Post # 1
As long as I can remember I have always wanted just a plain wedding band (to go with a 3 stone e-ring). Since I’ve become engaged and we have starting planning people keep asking me what my wedding band will be like. When I say I want just plain white gold band they all look at me like I’m crazy. I’ve even had people come right out and tell me that it will look cheap and ugly! Has anyone else had this issue? What are your thoughts on plain bands vs diamond bands?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
That’s the beauty of having so many options of wedding bands these days…everyone is certain to find one that fits them best! I prefer a plain band, as well. I think they look very lovely and solid next to an sparkly engagement ring.
Post # 4
I’d be surprised and have some words for people who thought the ring I’d chosen would be "cheap and ugly". What’s with these people?
I had a diamond engagement ring and a plain band for my wedding ring. This was one wedding decisions I had pegged from the get-go. My mom can’t wear her diamond wedding ring because she’s rough on her hands. I didn’t want to feel limited by worrying about the stone’s setting (I had already lost a saphire to my daily wear and tear). So we went with plain bands. I can’t tell you how wonderful it was having a band with nothing sticking up after 19 months of wearing a diamond ring. No more snagging it on everything.
If you love a simple band, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you change your mind, there’s nothing wrong with that either. As long as you’re happy with it, that’s what matters.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
My opinion on diamond vs plain? NO OPINION, and my opinion doesnt matter, because you should get the ring thats right for you, your personality, and your lifestyle. And whoever told you that a plain band will be "cheap" and "ugly" perhaps should never get married herself if she thinks that that’s what’s important.
Wedding bands are symbolic of your marriage, and you should get one that reflects you, whether it be simple, extravagent, or somewhere in between.
Post # 7
i think the plain band is very classic and elegant. diamond companies are trying to convince us all that everything needs to be covered in diamonds (including the guy’s band! what?!). go with what appeals to you, not what someone tries to sell you. it has to be something you’ll love for the rest of your life.
Post # 8
My band is plain b/c both of us wanted the e-ring to stand out on its own. In fact, it’s such a plain band that it was not on display in the jewelry store. Our very wonderful sales associate (who’s no longer there, sniff!) showed it to me when I explained that I didn’t like the band that "matched" the e-ring, but I did want a plain band w/ no stones. There is an identically styled one (that is on display) which is set with stones…maybe someday I will have it as an anniversary band …but what I found really tacky was that the sales rep we ended up buying the bands from (our beloved rep had left already) asked me straight out (when he had to dig under the counter for the band I’d been planning on for months): "Why aren’t you getting the one with diamonds?" Geez!
Post # 9
My band is also just a plain, white gold band. FH wanted our bands to match, and since he is going to be a doctor, pulling latex gloves on and off, he needed something that would lay flat.
We also got the inside of the rings engraved.
How dare other people tell you that your rings will look bad!
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2008 - Portland Armory
You do whatever you want to do! The opinions of these people, whose critism is less than constructive, is irrelevant. This is something and you FH should decide together.
I am not even going to get a wedding band. I like my ring and its’ simplicity and the thought of wearing another ring with it, or soldering them together doesn’t make me happy.
You are the one who will wear it forever! It should look and feel like you want it to.
Post # 11
I had a lot of people urge me to get a wedding band with diamonds, but I knew from the get-go I just wanted a plain platinum band to match the platinum on my engagement ring. It is also really really comfortable! I don’t know if they make comfort-fit rings for women, but mine sure feels like it. I agree with Robin. You are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life and it should be a reflection of you.
Post # 12
i have the exact opposite, i have two diamond eternity bands (the diamonds wrap around the entire ring) and people have commented that they can’t believe he spent the money to buy diamonds that nobody will ever see. You just can’t win! 🙂 I love mine and wouldn’t change a thing. I say do what makes you happy!
Post # 13
Plain bands are so classic. I never even thought about getting a band with diamonds. Who cares if other people love your wedding band or what they think, it’s none of their business! For those who think that plain bands are cheap and ugly, well, the statement reflects upon whoever made the comment.
Post # 14
We are planning on plain bands also – but mostly because we already have the bands! We got them over a year ago, before we even got engaged.
As long as you like the ring, don’t worry about other people. It’s about what the two of you want, not what everyone else wants.
Post # 15
I think plain wedding bands are charming, you don’t need anything flashy for every day. My wedding ring will have small diamonds, but they are channel set, nothing sticking up. Originally I was thinking about getting a plain wedding band, but the one that I am going with matches my e-ring. Who cares what other people think? Get the ring that you want, you are the one that has to wear it for years to come.
Post # 16
We are both getting plain bands (my engagement ring actually came with a matching wedding band with diamonds and we had them make it without the diamonds). In Jewish weddings, the wedding band is supposed to be solid metal for symbolic reasons. I’m quite happy to have a simple band – I say go with what makes you happy.