- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
..irritates me to no end. I think I know why but Im not sure. DH has tons of friends male and and female and I could care less. I speak to all of them, became friends with them and for the most part get along really well.
However this one friend drives me up the wall. DH explained that during his first marriage he would talk to this female friends about the problems in his marriage. She made it very clear even before DH married his first wife she hated her and barely tolerated her. Im sure it didnt help DH first marriage that she is telling him to get a divorce every single time they had a problem.
I asked DH why you would still be friends with someone who barely tolerated your first wife and basically you and she talked about your wife behind her back. Now Im not defending the ex wife because I think she is a total flake, but I ask DH if he ever talked to his first wife about their problems instead of going to someone else, to which he said no. I told him that was wrong. If you have problems in your marriage then you either see a counselor, a chaplain and your spouse.
I pointed out to DH that I would appreciate that if we had problems to please not go to his friend to discuss things, always come to me or seek out a chaplain or a counselor.
Now this woman has never even spoken to me, she text DH or calls him all the time even though she has a husband, whom she admittedly has had marital problems with because instead of working them out with her husband she is busy talking to my DH before we married. Her husband has just accepted the fact that she goes to DH with her problems and not to him.
She messaged DH just before the wedding in January, she told DH “God I hope I can tolerate her better than your last wife” I think thats a horrible thing to say regardless of whether you like the ex wife or whether you might like me or not.
I get that she is DH’s friend but I cant get past the fact that instead of her being an objective party that she was encouraging my DH to divorce his first wife because she didnt like her. Makes me wonder if DH and I ever have a problem that she will be telling him to get a divorce.
Now we are moving near them and she text DH and said, ” I hope your wifey is a homebody, she can keep “A” (her husband) company while you and I head out and spend the night with “R” at their place.
Im like WTF????? Uh no its not my job to keep your husband company. I told DH he is free to go where ever but that Im not babysitting her husband so you and she can go spend the night with other friends. Who the hell does that?
She has literally called dibs on my husband for when we get moved for the first week we are there. Forget that we have to unpack a house and get our kids into school, she is taking leave from the army to hang out with my husband for a week.
Please tell me Im overreacting???