Post # 1
My wedding was beautiful and beyond what I ever could have imagined! You would think at this monumental time in my life people would let go of trying to cause drama…but no. First of all, we had a cap of 70 people that we could invite and my 4 great aunts (who I only see once a year on Christmas Eve) were not in the final cut. Now they’re giving my mom crap about how they weren’t invited…wth?
Secondly, a while back I posted a thread asking opinions on a group of “friends” (I rarely talk to them, they talked crap behind my back ever since the engagement, they don’t invite me to outings etc) should be invited. Well I decided not to invite them and of course they found out and have proceeded to text me about how hurt/angry they are that they weren’t invited. Now one of them wants to have a heart to heart about the whole situation. It’s almost too comical to be real.
I figured I would catch some wrath but had no idea it would be so prompt. This started the day after we got married! Has anyone else received flack for not inviting certain people? What did you do about it?
Post # 3
@Galang_Gyal: …since our wedding was harder to get into than Fort Knox, we did in fact have several family members and friends that tried to kick up a fuss about the whole thing…we ignored them because honestly, it was JUST a wedding and I’m sure all of these people have hosted various events and parties that you were not included in…so they can stop it, or at least freak out without the benefit of you for an audience.
Post # 4
@Galang_Gyal: I went to school with a girl, and I never liked her. We will call her Missy. She never invited me to her wedding, and it didn’t bother me becuase I didn’t like her anyway. I invited a friend from OOT to my wedding, and Missy showed up at the reception becuase she is friends with her too and wanted to talk to her. She wouldn’t come in to the reception. She called the OOT friend to come outside to talk to her because she wasn’t invited and refused to come in. My MOH was outside and Missy was SO pissed for not being invited to my wedding.She was raising a big stink in fornt of everyone.
If that is the way she handled not being invited then my reasoning was justified.
Post # 5
@Galang_Gyal: Ignore them. I don’t know about you, but I’m not 5 so I don’t meet other people at their request for a “sit down talk.” It’s incredibly patronizing.
Post # 6
@Nona99: love this!! I wish my FI had the stones to do this with our guest list!
Post # 7
@megz06: If we are all being honest, I would have walked outside in my gown and popped “Missy” square in the teeth. Some people need their attitudes adjusted for them.
Post # 8
Nope. I was very upfront and told all my friends that they were not invited to our mostly family only wedding. Of course, my situation is a bit different since I was simply the prop to my MIL’s family party with her friends.
Post # 9
@Nona99: That’s so true! It’s just so lame that people would think it’s appropriate to start stuff over something like that. Especially if you don’t have much of a relationship with them to begin with. People are silly!
@megz06: Dang Missy sounds like she has some issues. Who does that!? Good job on staying sane in that moment because I might have resorted to cutting her…lol jk.
@badabing88: You’re right it is patronizing! It’s like if you really feel the need to talk to me, just talk to me! Don’t tell me I need to come talk to you on some heart to heart Dr. Phil BS. So lame
@MRSsrm85: See that’s what I toyed around with before the wedding. But I kept hearing how rude it is to tell people they aren’t invited. I personally don’t think it’s rude but I guess I was influenced by everyone else’s opinions.