DH's Co-Worker Invites Us to. . . A Kid's Party???

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Awkward. I’d just RSVP no and say you’re busy.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@LittlePumpkin:  Yeah I wouldn’t go to a kid’s party unless it was a kid I knew personally. She may assume (stupidly) that you have children. I’d RSVP no. 

“Thank you so much for the invitation but we are already booked that day” (and by booked I mean cuddling on the couch naked cause we don’t have kids).

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some families make a big deal about children’s birthdays and invite many adults. It wasn’t part of my upbringing, nor that of my kids. We always celebrated birthdays with family only on the exact day, and when they were old enough a party with the number of their friends equal to their age on the closest Saturday.

I would simply decline and would not send a gift. Even if you had kids, I wouldn’t take them to a party for a child they did not know.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I even have a kid, and I still wouldn’t go. AWKWARD!

I would politely decline.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would probably decline but give her a gift for her son! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think it’s a big deal.  I think it was nice of her to invite you two (maybe she invited everyone in the office and didn’t want to leave anyone out).  But if you don’t want to go, then politely decline. 

Post # 9
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

She may have invited the families in the office and then felt like she should invite everyone. I would say you guys are busy that day but send along a small gift like a book. 

Post # 11
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3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that she was inviting other coworkers, and even though your DH is new and you don’t have any children, she wanted to be polite and offer. I think it’s totally fine to say “no.” 

Honestly, if I had kids, I’d probably go to give them the chance to meet someone new and have fun. But I also generally like birthdays.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Your husband is probably the best one to figure out the dynamic. Personally I have been invited to the b-day party of a co-worker’s child. It never occured to me that it was strange. I was not the only one without a child who attended.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

This is very common in some cultures. A kid’s birthday is just a good excuse to throw a big party. Everyone in the neighborhood would be invited and pretty much the mailman and the lady from the coffee shop too. Plus extended family and tons of old and new friends. Go if you want, or decline if you want. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@LittlePumpkin:  RSVP no and send a little gift or card with 10-20 buck in it.

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