DH's scrapbook of his ex

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I made my ex scrapbooks when we were dating, I wonder where they are now… I threw away pretty much everything after my ex and I broke up but I did it in the heat of the moment. I admittedly look back on a few pictures now and then because we did have a good relationship and they are good memories. I don’t think I would keep an entire scrapbook because that just seems like too much to me and I would probably find it strange if my husband kept one because he isn’t very sentimental. 

Post # 3
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

DH doesn’t have anything left over from any of his ex’s. I on the other hand have a pair of socks. Never saw the need to toss out a nice pair of socks, but all pictures and stuff is long gone. If their relationship didn’t end on good terms, it could be a part of him hasn’t settled over it. Sometimes people just hold on without realizing it. Just talk to him and see what’s going on and if he wants to talk.

Post # 4
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

hollyberry4:  i dont, i dont think i have anything from an ex?

But I just moved and had been holding onto a box for my cousin for the last few years. I called her and asked if she wanted it back – this was her and her ex’s box. From highschool.

We went through it and most stuff she threw out, but she kept the scrapbook she made – which literally contained every letter they had wrote to eachother and even candy wrappers from goodies he has given her – she saved EVERYTHING in that book. movie ticket stubs, business cards etc. 

They havent talked in several years (per his request) and they are both married to other people. Her now husband doesnt know about the contents of the box, but i think it is fun to look back on your high school days and reminice. 

Post # 6
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

hollyberry4:  DH burned his wedding photos from his first marriage (well, he tried. The wind kept catching them so he had to settle for dumping them in the bin instead, lol) as they ended on bad terms (her cheating shortly after the wedding) so there are no positive memories for him there. I would be a bit iffy about my husband keeping a scrapbook of a previous relationship..if it was just going to be kept in a box and never opened maybe that would be ok.

Post # 7
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

My DH and I both have shoeboxes stuffed with crap from our exes. Some good memories, some bad, all of it stuff that helped us learn who we are as people and in relationships. We’ve both thought about doing stuff with the boxes, but eh, there’s other shit to spend your Saturday afternoon on.


I wouldn’t be too worried about your DH having the scrapbook unless he starts obsessively thumbing through it or trying to hide the fact that he wants to keep it from you. That’d be odd. But just keeping it? NBD. His exes helped prepare him to be the person he is now, the person who loves you above all others. It shouldn’t be a big deal 🙂

Post # 8
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hollyberry4:  ugh, dh has a painting his ex from like 10 years ago made for him. I wont let it see the light of day so it sits in his closet. Idk why he doesnt just get rid of the damn thing.  I mean, its no picasso!!  He hasnt spoken to this girl in the 7 years we have been together!  He doesnt even like art!  It was a preteen fling.  Get over it dh.  He has this idea of hanging it someday.  I have this idea of an “accident” happening in the closet.


well, thanks for letting me vent on your thread!


my dh is really lovely, honestly.  I havent thought about that darn painting in the 3 years since we moved.  Out of sight, out of mind. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  Lulah.
Post # 10
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

hollyberry4:  There is a box of stuff from my first wedding in our storage building, saving it for our kids. I never look at them. 

Post # 12
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hollyberry4:  DH is sitting right next to me as i type this…. he has no idea…… Lol

Post # 13
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s a personality thing. I keep mementos if everything, including some exes. I don’t miss them or harbor feelings for them. I just like to remember thst part of my life, Like all others. If I lose touch with a friend, I don’t throw away all pictures of them. I likely went to parties or concerts or trips or whatever, that I want to remember. Sounds like your guy is the same way – a memento saver. Says more about his personality than their relationship.

So let it sit in the basement. It’s not like he put it in his bedside table.

Post # 14
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

hollyberry4:  I only kept something nice menorah an ex’s mom gave to me. I was going to get rid of it but FI thinks it’s nice and I should keep it! I also have a sweatshirt she gave me. It’s very nice so I wanted to keep it 🙂 but that’s it!

Post # 15
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I have made an ex a scrapbook while we were dating. I made a color photo copy of it so I could have a copy of it too. I guess it’s sitting in a box somewhere. If I’m moving and I come across it, I might look at it for a few minutes. Would I throw it away? I don’t know, I think I have every birthday card I have received since middle school and I’m not a throw it away person- I am kinda a memory hoarder. But at the same time, my FI doesn’t have anything to worry about.

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