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That's the beauty of having so many options of wedding bands these days...everyone is certain to find one that fits them best! I prefer a plain band, as well. I think they look very lovely and solid next to an sparkly engagement ring.
I'd be surprised and have some words for people who thought the ring I'd chosen would be "cheap and ugly". What's with these people?
I had a diamond engagement ring and a plain band for my wedding ring. This was one wedding decisions I had pegged from the get-go. My mom can't wear her diamond wedding ring because she's rough on her hands. I didn't want to feel limited by worrying about the stone's setting (I had already lost a saphire to my daily wear and tear). So we went with plain bands. I can't tell you how wonderful it was having a band with nothing sticking up after 19 months of wearing a diamond ring. No more snagging it on everything.
If you love a simple band, there's nothing wrong with that. If you change your mind, there's nothing wrong with that either. As long as you're happy with it, that's what matters.
My opinion on diamond vs plain? NO OPINION, and my opinion doesnt matter, because you should get the ring thats right for you, your personality, and your lifestyle. And whoever told you that a plain band will be "cheap" and "ugly" perhaps should never get married herself if she thinks that that's what's important.
Wedding bands are symbolic of your marriage, and you should get one that reflects you, whether it be simple, extravagent, or somewhere in between.
i think the plain band is very classic and elegant. diamond companies are trying to convince us all that everything needs to be covered in diamonds (including the guy's band! what?!). go with what appeals to you, not what someone tries to sell you. it has to be something you'll love for the rest of your life.
Go Penguin!
My band is plain b/c both of us wanted the e-ring to stand out on its own. In fact, it's such a plain band that it was not on display in the jewelry store. Our very wonderful sales associate (who's no longer there, sniff!) showed it to me when I explained that I didn't like the band that "matched" the e-ring, but I did want a plain band w/ no stones. There is an identically styled one (that is on display) which is set with stones...maybe someday I will have it as an anniversary band 
...but what I found really tacky was that the sales rep we ended up buying the bands from (our beloved rep had left already) asked me straight out (when he had to dig under the counter for the band I'd been planning on for months): "Why aren't you getting the one with diamonds?" Geez!
My band is also just a plain, white gold band. FH wanted our bands to match, and since he is going to be a doctor, pulling latex gloves on and off, he needed something that would lay flat.
We also got the inside of the rings engraved.
How dare other people tell you that your rings will look bad!
You do whatever you want to do! The opinions of these people, whose critism is less than constructive, is irrelevant. This is something and you FH should decide together.
I am not even going to get a wedding band. I like my ring and its' simplicity and the thought of wearing another ring with it, or soldering them together doesn't make me happy.
You are the one who will wear it forever! It should look and feel like you want it to.
I had a lot of people urge me to get a wedding band with diamonds, but I knew from the get-go I just wanted a plain platinum band to match the platinum on my engagement ring. It is also really really comfortable! I don't know if they make comfort-fit rings for women, but mine sure feels like it. I agree with Robin. You are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life and it should be a reflection of you.
i have the exact opposite, i have two diamond eternity bands (the diamonds wrap around the entire ring) and people have commented that they can't believe he spent the money to buy diamonds that nobody will ever see. You just can't win! :) I love mine and wouldn't change a thing. I say do what makes you happy!
Plain bands are so classic. I never even thought about getting a band with diamonds. Who cares if other people love your wedding band or what they think, it's none of their business! For those who think that plain bands are cheap and ugly, well, the statement reflects upon whoever made the comment.
We are planning on plain bands also - but mostly because we already have the bands! We got them over a year ago, before we even got engaged.
As long as you like the ring, don't worry about other people. It's about what the two of you want, not what everyone else wants.
I think plain wedding bands are charming, you don't need anything flashy for every day. My wedding ring will have small diamonds, but they are channel set, nothing sticking up. Originally I was thinking about getting a plain wedding band, but the one that I am going with matches my e-ring. Who cares what other people think? Get the ring that you want, you are the one that has to wear it for years to come.
We are both getting plain bands (my engagement ring actually came with a matching wedding band with diamonds and we had them make it without the diamonds). In Jewish weddings, the wedding band is supposed to be solid metal for symbolic reasons. I'm quite happy to have a simple band - I say go with what makes you happy.
