The Jewish tradition is that the wedding band must be plain. The Rabbi or cantor examens the ring prior to the exchange to make sure that is the case. I *beleive* the reason for the tradition is to make sure the love is whole and unblemished.
I don't get how rude of a society we have become that we can yuck each others yum so openly!
I also want a plain band. However mine will need to be an unusual shape to fit with my engagemet ring as it is a square stone turned on the angle.
I do not want something with diamonds or to much embellishment because I love to cook and garden. I don't want to be cleaning dirt or dough out of my ring every night. What a hassel. Plus I absolutly love my engagement ring. It is unusual enough that a diamond band would take away from it. We chose a blue topaz (around 6 1/2 carats) because the stone was so much more me than a diamond.
I'm getting a plain band. I'm pretty rough on my hands (and I like to travel to places where it isn't necessarily safe to be flashing diamonds), so it never occurred to me to get anything other than a plain band.
We've started to look at bands and it appears as if mine is going to end up with diamonds... the setting to my ering is a little weird and a straight out of the case "plain" band didn't work, so we started talking about a custom band... When FH and I started drawing it out, it looked SUPER weird, and I'd NEVER be able to wear it alone because it was that strange... so we started talking stones to cover up (for lack of better word) the weirdness and based on the design I was thinking of (alternating princess & round), there was a band in the case that relatively matched mine and even picked up on the way my side stones are set... That being said, if I could I would be going plain band... my ring is pretty darn stunning, if I do say so myself, and I'd like it to sparkle on its own. Unfortunately, short of a miracle, I'll have something with stones.
haha... my parents bought very plain gold bands which totalled less than $200, my mom didn't have an engagement ring, and they both don't even wear their bands today because they're not jewelry people!
be proud of your decisions and enjoy your own life. :) what you do may not be what everyone else does, but at the end of the day love manifests itself in ways beyond what's on your hand. congrats on your upcoming marriage!
i'm like robin, i probably won't have a band at all. the design on mine is unique enough that i think it'd look weird with anything else, except perhaps a plain band. but i love my e-ring, and i think i want to wear just that. my mom was a little surprised, but it's my ring, and that's what i like. :)
I'm going to get a simple band as well. One ring with sparkle is already pushing it. I'm going to be an horse vet and I can't see stones surviving that job for more than a week. That aside a blinggy band just isn't me. No matter what you do everyone has something to say.
thanks for posting this. i was feeling pretty silly with my choices but at the end of the day it all determines what is best for your and your lifestyle and preference. i've had these arguments myself. now i know just to pick which one I want.
I have a three stone (trillion cut diamonds and an oval sapphire) engagement ring. When I looked at wedding rings with diamonds, it was just too much for my personal taste. I have a plain 2mm white gold band and it looks lovely. I think there's something really lovely and classic about a small, plain band (it's what my grandparents had)...so that's nice when I take off the engagement ring.
Another consideration is the cost. My band was less than $100, which let us splurge on my husband's ring. This is what we got: http://www.billbarnes.com/product.asp?product=6927. Since I already had a nice ring, it felt right to get him something nice, too.
So, that's my experience. The salesclerks will always try to get you to buy something sparkly, because they'll get more money. Much like your wedding, your ring set needs to appeal to you and reflect your personal style. Who cares about what people think? (Add to that, I'm sure many people questioned the three stone ring, too. Did that bother you?)
I have to agree with most of the responses. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a plain band! I did get a diamond eternity band, but that's what I wanted. I can totally see why a plain band would make sense since I end up taking both my e-ring and wedding band off quite a bit to not ruin them while cleaning, working out, etc. In some cases, I really think a plain band complements an e-ring so much better. You have to forget also the reactions from people in jewelry stores. Be firm with what you are looking for. You are the one who will be looking at it everyday for years to come.
