- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
The past two weeks or so have been a WHIRLWIND. Seriously, grown up life has come running right up and smacked right into me! Pretty much everything is good, it’s just a lot and my mind is still spinning!!! We got a joint account, approved for a small mortgage, and he just got offered a job!
My FI and I live with his parents, currently. He just graduated in Dec, and I am working a very very very low paying job (but I do love it) while I look for other work. He applied to grad school for an assistantship, and also applied to one job in his field, and he also works for a popular chain restaurant as a cook, which has shown interest in him applying for a kitchen manager position. His first choice was grad school.
The area where we live is a buyer’s market for houses!!! So we have also made the decision that we will purchase a duplex, and if we were living in this town, rent out one half (cover the mortgage) and live in the other half. It would be cheaper than us just renting someplace ourselves, and we’re putting money towards something we will own or have equity with!! (I mean, you can buy a decent house for $75k. 3 bedroom, two full bath, bonus room, small yard, not a thing wrong with it kind of house.)
So regardless of where he/we ended up, we want to buy. Even if we rent out BOTH sides.
Yesterday, he got a call from the job. They want to hire him!!!! Yay! But he still hadn’t heard from grad school. He called his prof. His prof said that grad school funding is in a slight upheaval at the moment, and encouraged him to take the job. It’s a seasonal job (that he could get re-hired for every year) so sometime in November he’ll be done with the job for the year. (And we get married Sept 21.) At that time, his prof said “keep your application in with grad school, and I think we’ll be in a better position for next Jan to get you an assistantship with me.”
For those of you still reading my life story, I thank you! Because that’s where we come to this: I will probably stay here. And we are moving forward with buying a duplex. I’ll live in the duplex, take care of the renters, and keep looking for jobs here. He will go down and live with MY parents and do this job for the year. At the end of the year, he may either come back up for grad school, or keep the job, or look for other work back up here.
Right now, I’m just feeling so excited for him. I am incredibly proud of how hard he has worked, and it is paying off! All the people he knows want to hire him or have him be their graduate assistant 🙂 And right now, I’m really not concerned about living apart for the first two months or so of our marriage. But for you bees that ever had to…. what were the challenges? We will be about two hours apart. We have had that happen before in our relationship, and I was also on a study abroad not long after we started dating and we were separated for almost 4 months by the Atlantic. So we have done long distance before. What is it like to do that with a marriage? Any advice? Things to watch out for? Helpful ways to keep in touch about things like bills, our joint account, etc?