- 7 years ago
I need help with convincing my future Fiance to go the sim stone route for my engagement ring. This is actually a bit of a new topic that is a continuation of my first post. But I’d rather have the ring of my dreams, the asha krupps cut 2.75 carat set in the timeless tapered baguette setting. I have done a TON of research and I haven’t heard ANY complaints about the asha. Why pay more when I don’t have to? Why buy into the whole “diamond” hype which for many reasons I think is not really worth it, nor is it as cracked up as it is made out to be.
So, my future Fiance, wants to get a 1.6 carat round centre in a pave halo setting. Honestly, and I may get flamed for this but I’m not a fan of round cuts…never was. We did find one round halo that I was OK with, but again, the jeweller was so difficult with us. The stone in the setting that I saw was supposedly an F colour 1.69cw and vs2 blah blah blah. But the bf and I took one look at it and although we liked the setting (bf liked it better because he thinks round is the best) the centre stone looked yellow and murky. Why shell out 16 grand when the stone was obviously a different colour from the OBVIOUSLY white sparkly paves? We looked around, and contemplated buy a stone and having it set in the setting from the 1.69ct, but the jeweller said he wouldn’t sell us a setting! He obviously wants us to buy what he already has sitting there in stock.
Another jeweller, showed us a 2 ct round, but kept saying “you don’t need to see the GIA certificate, it’s not important” ????
Another jeweller who we were thinking of buying a round stone from said that he’d only set it for us if we bought a setting from him – his settings were not nice.
It turned into a giant rigamaroll! So, I dug further and realized that the whole diamond industry is not as shiny as it seems. (IMHO)
That’s when I started looking for sims. And when I found the BTD site and ASHA site, moissanite etc, I realized I could get a good quality ring, that just so happened to be my DREAM ring for a FRACTION of the cost.
Yet, the bf is unconvinced. He wonders why the btd site no longer offers a lifetime warranty (they used to). He HATES my dream ring. He thinks the emerald cut, and the asscher cut are “plain” looking and that they might look fake because they have less facets – round is the best (according to him). But even real asscher’s and emeralds have that cleaner icy look. Brilliance is not on the top of my list, I just love the square or rectangular shapes. The one I found reminds me of the harry winston emerald cut with tapered baguettes (*swooning*).
Our conversation ended in a tiff. The bottom line is that I want to be engaged, the ring doesn’t REALLY matter, so in my mind why not get something that looks great and is not part of the whole “real diamond” racket?? I want to look down at my ring and think that I have my dream ring and my dream guy. I don’t want to look down and think I have my dream guy and he bought me this really nice ring, which has been mined and yanked from our earth, fuelled countless conflicts, created unnecessary competition in the market place…it would be like him throwing money away when I’d be happy as a clam, guilt free with the ring of my dreams.
His main issues:
1. he thinks round is best, but does not like the moissanite or asha rounds I have suggested (even tho, I’m not even a fan of round).
2. He thinks the halo is pretty and dainty, sparkly and special (I feel like it’s a bit of a trend, and while it’s pretty, I don’t find it special – I can’t picture being 60 and still liking it)
3. He is worried that it will get cloudy, or lose its luster over time.
4. He thinks it will look “fake” and that he’ll end up looking like he “chintzed out” and got his girl a “substandard” ring … whatevs 😐
Did any bees out there have to sort of convince their bf’s to go for the sim (for those who have the sim)? If so, how did you do it? Any tips?
Thanks !!!! 🙂