- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I will try to keep this short. I’m just looking for some hope and encouragement and maybe some stories that will show me that there IS a light at the end of this tunnel …
My fiance and I dated for about 3 years before he proposed. In those 3 years, we tried to get our own place and/or get engaged 3 times but we had to put those plans on hold because of:
* his dad’s unexpected death
*his mom’s emotional/physical issues
*my mom’s health (and near death)
*his unexpected hospitilzation without insurance
*his dog getting horribly sick and costing $1,000 to get better
*him losing his job and being unemployed for 6 months. Then having horrible, dangerous jobs that he hated for another 6 months
*money/credit card issues
At the beginning of this year, things FINALLY seemed to be falling into place. We set a wedding date. Fiance has a job he loves now and was recently promoted. His mother was going to move into an apartment and sell us her house to fix up and live in and we actually already started doing some repair/cosmetic work. And I got an AMAZING job that I loved.
But 2 months ago I lost my job and am barely getting by on unemployment. Fiance’s mom reneged on her living situation deal. She reverted back to her “woe is me” self and is refusing to leave her home. She told my fiance that I can just move in with her when we get married — NO WAY IN HELL IS THAT HAPPENING.
So now I have to find a job, we have to buy a house (or find an apartment), and finish planning the wedding in 10 months.
I am trying to stay positive and hopeful and most of the time I’m doing pretty well but . . . sometimes I feel like there’s no way this is all going to come together.
I don’t even want to consider a postponement of the wedding/moving in together because we’ve already been postponing these things for basically 4 long years.
My gut is saying to just stick it out and keep our heads up and everything will work out.
But sometimes that annoying negative voice in the back of my head makes me petrified that we are not going to be able to have our wedding … or worse, that we will never have a place to call our own.
And even if we have the wedding and a place, we don’t even have furniture, etc. AUGH! So many things to worry about and desperately trying to remain calm and positive.