Post # 1
We’ve gotten back about half of our RSVP’s. We invited 114 and have received about 50 back. We’ve only had 2 people say no. While we’re prepared to host everyone, we were hoping to trim things down a little bit. Having around 90 attend sure would be nice! We had to invite a lot of distant relatives that I don’t really care if they’re not there (whoops). Not trying to be mean, I just never see these people.
My FI is getting irritated that everyone’s said yes. I told him the people who send back rsvp’s right away are the ones who are excited to come, and those who say no won’t be as quick to send theirs back.
What were other’s experiences? Did a lot of no rsvps come towards the end of the deadline? We have almost 3 weeks left til our deadline.
Post # 2
We recieved almsot al our ‘nos 2 weeks leading up to the rsvp deadline, and a few that we had to call after the deadline. We invited 165 people and 136 people are coming.
Post # 3
I think that’s common. We sent invites to 300 people, so far 60ish RSVPd and they were all yeses! I’m like noo we have more people to invite lol but I do think people will say no towards the end.
Post # 4
we got all our no’s in the beginning, because if people know they can’t come, they usually rsvp right away. I wouldn’t be expecting lots of no’s at the end
Post # 5
kb7: So your fiance is okay inviting all these people to the wedding but then becomes irritated when that they actually decide to take you guys up on your offer and attend? Lol. The nerve of those people!
Good grief. You should never have invited a single person on the hope that they would decline. Rather, you should have planned based on the assumption that everyone would say yes.
Post # 6
We got all of our “no” RSVPs at the beginning. Then, most of the people we had to call were “no.”
Post # 7
sillysillybee: Umm yeah. I said we’re prepared to host everyone. But all of my mom’s cousins that I see every 8 years or so, and am only inviting because she wanted me to? Yeah, I’m cool with those people not coming. In case you haven’t realized, weddings are expensive. And while I’m prepared to host everyone, it’d be nice to save some money.
Thanks for your offering to the conversation though.
Post # 8
kb7: I know exactly how expensive weddings can be. You should not have invited people you either couldnt afford to host or really didn’t want to have show up. That’s common sense…not rocket science. To complain and whine now because the people you invited are actually planning to show is ridiculous.
Post # 9
sillysillybee: they’re not people I wanted to invite. They’re people my mom insisted on inviting. I don’t see how that’s so hard of a concept to understand… But again, thanks for your input.
Post # 10
@kb7 I haven’t sent mine out yet, so no advice on that;but I just wanted to say that I’m in the same situation. We invited about 150 and are hoping for 90ish. Completely understand where your coming from. Not sure why your getting grief from other people.
I used to send NO RSVPS back right before the deadline as I felt bad;but have switched to sending them right away. I figure I would rather know and be able to plan, then have to follow up.
Post # 11
We heard a few Nos early on from ppl (before invites even went out), but then most of our nos are definitely coming after the deadline – we either tracked them down or found out they were not able to attend through other relatives.
for our domestic destination wedding, so far, we’ve invited 188 ppl, 109 have said yes, 62 have declined, and we’re waiting on 17 rsvps. We want to be in the 110-120 range and knew that 30 relatives for sure wouldn’t come before invites went out. We sent save the dates to about 130 ppl, then invites to that same number initially, and have sent out more invites as we’ve gotten more declines.
I used to be one of the ppl who didn’t send back any No rsvps because I just felt bad (and didn’t know that you really had to rsvp for a no). But, now, I send them back right away, as soon as I know I won’t make it. I’m definitely in the minority- most ppl don’t do that.
Post # 12
I’m so happy to hear that it is common to get the No’s in later. We have a ton of yeses and very few nos as well! We are three weeks from our RSVP date at the moment and I looked at my FI last night and asked him when the No’s come. While I’m excited, I’m also overwhelmed by the sheer number of people.
I didn’t invite any one individiual person hoping they would not accept, but when you completely your list, you are often told X number of people will not accept. Then you get kind of okay with that idea as you understand that means you won’t be paying for that X number. For my sized list (300+), it should be 40% decline, but we are at 5% decline at the moment. And then my mom told me that all of our parties growing up (house warming, graduations, ect) had about an 85-90% attendance rate for around the same number of guests.
Post # 13
We got most of our no’s toward the end, within the last couple of weeks of our deadline. I think some of the folks were still trying to figure out if they could make it. We had about an 80-85% acceptance rate. We invited more than could fit in the venue, so I get where you’re coming from with the need to see some no’s!