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Just curious.
I read so many threads about ring size, people feeling insecure about the size of their stones, or not liking it because it's not big enough, etc.
I don't like big stones. I picked out my e-ring: .10 carat altogether - it's a row of 7 tiny diamonds on a criss-cross band.
No ring matched my e-ring, so I wear it on my right hand, and we got another set for my wedding finger (we liked the look of a set). I also picked out my wedding set. It's a .10 carat solitaire; and .03 carat on the band - again, row of 7 tiny diamonds.
It's not a money issue, we have it. It's not an age issue; I'm 27 and DH is 34. I just like the look of delicate rings with small stones - and I do not like big stones. I even tried some, for the fun of it, but they always looked weird on my finger, not ME.
Am I the only one??? Around here, it often feels like I am.
I am happy with the size of my diamond. My center stone is .81 and with side stones my ring is about 1 carat total weight. From reading on the bee, I know that some people consider my ring to be small.
I am actually very happy with my ring and think the diamonds are a great size for me. I did not want a ring that looked enormous on my hand and I am glad that we did not have to promise our first born to the jeweler to pay for my ring :)
My engagement ring has a small center diamond (less than .5 carat) and 5 even smaller diamonds on each side. I LOVE it! The stones are from my great-grandma's ring, which makes it special, but even if they weren't, I much prefer the smaller size!
My e-ring has a center stone (round) that is .46 carat. I love it! I have very small hands, so it is perfect!
I did a similar thing as other posters - we used my great aunt's diamond, which was a .34 carat old miner's cut (which they don't even do anymore) and custom designed a setting for it, a cushion halo with 16 small stones surrounding it. I love it! But, yeah, I felt a little funny considering everyone else seems to be flashing their 1 carat + rings. But, whatever, it's my ring! At least we're a little different!
My ring is .7 ct and I LOVE it. It's just a round solitaire with a plain band. I have very small hands and fingers and anything larger would have looked ridiculous. People actually assume it's bigger than it really is all the time.
One of my best friends got a simple band. No stones, nothing. She and her husband are avid campers and outdoors people, so having something that might get caught or damaged was not appealing to her. She's also extremely forgetful, so she wanted to get something she could replace easily and inexpensively. She did end up losing the first band, and she replaced it with a wooden one made by a local artisan which I thought was really cool. She then found the first one again and now uses the wooden as her spare! LOL! I think it's perfectly her style :)
I wanted smaller stones, because I felt they fit with my personality better! Glad to see I'm not the only one!
I felt that too much 'bling' was not me - and I didn't want my ring to attract any attention.
Also, I'm fairly clumsy and I didn't want to continually bash it into things and scratch it to death (case in point: many a scratched up watch that I have owned).
My fiance picked out my ring and I love it -- a .34 carat marquise-cut solitaire on a very thin band! the wedding ring is a wrap with 6 small diamonds (3 on each side) so when put together, they look like one ring. Total weight is about .66 carats, and it is perfect for me (I'm a yoga teacher and a professional cellist, and I wanted a ring that was small enough that I could wear all the time without it feeling too "flashy").
I have an alternative engagement ring that I don't wear to work but most people in my field choose just to have a wedding band or a small engagement ring since there's constant pulling on and off of latex gloves. Very rare to see a scientist with major bling.
I was beginning to think I was the only one who preferred something smaller. I actually told my FI that I didn't want anything OVER a carat and preferred something closer to .5 or .75. I have a .7 solitaire in a tiffany setting on a plain white gold band. AND I LOVE IT! I even think it's too big sometimes. lol. We're both older (I'm 31, he's 40) and doing well financially, but I just wanted to keep it simple. Still trying to decide if I'm going to get a plain wedding band or one with 5 tiny diamonds in a channel setting on top. I've never understood wanting the biggest ring a FI can afford, but I guess I can respect those that do. 
I picked out my beautiful .5 center stone .66 TCW tension set e-ring and I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!
I am an avid fitness junky, a personal trainer and work with cadavers (dead people) everyday as an anatomist. I wanted something that I could ALWAYS wear (I never take off my ring) and that would be practical for my lifestyle but still be beautiful. The tension setting allows the stone to be set low and doesn't have any prongs that will rip through gloves and get cadaveric material caught in it! Eeeeew!!! LOL
The practical aspect was very important to us too - low setting, making sure that nothing can get caught in it, etc.
Fitness junkies here as well, and I never ever want to take off my rings!!
