As long as I can remember I have always wanted just a plain wedding band (to go with a 3 stone e-ring). Since I've become engaged and we have starting planning people keep asking me what my wedding band will be like. When I say I want just plain white gold band they all look at me like I'm crazy. I've even had people come right out and tell me that it will look cheap and ugly! Has anyone else had this issue? What are your thoughts on plain bands vs diamond bands?
That's the beauty of having so many options of wedding bands these days...everyone is certain to find one that fits them best! I prefer a plain band, as well. I think they look very lovely and solid next to an sparkly engagement ring.
I'd be surprised and have some words for people who thought the ring I'd chosen would be "cheap and ugly". What's with these people?
I had a diamond engagement ring and a plain band for my wedding ring. This was one wedding decisions I had pegged from the get-go. My mom can't wear her diamond wedding ring because she's rough on her hands. I didn't want to feel limited by worrying about the stone's setting (I had already lost a saphire to my daily wear and tear). So we went with plain bands. I can't tell you how wonderful it was having a band with nothing sticking up after 19 months of wearing a diamond ring. No more snagging it on everything.
If you love a simple band, there's nothing wrong with that. If you change your mind, there's nothing wrong with that either. As long as you're happy with it, that's what matters.
My opinion on diamond vs plain? NO OPINION, and my opinion doesnt matter, because you should get the ring thats right for you, your personality, and your lifestyle. And whoever told you that a plain band will be "cheap" and "ugly" perhaps should never get married herself if she thinks that that's what's important.
Wedding bands are symbolic of your marriage, and you should get one that reflects you, whether it be simple, extravagent, or somewhere in between.
i think the plain band is very classic and elegant. diamond companies are trying to convince us all that everything needs to be covered in diamonds (including the guy's band! what?!). go with what appeals to you, not what someone tries to sell you. it has to be something you'll love for the rest of your life.
My band is plain b/c both of us wanted the e-ring to stand out on its own. In fact, it's such a plain band that it was not on display in the jewelry store. Our very wonderful sales associate (who's no longer there, sniff!) showed it to me when I explained that I didn't like the band that "matched" the e-ring, but I did want a plain band w/ no stones. There is an identically styled one (that is on display) which is set with stones...maybe someday I will have it as an anniversary band ...but what I found really tacky was that the sales rep we ended up buying the bands from (our beloved rep had left already) asked me straight out (when he had to dig under the counter for the band I'd been planning on for months): "Why aren't you getting the one with diamonds?" Geez!
My band is also just a plain, white gold band. FH wanted our bands to match, and since he is going to be a doctor, pulling latex gloves on and off, he needed something that would lay flat.
We also got the inside of the rings engraved.
How dare other people tell you that your rings will look bad!
You do whatever you want to do! The opinions of these people, whose critism is less than constructive, is irrelevant. This is something and you FH should decide together.
I am not even going to get a wedding band. I like my ring and its' simplicity and the thought of wearing another ring with it, or soldering them together doesn't make me happy.
You are the one who will wear it forever! It should look and feel like you want it to.
I had a lot of people urge me to get a wedding band with diamonds, but I knew from the get-go I just wanted a plain platinum band to match the platinum on my engagement ring. It is also really really comfortable! I don't know if they make comfort-fit rings for women, but mine sure feels like it. I agree with Robin. You are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life and it should be a reflection of you.
i have the exact opposite, i have two diamond eternity bands (the diamonds wrap around the entire ring) and people have commented that they can't believe he spent the money to buy diamonds that nobody will ever see. You just can't win! :) I love mine and wouldn't change a thing. I say do what makes you happy!
Plain bands are so classic. I never even thought about getting a band with diamonds. Who cares if other people love your wedding band or what they think, it's none of their business! For those who think that plain bands are cheap and ugly, well, the statement reflects upon whoever made the comment.
I think plain wedding bands are charming, you don't need anything flashy for every day. My wedding ring will have small diamonds, but they are channel set, nothing sticking up. Originally I was thinking about getting a plain wedding band, but the one that I am going with matches my e-ring. Who cares what other people think? Get the ring that you want, you are the one that has to wear it for years to come.
We are both getting plain bands (my engagement ring actually came with a matching wedding band with diamonds and we had them make it without the diamonds). In Jewish weddings, the wedding band is supposed to be solid metal for symbolic reasons. I'm quite happy to have a simple band - I say go with what makes you happy.
There is no set thing for everyone. Some like plain, some like diamonds on it..What I don't understand is others not understanding that everyone is different!
I say get what you like the look of and what is most practical for you. At the end of the day it is about pleasing yourself because it is YOU who will wear it, not others..So forget what they think if they disagree. :)
you should do what you want...people are so obnoxious about weddings lately..it must be all the hype they have put into the wedding industry..
i have a plain wedding band and i'm sure people think my husband is broke or something, but it's a choice we both wanted. my parents and his also have lovely plain white-gold wedding bands, i like not having to worry about losing or scratching my lovely engagement ring and it makes my engagement ring look even more sparkly when i wear both at the same time.
i think it's elegant and classy looking to have a plain band peeking below the e-ring...since when have having jewels set into your wedding band become the norm?
