Post # 1
So I had my first dress shopping experience last night.
My FSIL, who is getting married the month before me, thought it would be fun to go dress shopping together. I thought she already had her dress, but she doesn’t.
We went to 2 stores – David’s Bridal and a chain by us called House of Brides, and you would think out of the hundreds of dresses I would find some kind of style I liked!
It seemed like all the dresses were the same – strapless, runching or whatever it’s called, long trains, appliques. My mom was like “dear, that’s what bridal gowns look like!”
I’ve also discovered shiny white isn’t my color. I have pretty fair skin so it made me look even worse! I didn’t like the ivory or off white colors either and FI does not want me to have a colored dress like blush.
I know I shouldn’t compare, but FSIL looked awesome in everything she tried on so it naturally made me feel more self conscious about how I looked. She did find a dress and I am genuinely happy for her! It’s a beaded sheath that is just gorgeous (not that I want the same dress obviously!)
My problem is I know what I don’t want, but I don’t know what I do want. Do I need to look at smaller, more couture stores? The sales ladies made me feel like I am really late looking at dresses since the wedding is in October this year. I want to look pretty but not spend an arm and leg doing it.
Any advice? Did anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I was not a huge fan of dress shopping, and I HATED David’s Bridal. Hated. The saleswomen were so pushy, not very helpful and borderline judgmental. I ended up going to two more boutiques and got my dress the first time I went to the second boutique. I was VERY glad when that chore was done (wedding shoe shopping was a lot more fun).
Post # 4
@ButterflyButterfly: I really did not like dress shopping at all. I had one really terrible experience with one of the three shops I went to and it made me almost decide to forgo getting a wedding dress at all. I ended up buying one that is champagne colored (for the same skin tone issues you listed) because it was the most comfortable one I tried on that also looked pretty good on me. It made me happy but I definitely didn’t have that “moment” or cried or anything.
Post # 5
@ButterflyButterfly: Lord…you should NOT have gone with your FSIL, I’m sorry to say!! I can understand how you’d initially think it’d be fun, but of COURSE you’re going to compare yourself to her, whether you mean to or not.
Give it another go, INCLUDING David’s b/c they definitely have more than just “shiny” gowns. I got mine there, and it is lace, ivory, fitted and NOT satiny at all. They have a LOT.
Do you have an idea of what you want? It’s always good to go in with some ideas and pictures for the consultant to lead you in the right direction. Go with just your mom or MOH or something, no big groups, and NO ONE ELSE should be trying on dresses but you! This is your day, and you should feel special!
Post # 6
YES I hated it, also some shops it was hard to get an idea because the sizes of the gowns would be all wrong. I actually ended up going through a company online (Kirstie Kelly) because I hated the in store process so much lol
Post # 8
@ButterflyButterfly: I went for a fitting for my Bridesmaid dress for my Brother and FSIL’s wedding. That was a tough enough experience for me. It was too crowded, too many Brides bursting into tears around me, too many dramatics from all the other brides/bridesmaids/etc. around us for me.
I knew I’d be put off by wedding dress shopping. I was dreading it. So I bought my dress online. It was on clearance so I got it for dirt cheap, and its about 2 sizes too big, so after alterations it will fit great 🙂
Post # 9
@ButterflyButterfly: I hated my experiences at bridal salons. Sales ladies were so pushy. And I didn’t find they were receptive to my preferences (budget, styles, etc.). I didn’t feel like they were really trying their best to find a solution to make me happy, but rather tried and tried to convince me I should go with another style or make me feel bad about my budget.
I had a lot more fun trying on prom dresses by myself (to decide which silhouettes I preferred) and shopping on classified ads. At this point though, I knew what kind of dress I wanted, so all I had to do was to wait until I found the kind of dress I wanted at a price I wanted to pay. FI was extremely supportive, he’s the one who helped me through this process. I’m happy I didn’t bring my mom, I think she would have confused me more than anything.
Post # 10
For the most part, I did not enjoy dress shopping. The first time I looked, with my mom and sister at a couple smaller shops, I remember feeling horrible afterwards. I felt like the salespeople were really rude, especially when I said I wanted to try a couple tea-length dresses.
I actually had a great experience at David’s Bridal though – I went with my two best friends and we had a fantastic time. The woman who helped us was really sweet and not pushy at all, and I actually found my dress that night.
Post # 11
@BurlapnLace: I really like cap sleeves, at least in the pictures!
I am really drawn to this dress. It’s by Nicole Miller.
I would want something maybe not so form fitting on the bottom, but I really like how it flares out. I have no idea how much this one costs; I found it when I googled “cap sleeved wedding dresses”. The few cap sleeves gowns I did see were all lace and I don’t want an all-lace dress.
I know it would break her heart, but I don’t want to take my mom dress shopping again. She wanted me to try on all these tulle, full ballgown dresses, and they just weren’t me.
This sounds weird, but my aunt has a dress from when she got married like 20 years ago that I cannot find a picture of anywhere but I’ve always loved it. It’s by Amsale and it has cap sleeves and the back goes in a deep v to almost her waist. Sadly, she doesn’t have the dress anymore. Everytime I go to her house I ask to see her pictures and unfortunately she doesn’t have a pictures that shows all the details well enough to have someone replicate it.
Guess I’ll just have to chin up and try again. Maybe by myself.
Post # 12
@ButterflyButterfly: I hated my dress shopping experience too. They were all getting me naked and trying to get me out of the store ASAP.
Post # 13
I didn’t hate dress shopping but it wasn’t thrilling or something I was really excited about. It was just another wedding task that had to be done. It sounds like you may have tastes that don’t jive with current trends. I was the same way. Let the sales people know about your
- Musts: for me, I definitely wanted an A-line or a ball gown. I’ve got big hips/thighs and knew I didn’t want to go the mermaid/trumpet/fit and flare rouet
- Deal Breakers: for me, shiny fabric was a deal breaker
- Things that you like: I really wanted an interesting back
- Things you don’t like: I disliked strappless and bling but knew I could remove bling or add straps, so these weren’t deal breakers
And I’d go by yourself. That’s what I did. That way you don’t have to try on the awful dresses in front of people you know. And if it takes awhile to find the right dress, it gets kind of boring. Once I had it narrowed down to a few I liked I brought in my MOH to give me honest oppinions and then later brought my grandmother (who was paying) and step-mom and aunt and made a whole girls day out of it!
Post # 14
@JenGirl: That’s some great advice! The one bridal consultant said that I was looking for something that was popular 10 or 15 years ago Gee, thanks. I’m sorry but not everyone wants strapless but that’s all there seems to be out there.
Do you have a picture of what you wound up with?
Post # 15
@ButterflyButterfly: I didn’t hate it… but it got old pretty quick. The first time I went was just with my sister and it was fun to try on all different styles but after that, I felt pressured. I actually ended up changing dresses and losing a $100 deposit.
Just keep looking and trying things on.. you will find one that you love!
Post # 16
@ButterflyButterfly: Way to be rude, saleslady! I actually think it’s kind of nice to wear something that isn’t super trendy. More memorable.
I also forgot some really important advice. Think about comfort! If you are considering a dress be sure to walk around, sit, dance, bend over, etc. See if it’s going to be comfy. Because it’s a long day!
I ended up in Watters Escalante and I absolutely adored it. It actually hit all my criteria and was super comfy! I like the entire Watters/Wtoo collection!