Post # 1
SO and I discussed rings last night, and I suggested ring shopping together but then told him my ideal: a 1.5 to 2 carat pear with 4 round cut side stones, and a matching band. I priced this on Bluenile recently and came out with about $11K to 14K – EEK!
That’s why I think ring shopping together would be best, perhaps if I see something in person then I will decide that it’s a better fit for me. I physically squinted my eyes and blurted out the price, and he laughed at me for looking like I was being stabbed.
I know a lot of gals prefer Tiffany, which price generally in that range for a 1 to 1.5 carat. My thought is more bling for the dollar!
Do your ring ideas change?
Post # 3
Yup. Honestly, i think 11-14K for a 2 carat stone WITH side stones AND matching band sounds a little low??? I would expect that price JUST for the center stone.
Sounds you just scale down to what you can afford and what you are ok with you and your FI spending money on. What with us having paid for our own wedding, I didn’t wanna get too greedy! But, I know that if my parents had paid for the wedding we’d have been able to afford a bigger solitaire. No worries, though =]. You just gotta work with what you can afford!
Post # 4
I’ve pretty much wanted the same ring for quite a while now…I’ve always known I wanted a sapphire center stone and that cuts the price dramatically. I’m fairly certain I want a pear shaped sapphire(about 2 carat) halo ring. I’ve gone back and forth over what cut I want the sapphire but that’s the only thing that has changed.
But of course I’ll be happy with whatever he gives me.
Post # 5
Yeah – once FH realized how expensive diamonds are he completely changed his mind about ring shopping together and off we went to Tiffanys. I was a little shocked about what I ended up liking the best and it was easy enough for him to buy a more affordable version from Blue Nile.
Post # 6
ummm…you definitely need to go wholesale! talk to other brides in chicago and find out where they got their rings. i know soooo many couples (in Texas so i dont know if i can recommend anyone) that have gone through diamond wholesalers and gotten great deals.
my brother (who is unfortunately no longer engaged, and the b**** kept the ring after breaking off the engagement…a whole other story) bought a 2.8 carat round with the classic tiffany’s setting (6-prong, platinum) for around $10K and it was appraised for $30K! it was perfect diamond but since it wasn’t in a blue box or whatever it wasnt crazy $$$.
my advice would be find your ideal ring and then go to a private jewelry/wholesaler and have it made! i love tiffany’s as much as the next girl but i’m also practical when it comes to deals!! 🙂
just a thought….
Post # 7
I posted a thread about this topic a few weeks ago
Anyone else keep changing their mind on rings just to hurry up the process?
Its all about how I kept “downgrading” my dream ring just to get one on my finger (no luck in that department, by the way, lol)
Basically my dream ring is a 2-3 carat Emerald cut. I’m ending up with a 1.5 carat round. Lol, wanting to be engaged will REALLY shift your perspective. There was NO WAY we could have afforded an emerald cut of that size at our age, and I didn’t want a CZ stand in. So we are using a family stone that isn’t the shape I’ve dreamed of, but still has a lot of bling.
I agree with shopping around. Diamonds By Lauren has a lot of beautiful pear shaped stones everytime I visit their site, and their prices are usually very good.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Actually that’s a great price for that much bling! 😉 What you might want to do is actually go into a few stores, either with or without your boyfriend, to try on some different styles. What I thought I wanted and what I ended up wanting were not the same once I saw things on my finger. 🙂 With any luck, you’ll find you like something smaller that doesn’t make you cringe at the price!
Post # 9
i originally wanted a ring that was 8K. FI is practical and doesn’t like payment plans, so there was no way he was paying any other way than with cash. it would have taken a while for him to save up 8K and i got really anxious to get engaged so i researched less expensive options, found something more reasonable, and was engaged about 3 weeks later!
Post # 10
My dream ring changes with my income, to be honest. I guess I have two dream rings: what would I buy if I won the lottery, and what ring would I be MOST happy about my bf buying me. Because to be honest I would be PISSED if my bf spent 15K on a ring– we are supposed to be buying a house next year! Not that I wouldn’t love the ring, but in balance with what else we want out of life, it isn’t my dream to have that ring now.
So, what is my “if i won the lottery” ring? A 2ct(ish) cushion solitaire on an infinity band (basically, Tiffany novo). (I tried on a 1.76ct novo at Tiffany, was $33,000. Online it looked like I could find essentially the same for maybe 15,000).
What ring do I really really hope my guy buys me? A 1ct(ish) cushion solitaire on a plain or half-eternity band from an online dealer. (I’m thinking maybe $4,000-6,000).
I feel like that amount is okay for my bf to spend based on what we both make and what we need to do in the next few years. Now, if he had a ton of cash? I’m sure I’d move towards the “lottery” dream ring. 🙂
Post # 11
I’m with you girls are just wanting to get engaged already, ring size or price be damned! I never wanted a very large diamond – I have size 4 fingers so I look better with something dainty, and I don’t wear a lot of jewelry. But my ideal center stone would have been a full 1 carat. Still, I was SO READY to be engaged to the love of my life, I seriously did not care. I understood that he is a recent college grad, working as a teacher, and doesn’t have the budget for a very expensive ring. I also appreciate that he didn’t want to go into mounds of debt. We have an acquaintance that took out a $16,000 loan for his fiancee’s engagement ring, and not only do I personally believe it shows that their priorities are out of whack, its also unfortunate that she will likely be helping to pay off her own ring for many years to come.
So having said that, I told my FI my two priorities were a high quality center stone and some kind of eternity/pave band. I got a beautiful Ritani ring, in the classic Ritani setting, with a gorgeous, near flawless .71 carat center stone. I couldn’t be happier and it was what we could afford, so no regrets. Also, he went through a wholesaler so it was half of what it was appraised as.
Post # 12
I didn’t think about the price until he showed me one and I was like, “That’s entirely too much!”LOL. It was $3K. He had no problem with it, but I told him to bring the price down a little.
Right now though, I just wish he would ask without the dang ring!LOL
Post # 13
We talked about ring budgets last night! I have no idea what I *really* want since we haven’t been to try on anything yet, but our budget is limiting. It’s cool, though, cause it forces me to figure out what’s REALLY important!
Post # 14
i definitely cringed and am most happy with him spending less than 500 (i have really expensive student loans and bills). gosh it’s strange what getting older and reprioritizing for your lifestyle does. years ago when my priorities were out of whack i wanted and received a 2.16 carat ring (i still had the same debt but cared more about the joneses hence my current financial situation)
Post # 15
Seeing stuff in person is *so* different. I thought I knew exactly what I wanted from looking at pictures online. I was thinking 1 carat (that’s what I consider ‘big’). It turns out everything is much more shiny and the stuff I had loved online turned out to be too flashy for me. FI ended up picking the perfect ring, 1/2 carat with two smaller side stones and a tapered bead set band. I love it!
I would really recommend going to the jewelry store and looking around.
Post # 16
I have never heard of anyone thinking of their ideal carat size before, ever. Everyone I know (and I worked in a jewellery shop for over a year) describes what they’re looking for in terms of cut/stone type/style of ring.
Looking for a ring based on carat size is totally foreign to me. I’m in the UK, perhaps that is more common in the US.