Since Moissanite is so affordable, my fiance would have actually been able to pay for a 1.5 or 2 carat ring. He had asked me to email him the links and stats of some ring ideas. In my email, some of them were 1.5 and 2 carats. About a week after I had emailed him, I suddenly realized that I didn't want anything over a carat. It didn't seem like me, I was afraid it would be too flashy, and would bring unwanted attention (especially since we'll be traveling for the next few years.) Lol, I sent him a second email hoping it wasn't too late.
I don't know if it's because I'm only 23 in the midwest, but people usually gawk at my 1 carat ring. I always thought it was so big, until I read some of the posts here that say 1 carat is average.
I ramble, but I'm glad I chose to reduce the size of my stone. I already feel somewhat uncomfortable with the stares. I think engagement rings of all sizes are beautiful, and there's something so lovely and feminine about a dainty ring. Lol, I recently had ring envy over my FSIL's dainty wedding set. It's gooorgeous.
Good to find some other folks who agree that size isn't everything! I worked with a jeweler (via Etsy) to design and create my very own unique ring out of recycled gold and conflict-free stones. The largest stone (and it's not large by any stretch of the imagination) is a white sapphire, and the two smaller stones are colored diamonds--one blue, one green. Now the jeweler is using the design we created for other rings, too!
A few reasons behind my choice:
1)I'm a cellist, so I've never really worn any rings at all, much less something with a big ol' rock sticking out. I'm having trouble adjusting to a ring on my hand and may end up switching it (and the forthcoming wedding band) to my right hand, where the ring(s) would be slightly less obtrusive.
2) Like gill84, I'm pretty sure I would've run into anything and everything if I did have a big stone on my hand!
3) I kind of thing huge bling is tacky and unimaginative. No offense to those who choose and enjoy it--just my personal take. =)
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Thanks for this post! Mine is a .41 princess cut solitaire and I think it looks perfect on my hand. My sister-in-law has a HUGE ring, and I actually don't like how distracting it is. Just as other people have mentioned, we are financially stable and average age (28) and definitely could have afforded a larger ring.... but since I do not own any rings or any diamonds, I would have felt strange suddenly wearing a large diamond ring.
Hi,
I LOVE my small ring because I have tiny hands and fingers. It just wouldn't look right with a huge rock on it. My first one got tossed out during a move :( but now I have a lovely antique ring!!!
I have a beautiful bezel set blue sapphire that is rather modest in size. Its perfect. The bezel protects it. Sapphire is nice and hard and it is beautiful.
I chose a smaller stone! I told my FI 1/2 carat, MAX! I didn't want something I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing all the time, especially when traveling outside the US. Mine is a little more than 1/3 carat, with some teeny stones incorporated into the band. It's also relatively low-set so I can even sleep with it on and never have to take it off.
i'm not a fan of super flashy jewelry on my hands...esp since most of the necklaces i wear are very eccentric, statement pieces that I typically craft on my own. I also have quite a few visible piercings and I just don't need too much more than that. My ring is perfect as a .43 ct princess cut with a solid band and it doesn't get in the way when i am working in the salon. The quality, the setting and cut of the diamond really makes it sparkle! I'm not sure I could handle much more!
i told my FI i didn't want anything larger than .5 carat (and that was pushing it) because i think large stones look awkward on my small, delicate hands
I love this thread! I don't know the official stats on my ring, but I do know that then center stone is less than a carat. I'm a big fan of multiple smaller stones, so while I try to be nice and sympathetic when girls post that they are disappointed with a ring under 2 carats, I'm usually just confused, lol!
I have a halo e-ring with diamonds all around the center stone and halfway around the band, but my center stone is around .35 carats, so it's definitely smaller than average. At first, because I didn't try on rings in any stores (we ordered it online), I was kind of shocked at how something SO tiny could cost so much! Yeah, I was a little surprised at how small it was because we paid a lot of money for it. It took me a bit to get over it because I have thick fingers, so this dainty little ring made my fingers look even chubbier. I eventually got over it because when it's all said and done, I love my ring, and the wedding band made it look more proportional to my finger size, so it worked out :)
However, that's not to say that I get slightly jealous when I see gorgeous rings that are over a carat :)
I didn't want a really big ring, but I do have bigger hands so something too delicate wouldn't look right. I ended up with a 1/3 ct princess cut solitare. I love, love, love my ring...it's a cathedral setting, and the band is wider than most of the other solitares we looked at, so it doesn't look too tiny and delicate on my short, fat fingers :)
I actually chose a no-stone ring! My mom's engagement ring is an engraved yellow gold band, no stone, and that is what I wanted for mine. Plus, I'm left-handed and did not want gemstones on the hand I use for everything.