I think it's entirely personal decision. Just like there is nothing wrong with plain band on engagement ring, there is nothing wrong with plain wedding band. I personally want pave diamonds on engagement ring and eternity band, but I don't work with hands much ( I work at investment bank, so I sit behind the computer all day) but I might get a plain wedding band down the line for when we travel, ski and the such. I would hate to see anything bad happen to my rings.
Also, my Mom and Grandmother both had plain bands. I think the whole diamond bands thing is more recent craze and too much disposable income in the US, lol.
Mine will have diamonds in it - it's also my engagement ring though and I just decided to use it as the wedding band as well. It's non-traditional and completely indescribable (but sadly not online or I'd show you a picture) and it's pretty unlikely I'd get a band to match it, so I'm keeping it on my ring finger even after the wedding, guess I'll just take it off for 10 minutes before the ceremony!
I want to thank all the ladies who originally created this thread. I am currently shopping for bands and am getting the same comments when I tell them I don't want something covered in diamonds. It's good to hear that there are other ladies out there who feel the way I do!
I want something plain, but with a little bit of detail. My e-ring is ridged on the sides and I would love to echo it, but it seems its either nothing on it or covered in stones when it comes to these stores. If anyone has any recommendations, let me know!
I echo the call of "get the ring that's right for you," but I add to it, think about the future. What will you want to be wearing in 10 years, 20 years? Will you want to still wear your engagement ring or just the band?
crazy madness! i'm with miss penguin - do what YOU want and what works for YOU. anything else is irrelevant.
of course, i'm not getting a band at all, so i may be biased. my e-ring has an organic double-band shape so no band, plain or otherwise, would sit well next to it. the simple elegance is perfect for me - no need to gussy it up because others expect it. if they want flashy rings, they should go back to penguin's post. to each his or her own!
The Jewish tradition is that the wedding band must be plain. The Rabbi or cantor examens the ring prior to the exchange to make sure that is the case. I *beleive* the reason for the tradition is to make sure the love is whole and unblemished.
I don't get how rude of a society we have become that we can yuck each others yum so openly!
posted by jenniferb 47 posts 10 months agoI also want a plain band. However mine will need to be an unusual shape to fit with my engagemet ring as it is a square stone turned on the angle.
I do not want something with diamonds or to much embellishment because I love to cook and garden. I don't want to be cleaning dirt or dough out of my ring every night. What a hassel. Plus I absolutly love my engagement ring. It is unusual enough that a diamond band would take away from it. We chose a blue topaz (around 6 1/2 carats) because the stone was so much more me than a diamond.
posted by tberry 231 posts 10 months agoI'm getting a plain band. I'm pretty rough on my hands (and I like to travel to places where it isn't necessarily safe to be flashing diamonds), so it never occurred to me to get anything other than a plain band.
posted by dahlia 117 posts 10 months agoWe've started to look at bands and it appears as if mine is going to end up with diamonds... the setting to my ering is a little weird and a straight out of the case "plain" band didn't work, so we started talking about a custom band... When FH and I started drawing it out, it looked SUPER weird, and I'd NEVER be able to wear it alone because it was that strange... so we started talking stones to cover up (for lack of better word) the weirdness and based on the design I was thinking of (alternating princess & round), there was a band in the case that relatively matched mine and even picked up on the way my side stones are set... That being said, if I could I would be going plain band... my ring is pretty darn stunning, if I do say so myself, and I'd like it to sparkle on its own. Unfortunately, short of a miracle, I'll have something with stones.
posted by nicole3381 49 posts 10 months agohaha... my parents bought very plain gold bands which totalled less than $200, my mom didn't have an engagement ring, and they both don't even wear their bands today because they're not jewelry people!
be proud of your decisions and enjoy your own life. :) what you do may not be what everyone else does, but at the end of the day love manifests itself in ways beyond what's on your hand. congrats on your upcoming marriage!
