Post # 1
It may just be me but i read alot of stories of either mutual decision’s on getting married or ladies waiting for there proposal……im not in either category, of course me and my fi talked about are future what couple doesn’t but i also knew if i ever waitied for a proposal i’d prob be waiting for about 20 years as my fi is that laid back.
I actually proposed 3 times, the first two times were both as you would expect nice meals, hotel room’s etc, but both those times my fi just laughed in my face as he thought i was joking (this is because he believes he’s too young, and still does…were both 28). So the 3rd time was more of a were doing this or im done (im not very patient and i am very independant so waiting was def not an option for me).
He obviously made the right choice and when i got my ring he went down on 1 knee etc i just want to find out if anyone else is as impatient as me. lol
Post # 3
After talking about our future for some time, I asked FI to marry me. He said yes, but we didn’t really consider it official until he gave me a ring months later.
Post # 4
My FI is laid back too…..he still asked me?
Post # 5
I bought a ring and proposed to my guy. It was drizzly and muddy though, so I didn’t go down on one knee.
Post # 6
@RingPup:Possibly not as laid back as my fi….he finds it impossible to make decision’s about anything so i think that added to his lack of proposal
Post # 7
Actually we both proposed…
We had talked about getting married, so I knew it was comming 😀
He proposed first and gave me my ring and all.
And days later we went to this park were we liked going to walk and I asked him 🙂
Post # 8
This is just my opinon, but I feel like in most cases, the man should propose. Here’s my reasoning: us women typically have marriage on the mind much earlier than men do. From my observations/experience, men typically take more time to realise that they do want to get married and spend the rest of their life with their girlfriend, so I feel that it makes it more special for the man to ask in that case. I looked forward to the day when my FI would propose because I knew that it would be something that he had thought over and definitely wanted to do and felt comfortable doing – where I was sure I wanted to marry him months sooner! If it were up to me I would have proposed too early for him.
However, if it was going to be something mutual, I can sort-of understand why the woman would propose, but I’m too traditional for that. 😛 If he needs some pushing, throw subtle hints, or even discuss where your relationship is going – I’d much rather do that than up and ask him when he may not be ready.
Post # 9
We came to the decision together. He was away in another city working, and I called him, frantically, saying that we had problems X Y and Z (financial and immigration) and I didn’t know what we were going to do. He suggested marriage, and convinced me that it was the right thing to do. He tried to do a real proposal when he got home, even though that really wasn’t what I wanted. Oh well, he’s a cutie.
Post # 11
I initiated the conversation about getting married, timeline, proposal, etc. But I knew that I was ready before he was, so the reason he hadn’t asked me was because he wasn’t ready. Asking someone to marry you is a question you should already know the answer to before you ask it, and I think most girls are ready before most guys, so it’s good that the guy usually asks. If I had asked when I was ready, FI might have said no, which would’ve been devastating. So yes, I was waiting for a proposal, but really I was waiting for him to be ready.
Post # 12
We just basically discussed it and decided that we wanted to get married. It was a mutual decision, no timelines, there wasn’t a ring or a speech. Just a discussion.