- Mrs. Gremmlin
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
How would you feel?
The background: Darling Husband has a friend who is currently a student, so he has the summer off. Let’s call him Tony. Tony was the best man at our wedding and has become a good friend to me as well. Darling Husband and I live about 7 states and a thousand miles away from Tony. This is the case with most of our friends.
A few weeks ago, Darling Husband and Tony were chatting and Tony jokingly said he had the whole summer off and could stay with us. Well, you know how one thing leads to another, and the conversation makes fun plans and blah blah blah. However, he said, “Nah, I’ll probably just visit for a week or two.” He visited last year, and it was a great week.
I talked to Darling Husband at that point, and he was pretty sure that Tony would just visit for a week. I told him we’d need to discuss it if it was longer, and Tony had said the same thing, “You better check with the wife before telling me it’s okay.”
So… here we are, and Tony emailed me last night. He asked if it was really okay with me if he stayed with us for the summer (like 2-3 months). He’d want to get a part time job to keep busy, which I think would be possible in our area.
Here’s the thing. I think I am okay with it. Darling Husband would love to have his ‘bro to hang out with, and really, Tony is pretty low maintenance. I’m concerned, though, that even with a part time job, he won’t have enough to do. He’s not really the type to go out and do whatever, so I’m concerned about what our home life will be.
Darling Husband and I have a pretty standard week life– go to work, come home, make dinner, spend time together, go to bed. Darling Husband takes an MMA class twice a week, and in the summer I’ll be doing agility with our little princess, I mean dog. But our weekends are for us– we do something fun every Saturday, and we do all our errands Sunday. I don’t want anyone to feel like a third wheel, and I’m just not sure what to expect. It’s not really like having a roommate because this is a good friend who is visiting us– for an extended amount of time.
Darling Husband is fine either way. We talked briefly this morning. He, of course, said it was up to me.
Oh, in case anyone was wondering, Tony said he’d want to contribute something (monetary) to household stuff– Which I appreciate, but truly isn’t my primary concern.
I think I’m going to respond just asking what sorts of stuff he’d want to do and what his expectations would be.
So, would you be okay with your husband’s friend staying with you for a few months?