posted by L-bug 2 posts 10 months agoi'm like robin, i probably won't have a band at all. the design on mine is unique enough that i think it'd look weird with anything else, except perhaps a plain band. but i love my e-ring, and i think i want to wear just that. my mom was a little surprised, but it's my ring, and that's what i like. :)
posted by staceyb 178 posts 10 months agoI'm going to get a simple band as well. One ring with sparkle is already pushing it. I'm going to be an horse vet and I can't see stones surviving that job for more than a week. That aside a blinggy band just isn't me. No matter what you do everyone has something to say.
posted by backyardbride 27 posts 10 months agothanks for posting this. i was feeling pretty silly with my choices but at the end of the day it all determines what is best for your and your lifestyle and preference. i've had these arguments myself. now i know just to pick which one I want.
posted by myfiancesbrave 1 posts 10 months agoI have a three stone (trillion cut diamonds and an oval sapphire) engagement ring. When I looked at wedding rings with diamonds, it was just too much for my personal taste. I have a plain 2mm white gold band and it looks lovely. I think there's something really lovely and classic about a small, plain band (it's what my grandparents had)...so that's nice when I take off the engagement ring.
Another consideration is the cost. My band was less than $100, which let us splurge on my husband's ring. This is what we got: http://www.billbarnes.com/product.asp?product=6927. Since I already had a nice ring, it felt right to get him something nice, too.
So, that's my experience. The salesclerks will always try to get you to buy something sparkly, because they'll get more money. Much like your wedding, your ring set needs to appeal to you and reflect your personal style. Who cares about what people think? (Add to that, I'm sure many people questioned the three stone ring, too. Did that bother you?)
posted by lionsaoi 19 posts 10 months agoI have to agree with most of the responses. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a plain band! I did get a diamond eternity band, but that's what I wanted. I can totally see why a plain band would make sense since I end up taking both my e-ring and wedding band off quite a bit to not ruin them while cleaning, working out, etc. In some cases, I really think a plain band complements an e-ring so much better. You have to forget also the reactions from people in jewelry stores. Be firm with what you are looking for. You are the one who will be looking at it everyday for years to come.
posted by tipperella 33 posts 10 months agoI think it's entirely personal decision. Just like there is nothing wrong with plain band on engagement ring, there is nothing wrong with plain wedding band. I personally want pave diamonds on engagement ring and eternity band, but I don't work with hands much ( I work at investment bank, so I sit behind the computer all day) but I might get a plain wedding band down the line for when we travel, ski and the such. I would hate to see anything bad happen to my rings.
Also, my Mom and Grandmother both had plain bands. I think the whole diamond bands thing is more recent craze and too much disposable income in the US, lol.
posted by petunka 72 posts 10 months agoMine will have diamonds in it - it's also my engagement ring though and I just decided to use it as the wedding band as well. It's non-traditional and completely indescribable (but sadly not online or I'd show you a picture) and it's pretty unlikely I'd get a band to match it, so I'm keeping it on my ring finger even after the wedding, guess I'll just take it off for 10 minutes before the ceremony!
posted by kangaroo 38 posts 10 months agoI want to thank all the ladies who originally created this thread. I am currently shopping for bands and am getting the same comments when I tell them I don't want something covered in diamonds. It's good to hear that there are other ladies out there who feel the way I do!
I want something plain, but with a little bit of detail. My e-ring is ridged on the sides and I would love to echo it, but it seems its either nothing on it or covered in stones when it comes to these stores. If anyone has any recommendations, let me know!
posted by Trebuchet 48 posts 4 months agoI echo the call of "get the ring that's right for you," but I add to it, think about the future. What will you want to be wearing in 10 years, 20 years? Will you want to still wear your engagement ring or just the band?
posted by elb 39 posts 4 months agocrazy madness! i'm with miss penguin - do what YOU want and what works for YOU. anything else is irrelevant.
of course, i'm not getting a band at all, so i may be biased. my e-ring has an organic double-band shape so no band, plain or otherwise, would sit well next to it. the simple elegance is perfect for me - no need to gussy it up because others expect it. if they want flashy rings, they should go back to penguin's post. to each his or her own!
posted by missm 483 posts 4 months ago