Post # 1
Has anyone had an SO (or went through this yourself) who would sleep talk or scream because of bad dreams? I was half asleep last night and DH woke up shouting stop and flailing around. It scared me half to death. He calmed down pretty quickly but it was a scary experience since I didn’t know what was happening. He has talked in his sleep once before that I’ve heard, and several years ago he would wake up and think he saw something there but didn’t, like spiders or snakes. I am not sure how normal this is so I’m a little worried about him. He tells me he always has nightmares when he does dream (which isn’t often). Anyone deal with this before? Should I be worried?
Post # 2
How many times has this happened in how many years you’ve been together? If it was happening 3 nights a week for years I’d be worried. If it happens a couple of times a year, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 3
This happens to my DH sometimes. A lot less now than when we first got married. His is a result of bad dreams stemming from his time in combat overseas. It really freaked me out the first time it happened because he was screaming and flailing as you described, and I had no idea what was happening. Though it’s much more rare, when it does happen now, I just reassure him that he’s okay and he’s at home. He calms down pretty quickly and will go back to sleep.
All of his dreams are not nightmares, though. That seems unusual, although I don’t know if you can classify what is a normal amount of nightmares vs regular dreams. Do you ask what the nightmares are about? It may be something he’d want to speak with someone about if it’s happening often and is effecting his ability to get a good night’s rest.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
DH did this once while I was pregnant. He had a terrible dream and I happened to touch him when the murderers in his dream touched him so he thought it was real. It was terrifying. He’s had a history of talking in his sleep. His mom told me he used th sleep walk when he was a kid.
He still mumbles in his sleep from time to time but nothing like that night!
Post # 5
Jijitattoo : We have been married since March & this is the first time it’s happened. Like I mentioned he did talk in his sleep once where he sat up in bed & said something really random and I kept asking him what and he told me nevermind. But besides those two times that’s it. I just wasn’t sure if this happens to other people often or if it’s a sign he has a sleep condition.
MiniMeow : DH was also in the military & was deployed in a combat zone and he didn’t start having sleep issues until being in the military. His dreams are usually about people trying to kill him.
rosegoldgirl : That is scary! Glad it was a one time thing though and hopefully it’s the same in our case too.
Post # 6
This happens to me occasionally. Usually, I can’t even really remember what the dream was about. It’s not a big deal unless it’s happening frequently. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
Dont be worried! I get nightmares alot, pretty much every other night, since I was a child. I woke up screaming at the top of my lungs a month ago. I often whimper, roll around or try to scream but nothing comes out but this was the first time ive ever actually woken up screaming for my life. Its not happened since and I hope it doesnt happen again but its nothing to worry about, its just a part of getting nightmares. For what its worth, my nightmares are also about people or things trying to kill me.
Post # 8
I do this all the time, except my eyes are open so it’s hard to tell if I’m awake or asleep. It’s not always screaming though, one time I turned to my husband (eyes open) and kept telling him “I’m not wearing anything underneath” and giggling. Then I picked up a stuffed bear and made it dance on his chest.
And for some reason, I often talk about home improvements. On the scary side I do see people, spiders and blood gushing from the walls occasionally when I’m in this state. Often times I see old women crawling on the ceiling above me or kids standing in the corner of the room. Spiders crawling on the ceiling and wall are really frequent.
It has really terrified my husband, for a long time I did it and he thought I was awake because my eyes were open. Only when he brought up whatever I was saying the next day did it click I was asleep and had no recollection of what happened.
I cant say how frequent it is because a lot of times I don’t remember it happening. Of the times I do remember I would say once every couple of months maybe? Sometimes more clustered where I recall having like two episodes a month.
Post # 9
Has your husband been screened for PTSD? I have PTSD and night terrors like those. I ask because you mentioned he was a combat vet. Night terrors are a super common sign of untreated PTSD. Might want to send him to the doctor for a checkup!
Post # 10
I talk in my sleep all the time, but I don’t remember the last time I had a nightmare. I do get some pretty odd, and vivid dreams about random stuff. One night I dreamed about my cats talking to me and I thought I was cracking up lol. A few weeks ago though I was in this sort of half in and half out state, not so much sleep paralysis as PP above mentioned but I was dreaming I was falling and then right before I would splat I’d wake up and jerk. It was a really weird feeling. It never happened to me until I started to take Zoloft.
Maybe your husband is suffering from a slight case of PTSD? My cousin goes through periods of this and was also in the military in combat zones.
Post # 11
wifeylifey : When he got out of the military they screened him for it I think. He wasn’t in combat (he fixed planes) but was deployed to a combat zone & the base was frequently shot at, bombed, etc. He tells me he doesn’t believe he has PTSD since he didn’t actually go through combat. I do think the military screwed up his sleep though because he was usually on night shifts, then they would switch him to mids, etc. He also has sleep apnea & wears a CPAP. He did suffer a bout of depression and took anti depressants for a short period of time but that was several years ago.
slomotion : That is terrifying!! I am a nervous & jumpy person anyway and I couldn’t deal with that. There was a time I had a really dark dream & when I woke up I couldn’t move for several seconds and that was scary enough.
Post # 12
I do this sometimes in my sleep. I used to mumble/talk a lot, but I don’t do it as much anymore. I probably wake up yelling once a year on average, so DH doesn’t make a big deal about it. Earlier this year though, I actually punched DH in the face (not that hard) in my sleep and he got pretty upset about that. I obviously don’t remember it, or even know what I was dreaming about. 🙁 Stuff happens, as long as it isn’t super frequent, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 13
There’s actually a disorder that sometimes strikes pretty old men where they thrash very violently in their sleep and sometimes accidentally kill their wives (which is devastating). But it’s rare.
What you’re describing sounds fairly typical to happen once in a while.
Post # 14
My husband has PTSD and does sometimes have nightmares, usually about fighting people. He talks in his sleep pretty often. Less often he will yell or flail his arms. On the scarier side, once he headbutted me. Luckily, he got the top of my head and not my nose or something, so it didn’t really hurt. On the funnier side, once he sat up looked at me and said “You want to know something interesting about Woody Harrelson?” and then fell back on the pillow.
I think if it’s infrequent and doesn’t affect him during the day, it’s not a big deal. I think that we tend to remember nightmares more vividly than normal dreams, which may be why he thinks he only ever has nightmares, he may just not be able to remember normal dreams.
Post # 15
DH used to talk in his sleep almost weekly – sometimes accompanied by motions -sitting up, gripping my arm, etc. It’s something he’s done since we was a little kid apparently. It’s oddly gone away in the last year or so (we’re in our 30s) for no apparent reason.
Both of us have yelled our in our sleep (I’ve screamed at least once) during a nightmare, but these wre random, one-off events. If he’s never done it before, I wouldn’t worry too much. If it becomes a regular thing, I would maybe ask him to talk to a doctor to see if stress or similar could cause that.