(Closed) did anyone have to take the REFOCCUS

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

we did.  it opened up a lot of discussion.

Post # 4
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We took the FOCUS test, do you know what the difference is?

Post # 5
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, I didn’t think anyone else had to take the Foccus test!!

My Fiance and I took that about 2 months ago. We also have to take pre-marriage counseling in order to get married in our church. The Foccus tests were actually really fun/helpful. Don’t take the scoring too seriously.. there were a couple that my Fiance answered wrong and I answered wrong so it skewed our scores, but the questions are really great topics to chat about! I think it actually made us a little closer and enabled us to communicate and understand each other better =)

Post # 6
6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think everyone getting married in the Catholic church is required to take the FOCCUS test as part of Pre-Cana.  I’ve never heard of REFOCUS?  What’s that?


ETA:  Oh, I think we’re talking about the same test!  I actually really enjoyed going over the answers to our FOCCUS test.  Even though my husband and I put down mostly the same answers, there was a questions or two we disagreed on, and that brought up some great discussion material!

Post # 8
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We took the FOCUS test ๐Ÿ™‚  we scored really high on all of them and didn’t have to discuss much at all… which I guess is a good thing, but I was hoping that we would learn something new about eachother…. oh well! haha

Tomorrow we start our weekend retreat! Night all ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We just mailed our FOCCUS in to the church.  I am excited to see what our results are too. 

Post # 10
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

is it REFOCCUS because youve been legally married already?

we took the FOCCUS as part of our engaged encounter weekend which was back in november.  we havent gotten the results of it and we’re actually kind of confused because we want to know how we did but it wasnt “graded” (i guess?) during our weekend.  no one ever explained that it would be sent away and results mailed back.  where did you all find out your results?


Post # 12
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

REFOCCUS is for married couples.  I just went on their website to see if they had a sample test (we take ours on Saturday!) and is had a REFOCCUS section for people who are married.

I don’t know why, but I am nervous about this test! haha.  I keep thinking we have forgot to discuss this huge issue and we will fail! 

Post # 13
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, the good thing is, it’s there so you can learn that you DO need to discuss something ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s not really a pass/fail there goes your marriage… ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We took the FOCCUS and I think the biggest discrepancy/conversation starter for us was my husband had marked that he would save our kids before me.  The priest scolded him a bit on that one, “You can have more kids, but you can’t have more wives!”….but we mostly found out that we were 80-ish percent compatible and that our priest liked our jokes. 

I thought that our marriage prep in the Catholic church (although I myself am not Catholic, my husband is and we were wed in a Catholic cathedral) was very beneficial and well worth the time.  We knew we were right for each other and it really just opened up our hearts and our minds to God and getting more to a balance in our relationship.  Somedays I wish we were still going through all of that so that we were forced to take the time to work on our relationship.

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