Now my engagement ring is a 3mm rose gold band with a milgrain and a flower/vine/leaf pattern. My wedding ring is a 3mm rose gold band with no decoration at all. My husband's ring is 6mm, plain, rose gold.
I'm not a huge jewelry person and I'm not into the "bling." My e-ring has a small diamond set in the band and as you can see below, my wedding ring also has a very small diamond. I can tell you I love that ring and can't wait to wear it daily!
@Miss Banana - I agree with everything you say (especially the large bling ;). Plus just wanted to tell you your ring is gorgeous and unique. I also have non-diamond stones (tanzanite) so I love seeing other unique rings.
MissBanana: Love your ring!
@ldyparadox: for some reason I can't see the pic from work - some I can but some I can't... can't wait to look at it from home!
I really like the smaller ones more! I'm relieved to see I'm not alone anymore! ;)
@Miss Banana, what a beautiful, beautiful ring!
I had no idea how how big 1 carat was until I went to try on rings! I even thought half a carat looked huge! Like troubled said- i didn't want a giant ring b/c of work. I also wanted something classic looking. We also wanted a certified conflict free engagement ring. We ended up getting it through www.southafricandiamonds.com (through a friend who is a jeweler). My engagement ring is the solitaire in the upper picture, and the wedding band will be the band from the lower picture (with channel set diamonds).
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I have really enjoyed reading about everyone's ring, which has inspired me to post a pic of mine. I was so nervous when looking at my ring for the first time... But not because of size. Size does not matter to me. I wanted something that reflected us as a couple and my fiance did an amazing job. Not only did he get my ring size right, but I love the ring. I have not really seen any others like it. He picked it out all on his own. I don't even know the particulars about it, but I am very happy. I am not going to add a band, I think it would take away from the balance it already has.
my center stone is 1/4 carat and the diamonds on the side are 1/4 carat, my wedding band is 1/4 carat. i love it, we actually looked into getting a bigger diamond, but didn't like them for our personal taste
@sievequeen, unrelated, but I LOVE your vintage Pachinko machine! I have one too!
I have a small stone engagement ring! (if .5 carat counts as small) I normally love massive jewelry but I think that with the style I liked, this size looked nicer! (I tried on one with a 1 carat stone and a larger setting as well) Just as well, since the .5 carat stone came from a family ring gifted by my finace's father. All the other stones were provided by the artist who made the ring, Ayesha Mayadas (who by the way was WONDERFUL to work with and does gorgeous, meticulous work: http://www.ayeshastudio.com/
There are some other beautiful small stone rings on this site: http://www.clay-pot.com/cpw_items.jsp?page=-1&category=CPWSOLITAIRES
Here are the pics of my ring(s): Engagement Ring, Wedding Band, Both Together
My e-ring is 0.3 ct sapphire in a bezel setting, and my wedding band is plain with two gold inlays. I wanted something low profile that wouldn't get in the way, something that I couldn't destroy accidently. It just fits me better, and was exactly what I wanted.
Definitely! We went shopping and a one carat did not feel or look right. My FI got me a 0.5 carat round cut it a 6 prong low cathedral setting for my active life style. :-) The big and flashy rings didn't feel right even though FI could have afforded them.
Definitely! We went shopping and a one carat did not feel or look right. My FI got me a 0.5 carat round cut it a 6 prong low cathedral setting for my active life style. :-) The big and flashy rings didn't feel right even though FI could have afforded them.
Me! We both went to pick it out and personally, I am not a jewelry person.. I hate drawing any attention to myself.. so I got a 0.5 ct princess cut.. i don't even know the setting.. 4 prong? it looks pretty and i love it! it sparkles :)
I LOVE my small stone ring. I picked mine out to. It's a .34 round solitaire diamond with a yellow gold band and 6 white gold prongs. I picked out a wrap ring for my wedding band that have two slightly smaller pear diamonds (also a yellow gold band) which turns my e-ring into a 3 stone ring. The e-ring came from Zales and the other is a custom from a locally owned jewelry stone. I adore them both. My hands are too short and small for a large stone to look good on it.
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