I suffer from night terrors. Night terrors are not nightmares, when I have a night terror i often can see my bedroom and start hallucinating and can see things in my room. More often than not it’s a person who i see in the room who will hurt me, sometimes it’s that the wall is falling on me, othertimes I think an animal is under the bed. When it happens I tend to thrash myself around or I sit bolt up right, eyes open and scream.
Sometimes I get out of bed and just run. I’ve come round to my senses being stood up in the living room a few times. Sometimes I jump over my SO (this is my SO’s favourite one, as you can imagine – not only do I do it in a quick panicky way…but he also wonders why if it’s because I wake up and see someone at my bedside why I don’t give a shit about my SO and only try and save myself haha).
If it’s because the wall is falling on me I will scream ‘help me’ and my SO will wake up to see me holding the wall up….yep.
If I’ve seen an animal or something he will wake up and say ‘what the hell are you doing?’ As at 3am I am looking under the bed saying ‘I saw it. It’s here somewhere’.
It all depends on how stressed I am as to how frequent they are. I have been known to have 3 the same night, but sometimes a few weeks can pass without anything. I have seen a doctor and there isn’t a lot they can do really.
If this is what your SO had I would recommend these steps:-
– make sure your SO tries to go to bed without thinking of what it is he is stressed about. Maybe read before he falls asleep
– if he has a night terror turn the light on for him. This is the quickest way my SO wakes me up and helps me to see I’m dreaming and there is nothing in the room
– don’t freak out. Stay calm for him. The first few times , naturally, my SO freaked out and that in turn made me worse. Now he stays calm and puts the light on. He has also learnt not to tell me that there’s nothing there…because in my half asleep state I get really defensive and I am adamant there is something there.
Strange sleep activity is actually more common than people think…hence why so many people have replied to this thread.
sometimes it’s not necessarily a scary night terror…but I once shouted to my partner ‘SPOONS. NOW. CHOOSE ONE!’…he was so confused and said ‘what?’ And I said ‘oh forget it’…and rolled over like I was in a huff with him. Still have no idea what that was about
I have to say, anyone who is in a relationship with someone who regularly wakes up and screams need a medal. I don’t know how my SO does it.