbee

@LittlePumpkin:  Honestly, I think you’re over thinking. Your husband, yourself, and his coworker should meet up for coffee or lunch or something. See where it goes from there.

As the only single woman in an engineering office of around 40 men, I meet up with my coworkers and their wives on a pretty regular basis. Initially, there were a few issues with wives being suspicious of me and why I was invited to things that were couples-only. We talked about it, and now they know I’m very new to the area, on a bunch of dating sites, and just happen to like the same geeky things their husbands do.

My only bit of advice would be to keep communication open. If you’re uncomfortable, tell your husband. If his coworker does something that crosses a line or concerns you, let her and your husband know.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@LittlePumpkin:  i see where you’re coming froms, but i think that fact that she voiced that she was bummed you two weren’t in the same class and her interest in study buddies bodes well. i think he could simply play that angle to not make the invitation seem awkward or creepy. “yeah pumpkin said it would have been cool to know someone in class too. why don’t you come by and meet her, we can play n64 and you guys can compare notes to see how similar your classes are.” you know, whatever, but something like that. maybe she can told she can bring another friend if she wants?

i think it’s perfectly possible to do this w/o it being creepy at all. it sounds like you are all the same age, and i’m guessing maybe young? (school/video games). It doesn’t sound weird t me. i wouldn’t worry about awkwardness if you don’t hit it off, DH has prescreened her for being cool and i’m sure you’ll be able to get along for a few hours even if it’s not besties at first sight. haha.

good luck! i actually think your DH is being sweet in thinking of you and your social circumstances having moved from vegas! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Seems harmless.  My DH has kind of run interference with me and his female friends before to make a hang out happen.  I’m sure if she was trying to put the moves on him,  she would decline or make a concerted effort to not have to meet/hang out with you 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@LittlePumpkin:  PPs ideas of having a lower key meeting i think is good too. I’ve met my coworker’s wives before: work happy hour, one stops in as they go to lunch together, etc. could be relatively easy.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Absolutely harmless! He could say “hey, my wife and I want to have you over for dinner and games!” She’ll most likely say yes.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I think it is a great way for you to make friends! A few months ago my SO had a meeting about his farm loan with a new girl at the agency. Afterwards he goes “yeah so that girl is our age…and she just moved down here ( i just moved down 2 years ago and have no friends other thank work people too) I was going to invite her to hang out with us, but I didn’t want her to get the wrong idea”

I was kinda like…wait…a girl who is like us and just moved down here and has no friends?! sign me up! haha. but alas, it was a totally different situation and it wasn’t like he was going ot call the farm loan office to ask her to hang out with us..so no new friend for me!

I would be excited if I were you. I would only be worried if he wanted to hang out with her alone to play video games. If he wants you there, and they seem totally cool as friends…then awesome!

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