There is no set thing for everyone. Some like plain, some like diamonds on it..What I don't understand is others not understanding that everyone is different!
I say get what you like the look of and what is most practical for you. At the end of the day it is about pleasing yourself because it is YOU who will wear it, not others..So forget what they think if they disagree. :)
you should do what you want...people are so obnoxious about weddings lately..it must be all the hype they have put into the wedding industry..
i have a plain wedding band and i'm sure people think my husband is broke or something, but it's a choice we both wanted. my parents and his also have lovely plain white-gold wedding bands, i like not having to worry about losing or scratching my lovely engagement ring and it makes my engagement ring look even more sparkly when i wear both at the same time.
i think it's elegant and classy looking to have a plain band peeking below the e-ring...since when have having jewels set into your wedding band become the norm?
For those of you that went with the plain band on its own, what did you do with the engagement ring? I'm toying with the idea of either wearing the e-ring on my left ring finger when I want to dress up (and leaving the band at home) or wearing it on my right hand once in awhile. I definitely want a plain band and only one ring per finger though so I'm at a bit of a loss...
I got the same reaction when I said that I didn't want a diamond at all. Hey, not all of us are diamond girls!
I chose a beautiful antique 18th century ring, rose gold with enamel flowers, as a wedding ring, and a plain thin gold band for everyday use, since the other one is very delicate. I wear it only on special occasions and I love it. But people at my workplace were truly incredulous that I don't have a diamond, like it's a lower class wedding if I don't!
Go for your choice, I say, don't mind those petty people!
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Too funny - I agree with everyone. I remember when we went back to the jeweler the E-ring was bought at to took at bands. The E-ring has a curve to it. They gave me a straight channel set band to try on - and claimed that's the one everyone bought with it. First of all it didn't even look good together with the gaps - secend of all it was way to much bling for me and distracted from the E-ring. They were dumbfounded that I didn't like it - and not very helpful. I looked and looked! I did find a channel-set band that curved and fit nicely - but again I was going for simple. Finally I ordered two plain curved rings out of a catalog at a store in different widths. (yes no one even had something in their store!) One of them fit prefectly and was just what I was looking for. It's simple and elegant and allows my E-ring to be itself :)
Maybe one day my tastes will change - at that point I'll get that channel set band - but not now. I think it's more likely that I'll stop wearing a band all together :)
Also - my husband didn't even have a band for our wedding. He didn't like anything - so we didn't buy anything. We used my dad's ring during the ceremony - which actually turned out to be very touching :) Too bad it's a little big on him. I'm sure people think we're crazy when we tell them we bought his real wedding ring for $6 at a street vendor on our Honeymoon :) He loves it though!
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The Jewish tradition is that the wedding band must be plain. The Rabbi or cantor examens the ring prior to the exchange to make sure that is the case. I *beleive* the reason for the tradition is to make sure the love is whole and unblemished.
I don't get how rude of a society we have become that we can yuck each others yum so openly!
I also want a plain band. However mine will need to be an unusual shape to fit with my engagemet ring as it is a square stone turned on the angle.
I do not want something with diamonds or to much embellishment because I love to cook and garden. I don't want to be cleaning dirt or dough out of my ring every night. What a hassel. Plus I absolutly love my engagement ring. It is unusual enough that a diamond band would take away from it. We chose a blue topaz (around 6 1/2 carats) because the stone was so much more me than a diamond.
I'm getting a plain band. I'm pretty rough on my hands (and I like to travel to places where it isn't necessarily safe to be flashing diamonds), so it never occurred to me to get anything other than a plain band.
We've started to look at bands and it appears as if mine is going to end up with diamonds... the setting to my ering is a little weird and a straight out of the case "plain" band didn't work, so we started talking about a custom band... When FH and I started drawing it out, it looked SUPER weird, and I'd NEVER be able to wear it alone because it was that strange... so we started talking stones to cover up (for lack of better word) the weirdness and based on the design I was thinking of (alternating princess & round), there was a band in the case that relatively matched mine and even picked up on the way my side stones are set... That being said, if I could I would be going plain band... my ring is pretty darn stunning, if I do say so myself, and I'd like it to sparkle on its own. Unfortunately, short of a miracle, I'll have something with stones.
haha... my parents bought very plain gold bands which totalled less than $200, my mom didn't have an engagement ring, and they both don't even wear their bands today because they're not jewelry people!
