- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I had posted the other day about my DH’s coworker Sue and that we both think she has a crush on him…and he probably had one on her although he says it was more of a “friendship” thing for him…even after he’s told me he can’t be “just friends” w/a woman. Here’s the thread (it won’t let me link it for some reason) http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/figured-out-the-root-of-my-insecuritieslong#axzz2aSqoNa2H
We’ve been talking more about what needs to change in our relationship. One being communication.
I picked DH from work today and he told me that Sue has planned a “happy hour/welcome back party” for him and the other guy that left the temp job site. Sue works at that site…but they all work for the same company. I guess Sue/other guy had been talking about this but she’s the one that set it up.
I asked him if Sue’s DH was going to be there and he said NO b/c 1) he’s a boss (for another company) and it would be inappropriate and 2) that it was supposed to be just coworkers.
DH said he already told the other guy that he’s not going to be going…told him we have an IVF procedure to do although we aren’t sure if we are going to continue it…if we cancel it, we aren’t telling anyone.
1) I’m proud that DH told me about it. He said he’s going to try as much as possible to limit communication w/her. That the more he thinks about it, she definitely has a crush on him.
2) Sue has plans for more employee only outings and get togethers. Which is weird since the majority of the people work at a different site. She’s not the boss or anywhere close to it…she’s actually in the same position as 2 other women (whose husbands work there) and they’ve never tried to plan anything…outside of bday lunches, holiday luncheon.
Should I have told him to go? He “thinks” it starts at 5 but these HHs go all night. The other guy that the “party” is for isn’t going either…and several of the people don’t drink or have little ones so it’d be DH, Sue, and maybe 1 or 2 others.
He’s also afraid of constantly blowing off the after-work/weekend activities. BTW, DH/Sue are the only employees w/o kids so the others have “excuses” not to go.
I was going to take a break from the bee but I can’t talk to anyone here about this and DH has been asking me what he should do…he knows he screwed up and wants to rectify it but I’m not sure how to handle a coworker like this.
He keeps saying how “weird” it is that once he noticed her crush and she knew he (and other guy) were leaving that she has all these plans for them to get together.