- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Ok, this might sound dumb, but my Fiance and I have had a rough week and have been fighting a lot lately, so every little thing can make me feel insecure.
My Fiance loves to remind me that the first night we met, he was “not interested, not thinking about me ‘in that way’,” beyond the conversation we were having–about this summer camp he was helping to run, how he was “interviewing” me to come work the camp.
Furthermore, he also loves to make a big thing about how he “only” called me the next day to ask me out for lunch, because his friend had basically said to him, “What do you MEAN you haven’t called her yet? WTF is wrong with you??”I kind of want him to man up and say, “I called you because I WANTED TO, not because my buddy TOLD ME TO.”
Probably in the big picture it’s not that important, but he insists on putting those GD factoids in our wedding website (which he’s working on right now), and it caused a mean blowout a few hours ago…ugh…
So I need it to hit me that “Hey, it is no big deal. It’s funny, it’s cute, it’s whatever, WHO CARES???”
I may be latching onto that because of the ugly fighting that we’ve done. 🙁
Whether or not I am, I still want to know from other bees: Were any of you “into” your guys before they were “into” you? Did any of you pursue him? (And honestly, I didn’t pursue him. I just get annoyed at the big F-ing deal he has to make about how NOT interested in he was the first night we met–and granted, he did call me the next day.)
Yikes, hopefully when I’m not feeling this emotional, and we are happy again, I’ll read this and go, “Whoa girl…you’re nuts…”
Truly–if I had pursued him before he pursued me, and we weren’t having issues that left me feeling hurt and insecure with him, I would happily announce that to the world. Right now, though, I’m not feeling that.