be proud of your decisions and enjoy your own life. :) what you do may not be what everyone else does, but at the end of the day love manifests itself in ways beyond what's on your hand. congrats on your upcoming marriage!
i'm like robin, i probably won't have a band at all. the design on mine is unique enough that i think it'd look weird with anything else, except perhaps a plain band. but i love my e-ring, and i think i want to wear just that. my mom was a little surprised, but it's my ring, and that's what i like. :)
I'm going to get a simple band as well. One ring with sparkle is already pushing it. I'm going to be an horse vet and I can't see stones surviving that job for more than a week. That aside a blinggy band just isn't me. No matter what you do everyone has something to say.
thanks for posting this. i was feeling pretty silly with my choices but at the end of the day it all determines what is best for your and your lifestyle and preference. i've had these arguments myself. now i know just to pick which one I want.
I have a three stone (trillion cut diamonds and an oval sapphire) engagement ring. When I looked at wedding rings with diamonds, it was just too much for my personal taste. I have a plain 2mm white gold band and it looks lovely. I think there's something really lovely and classic about a small, plain band (it's what my grandparents had)...so that's nice when I take off the engagement ring.
Another consideration is the cost. My band was less than $100, which let us splurge on my husband's ring. This is what we got: http://www.billbarnes.com/product.asp?product=6927. Since I already had a nice ring, it felt right to get him something nice, too.
So, that's my experience. The salesclerks will always try to get you to buy something sparkly, because they'll get more money. Much like your wedding, your ring set needs to appeal to you and reflect your personal style. Who cares about what people think? (Add to that, I'm sure many people questioned the three stone ring, too. Did that bother you?)
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I have to agree with most of the responses. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a plain band! I did get a diamond eternity band, but that's what I wanted. I can totally see why a plain band would make sense since I end up taking both my e-ring and wedding band off quite a bit to not ruin them while cleaning, working out, etc. In some cases, I really think a plain band complements an e-ring so much better. You have to forget also the reactions from people in jewelry stores. Be firm with what you are looking for. You are the one who will be looking at it everyday for years to come.
I think it's entirely personal decision. Just like there is nothing wrong with plain band on engagement ring, there is nothing wrong with plain wedding band. I personally want pave diamonds on engagement ring and eternity band, but I don't work with hands much ( I work at investment bank, so I sit behind the computer all day) but I might get a plain wedding band down the line for when we travel, ski and the such. I would hate to see anything bad happen to my rings.
Also, my Mom and Grandmother both had plain bands. I think the whole diamond bands thing is more recent craze and too much disposable income in the US, lol.
Mine will have diamonds in it - it's also my engagement ring though and I just decided to use it as the wedding band as well. It's non-traditional and completely indescribable (but sadly not online or I'd show you a picture) and it's pretty unlikely I'd get a band to match it, so I'm keeping it on my ring finger even after the wedding, guess I'll just take it off for 10 minutes before the ceremony!
I want to thank all the ladies who originally created this thread. I am currently shopping for bands and am getting the same comments when I tell them I don't want something covered in diamonds. It's good to hear that there are other ladies out there who feel the way I do!
I want something plain, but with a little bit of detail. My e-ring is ridged on the sides and I would love to echo it, but it seems its either nothing on it or covered in stones when it comes to these stores. If anyone has any recommendations, let me know!
I echo the call of "get the ring that's right for you," but I add to it, think about the future. What will you want to be wearing in 10 years, 20 years? Will you want to still wear your engagement ring or just the band?
crazy madness! i'm with miss penguin - do what YOU want and what works for YOU. anything else is irrelevant.
of course, i'm not getting a band at all, so i may be biased. my e-ring has an organic double-band shape so no band, plain or otherwise, would sit well next to it. the simple elegance is perfect for me - no need to gussy it up because others expect it. if they want flashy rings, they should go back to penguin's post. to each his or her own!
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Hi Bees!
As long as I can remember I have always wanted just a plain wedding band (to go with a 3 stone e-ring). Since I've become engaged and we have starting planning people keep asking me what my wedding band will be like. When I say I want just plain white gold band they all look at me like I'm crazy. I've even had people come right out and tell me that it will look cheap and ugly! Has anyone else had this issue? What are your thoughts on plain bands vs diamond bands?