(Closed) Did any of your friends get divorced?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How soon after did your friend/relative get divorced? Do you know why?
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce before the 3-month mark, with no children. : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce at the 6 month mark, with no children. : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Yes I have had a friend/ relative divorce with-in 1-3 years, with no children. : (17 votes)
    39 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce at 3-6 years, with no children. : (5 votes)
    11 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce 7-10+ years, with no children. : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Yes, I have had a friend/relative divorce between 3-6 months, children involved. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce between 1-3 years, children involved. : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce with-in 3-6 years, children involved. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes I have had a friend/relative divorce 7-10 +years, children involved. : (6 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    10715 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well just my husband but he’s my best friend so I counted that. 

    He was married to his ex wife almost 2 years when they got divorced. He found out she was cheating on him while he was deployed in the Marines. They didn’t have any children.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I went to two weddings in the last year that have already disolved. One last fall and one in May.

    The bride who was married last fall really really wanted a wedding. The groom expressed from the beginning he didn’t believe in marriage, but he agreed to marry her because it was important to her. He was a tenured professor who owned a home in a city about 1 hours drive from where she had lived and her ex-husband DOES live. Because she moved to live with the new husband she lost primary custody of her son. SHe says that she grew to resent her current husband for that reason…but, uh, dude…you KNEW you were going to move, you KNEW had reason to maintain residence in that city…you CHOSE this for yourself. I’m still irritated about it. I think she just REALLY wanted a wedding. SHe didn’t really get one with her first husband because they only married because she was pregnant and needed insurance. I feel bad for the second husband.

     

    The second one, the groom basically told the bride a few months into their marriage that he didn’t love her, her voice annoyed him, and he hates her children. That he married her because he thought he wanted a family and now he’s changed his mind!!! Like that. They’d already been living together about 6 months before the wedding, so I’m not sure why he went through with it. I work with both of them. It’s awkward.

    Post # 5
    Member
    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Sad story but I knew a girl who got married and the following week found out her new husband was the father of the child of one of her bridesmaids! The bridesmaid was married her husband was good friends with the groom and all were at the wedding. The bridesmaid and groom made it seem as if the bridesmaid’s husband was the father. Not sure what happened to the couple with the child. Such a sad story.

    Post # 6
    Member
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I have two relatives who divorced after 20 years together, both had teenagers

    A couple of friends who didn’t make their 5 year marks, children and no children

    One couple split up almost immediately after the wedding over their family issues, no children

    One couple didn’t make to their wedding at all, lol, 3 kids

     

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    7568 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We had a family friend who called it quits a week after the wedding. Apparently he had been falling for another woman before the wedding and was too embarrassed to call it off. Very sad. 

    BTW, you should change the poll so people can select more than one option. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    All but 2 of the couples I know that married when we were 22 or younger are divorced now (we’re 27-28 now). :/ I don’t know all of the exact reasons because I just feel uncomfortable asking for too many details, but a lot of them say they were just too young. It’s all really depressing actually, especially the ones that have children together.

    Post # 9
    Member
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @newbabybee:  I have a cousin who was in this exact situation — she was cheating on him before they got married and continued to cheat on him after they got married. She told him about the affair on Thanksgiving, two months after they got married, right before they left the house to come see all his family from out of town.

    Post # 10
    Member
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You should make this one of the polls where you can select multiple options…unfortunately I think many of us know multiple divorced couples with different circumstances 🙁

    Post # 11
    Member
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @cph0618:  My FI and I have started joking that people around us have a nine year curse. We know a ton of couples who got divorced after nine years.

    Post # 12
    Member
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I had 1 good friend that was only married for 7 months, no kids. She should have never gotten married because she cheated/had a short affair on her ex-H while they were engaged which I told her but alas she did not listen

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No divorces with my friends yet, which is what I marked in the poll. I’m 24 and most of my friends are in 2 yr relationships/just getting engaged. My one friend who is 27 says that at least 2 of her girlfriends are getting divorced at the under 5 year mark, no kids. We’re at the start of the engagement wave for our group, not yet to the early marriage divorces. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I had a friend call it off less than 6 months after the wedding. They were together 6 years and had a beautiful wedding. She said they had problems before the wedding but she hoped marriage would help them (I have no idea what type of problems they had). During their divorce it was apparent that her husband still loved her very much and she just spent away all his money/racked up a lot of debt in his name. The bride started dating someone new before she even filed for divorce and is now married to that man. I was friends with the bride, until I found out everything she was doing during their divorce.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    My BFF – who is getting married again next year – was married over 4 years ago to her high school sweetheart.  She didn’t really love him, but she wanted a wedding.  And lots of other people from high school were getting married, so they got married too.  They seperated about 9 months after the wedding.

    Post # 16
    Member
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I need more than one option to vote LOL

    ETA oops I guess it is really mean of me to laugh….sad but true.

    ETA again the top three: Friends together 10 years married 6 – divorce. No kids together but each have kids from previous marriages.

    Friends divorced after 2.5 years of marriage. They have two kids (It’s her third divorce, his first)

    Friends divorced after 6+ years of marriage – no kids, first divorce for both, but the man is now engaged again after 1 year!!!!

     

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