Diaphragm? Anyone use them?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used one before I started using an IUD (11 years ago) and had no problem with using it.  Spermicide isn’t messy; you simply line the inside of the diaphragm with the jelly and insert.  HOWEVER, you must reapply the spermicide with EACH act of intercourse or you reduce the effectiveness.  Bonus for using:  period sex isn’t messy!  Also, if you gain or loss weight, you must get refitted.

Post # 4
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1389 posts
Bumble bee

I use one during my fertile times.  I developed a blood clot from BC so I can never use hormones again.  SO said he can feel the diaphragm but it doesn’t bother him.  The spermicide is pretty thick so it isn’t messy.  But, it does expire pretty quickly.  

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@lawyerchick13:  I acquired a diaphragm at one point when I was trying to decide what birth control method to use. I don’t know if the one I got was too big (even though I was carefully fitted for it) but it was quite uncomfortable and pressed on my urethra, which was a problem for me. It was also HORRIBLE feeling to remove it. Eew! I also thought that it didn’t go far enough up there– I figured it would really intrude on sex, with the way my SO’s and my bodies work together. I was so grossed out by how it felt that I never actually tried it during sex.

My mother, on the other hand, used one for many years, and both my parents say they couldn’t feel it (yeah, my family shares really weird info sometimes). Used with spermicide, it was extremely effective for them and was the only thing they used for quite a while. I tried the diaphragm because of what my mother told me about it. 

So, you can see that it’s definitely a matter of personal preference (and probably individual anatomy, too).

 

It can’t hurt to get one and give it a try. You might really like it, or you might detest it, but at least then you’ll know! If you don’t have health insurance, go to a Planned Parenthood; they will fit it and give it to you inexpensively.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Have you lookied into the idea of an IUD? You wouldn’t have to worry about any of this if you got one. 🙂 I have a copper one and I think it is the best method out of all of them.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

If u get yeast infections or uti’s easily…i wouldn’t use it. the sperdacide can cause serious vaginal infections or rashes if you’re the sensitive type. if you’re not…then i say go for it.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ooops, will repost.

(Sorry)

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Older Bee here (over 50)

I used a Diaphragm for many years… after I had issues with the Pill following my first pregnancy.

Never had any issues with the Diaphragm as far as effectiveness… in that I NEVER had a pregnancy in my life that wasn’t planned.

That said, there is a bit of a learning curve (but then that is true of any BC)

The Diaphragm takes a bit of getting used to as far as getting it into place, and then out.  When in spot it will sit snuggly up against the pubic bone, and create a vacuum seal.

You can use it with or without spermicide… (if you are one who also knows their body enough to be able to know the signs of ovulation)

Using spermicide with it is always the safest method around ovulation, … BUT it is not what you want to be enjoying with a side of oral (ick)

Which means you have to plan accordingly

I used the Diaphragm consistently EVERY time we had sex, no matter what day of the month.  AND YES there is the benefit that it is essentially a cup / dish / disc that covers the cervix entirely so during one’s period, it can contain any flow… which means sex is possible all month long if you wish it to be so.

The upside to the Diaphragm is that it isn’t hormonal… nor is it invasive like an IUD (sorry, but after the horror stories of / deaths of my era I would NEVER recommend anyone look at putting copper into their womb)

You can put it into place and leave it there, for a period of time before you have sex, and then you can leave it in place for a longer period of time afterwards… you do have to remove it once every 24 hours to clean it.  And if you have sex 2 or more times within the timeframe you SHOULD NOT REMOVE IT… but rather inject more spermicide into your vagina.

The downside is… if you are sensitive to Latex it won’t be a viable choice for you

Also, if you haven’t planned to have sex, you may find yourself making a mad dash to the bathroom to put the Diaphragm into place (could kill the mood)

IF you are away from home, and need to remove it, clean it that can sometimes be inconvenient (public washrooms, camping trips, etc)

And you have to go to a Dr. to be fitted / measured for it.  Also, the Diaphragm altho a very reliable method, is one that is losing in popularity.  So you might find it difficult to locate a place that stocks them…

That was certainly my experience the last time I was refitted.

Hope this helps,

 

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