For those of you that went with the plain band on its own, what did you do with the engagement ring? I'm toying with the idea of either wearing the e-ring on my left ring finger when I want to dress up (and leaving the band at home) or wearing it on my right hand once in awhile. I definitely want a plain band and only one ring per finger though so I'm at a bit of a loss...
I got the same reaction when I said that I didn't want a diamond at all. Hey, not all of us are diamond girls!
I chose a beautiful antique 18th century ring, rose gold with enamel flowers, as a wedding ring, and a plain thin gold band for everyday use, since the other one is very delicate. I wear it only on special occasions and I love it. But people at my workplace were truly incredulous that I don't have a diamond, like it's a lower class wedding if I don't!
Go for your choice, I say, don't mind those petty people!
Too funny - I agree with everyone. I remember when we went back to the jeweler the E-ring was bought at to took at bands. The E-ring has a curve to it. They gave me a straight channel set band to try on - and claimed that's the one everyone bought with it. First of all it didn't even look good together with the gaps - secend of all it was way to much bling for me and distracted from the E-ring. They were dumbfounded that I didn't like it - and not very helpful. I looked and looked! I did find a channel-set band that curved and fit nicely - but again I was going for simple. Finally I ordered two plain curved rings out of a catalog at a store in different widths. (yes no one even had something in their store!) One of them fit prefectly and was just what I was looking for. It's simple and elegant and allows my E-ring to be itself :)
Maybe one day my tastes will change - at that point I'll get that channel set band - but not now. I think it's more likely that I'll stop wearing a band all together :)
Also - my husband didn't even have a band for our wedding. He didn't like anything - so we didn't buy anything. We used my dad's ring during the ceremony - which actually turned out to be very touching :) Too bad it's a little big on him. I'm sure people think we're crazy when we tell them we bought his real wedding ring for $6 at a street vendor on our Honeymoon :) He loves it though!
Hi Bees!
As long as I can remember I have always wanted just a plain wedding band (to go with a 3 stone e-ring). Since I've become engaged and we have starting planning people keep asking me what my wedding band will be like. When I say I want just plain white gold band they all look at me like I'm crazy. I've even had people come right out and tell me that it will look cheap and ugly! Has anyone else had this issue? What are your thoughts on plain bands vs diamond bands?
posted by kpenn 11 months agoThat's the beauty of having so many options of wedding bands these days...everyone is certain to find one that fits them best! I prefer a plain band, as well. I think they look very lovely and solid next to an sparkly engagement ring.
posted by jess 11 months agoI'd be surprised and have some words for people who thought the ring I'd chosen would be "cheap and ugly". What's with these people?
I had a diamond engagement ring and a plain band for my wedding ring. This was one wedding decisions I had pegged from the get-go. My mom can't wear her diamond wedding ring because she's rough on her hands. I didn't want to feel limited by worrying about the stone's setting (I had already lost a saphire to my daily wear and tear). So we went with plain bands. I can't tell you how wonderful it was having a band with nothing sticking up after 19 months of wearing a diamond ring. No more snagging it on everything.
If you love a simple band, there's nothing wrong with that. If you change your mind, there's nothing wrong with that either. As long as you're happy with it, that's what matters.
posted by Angel 11 months agoMy opinion on diamond vs plain? NO OPINION, and my opinion doesnt matter, because you should get the ring thats right for you, your personality, and your lifestyle. And whoever told you that a plain band will be "cheap" and "ugly" perhaps should never get married herself if she thinks that that's what's important.
Wedding bands are symbolic of your marriage, and you should get one that reflects you, whether it be simple, extravagent, or somewhere in between.
posted by penguin 11 months agoAmen, Penquin!
posted by Angel 11 months agoi think the plain band is very classic and elegant. diamond companies are trying to convince us all that everything needs to be covered in diamonds (including the guy's band! what?!). go with what appeals to you, not what someone tries to sell you. it has to be something you'll love for the rest of your life.
posted by nikkinicole 11 months agoGo Penguin!
My band is plain b/c both of us wanted the e-ring to stand out on its own. In fact, it's such a plain band that it was not on display in the jewelry store. Our very wonderful sales associate (who's no longer there, sniff!) showed it to me when I explained that I didn't like the band that "matched" the e-ring, but I did want a plain band w/ no stones. There is an identically styled one (that is on display) which is set with stones...maybe someday I will have it as an anniversary band
...but what I found really tacky was that the sales rep we ended up buying the bands from (our beloved rep had left already) asked me straight out (when he had to dig under the counter for the band I'd been planning on for months): "Why aren't you getting the one with diamonds?" Geez!
posted by princesskittyHI 11 months agoMy band is also just a plain, white gold band. FH wanted our bands to match, and since he is going to be a doctor, pulling latex gloves on and off, he needed something that would lay flat.
We also got the inside of the rings engraved.
How dare other people tell you that your rings will look bad!
posted by kleverkira 11 months agoYou do whatever you want to do! The opinions of these people, whose critism is less than constructive, is irrelevant. This is something and you FH should decide together.
I am not even going to get a wedding band. I like my ring and its' simplicity and the thought of wearing another ring with it, or soldering them together doesn't make me happy.
You are the one who will wear it forever! It should look and feel like you want it to.
posted by robin 11 months agoI had a lot of people urge me to get a wedding band with diamonds, but I knew from the get-go I just wanted a plain platinum band to match the platinum on my engagement ring. It is also really really comfortable! I don't know if they make comfort-fit rings for women, but mine sure feels like it. I agree with Robin. You are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life and it should be a reflection of you.
posted by kgr 11 months agoi have the exact opposite, i have two diamond eternity bands (the diamonds wrap around the entire ring) and people have commented that they can't believe he spent the money to buy diamonds that nobody will ever see. You just can't win! :) I love mine and wouldn't change a thing. I say do what makes you happy!
posted by styleish 11 months agoPlain bands are so classic. I never even thought about getting a band with diamonds. Who cares if other people love your wedding band or what they think, it's none of their business! For those who think that plain bands are cheap and ugly, well, the statement reflects upon whoever made the comment.
posted by clessy00 11 months agoWe are planning on plain bands also - but mostly because we already have the bands! We got them over a year ago, before we even got engaged.
As long as you like the ring, don't worry about other people. It's about what the two of you want, not what everyone else wants.
posted by freesia39 11 months agoI think plain wedding bands are charming, you don't need anything flashy for every day. My wedding ring will have small diamonds, but they are channel set, nothing sticking up. Originally I was thinking about getting a plain wedding band, but the one that I am going with matches my e-ring. Who cares what other people think? Get the ring that you want, you are the one that has to wear it for years to come.
posted by Deonise 11 months agoWe are both getting plain bands (my engagement ring actually came with a matching wedding band with diamonds and we had them make it without the diamonds). In Jewish weddings, the wedding band is supposed to be solid metal for symbolic reasons. I'm quite happy to have a simple band - I say go with what makes you happy.
posted by EK 11 months agoThere is no set thing for everyone. Some like plain, some like diamonds on it..What I don't understand is others not understanding that everyone is different!
I say get what you like the look of and what is most practical for you. At the end of the day it is about pleasing yourself because it is YOU who will wear it, not others..So forget what they think if they disagree. :)
posted by JCM9608 11 months agoyou should do what you want...people are so obnoxious about weddings lately..it must be all the hype they have put into the wedding industry..
i have a plain wedding band and i'm sure people think my husband is broke or something, but it's a choice we both wanted. my parents and his also have lovely plain white-gold wedding bands, i like not having to worry about losing or scratching my lovely engagement ring and it makes my engagement ring look even more sparkly when i wear both at the same time.
i think it's elegant and classy looking to have a plain band peeking below the e-ring...since when have having jewels set into your wedding band become the norm?
posted by heatherg 11 months agoFor those of you that went with the plain band on its own, what did you do with the engagement ring? I'm toying with the idea of either wearing the e-ring on my left ring finger when I want to dress up (and leaving the band at home) or wearing it on my right hand once in awhile. I definitely want a plain band and only one ring per finger though so I'm at a bit of a loss...
posted by MissV 9 months agoI got the same reaction when I said that I didn't want a diamond at all. Hey, not all of us are diamond girls!
I chose a beautiful antique 18th century ring, rose gold with enamel flowers, as a wedding ring, and a plain thin gold band for everyday use, since the other one is very delicate. I wear it only on special occasions and I love it. But people at my workplace were truly incredulous that I don't have a diamond, like it's a lower class wedding if I don't!
Go for your choice, I say, don't mind those petty people!
posted by mrsallgood 9 months agoToo funny - I agree with everyone. I remember when we went back to the jeweler the E-ring was bought at to took at bands. The E-ring has a curve to it. They gave me a straight channel set band to try on - and claimed that's the one everyone bought with it. First of all it didn't even look good together with the gaps - secend of all it was way to much bling for me and distracted from the E-ring. They were dumbfounded that I didn't like it - and not very helpful. I looked and looked! I did find a channel-set band that curved and fit nicely - but again I was going for simple. Finally I ordered two plain curved rings out of a catalog at a store in different widths. (yes no one even had something in their store!) One of them fit prefectly and was just what I was looking for. It's simple and elegant and allows my E-ring to be itself :)
Maybe one day my tastes will change - at that point I'll get that channel set band - but not now. I think it's more likely that I'll stop wearing a band all together :)
Also - my husband didn't even have a band for our wedding. He didn't like anything - so we didn't buy anything. We used my dad's ring during the ceremony - which actually turned out to be very touching :) Too bad it's a little big on him. I'm sure people think we're crazy when we tell them we bought his real wedding ring for $6 at a street vendor on our Honeymoon :) He loves it though!
posted by jilian 9 months ago