Post # 1
Originally we had an even number of people. One of my fiance’s groomsmen was his brother in law who he has known since he was a kid and really thought of as a brother. Unfortunately, now his sister and brother in law are suddenly going through a horrible messy divorce after thirteen years of marriage. It has gotten really ugly and now he is out as a groomsmen. Now there is an odd number of people in the wedding party. I told FI he should use my brother as a groomsmen, but he said he isn’t close enough with my brother and wants to choose his own groomsmen. he says he is happy with who he has. Is it okay to have an odd number of people? What will we do about walking down the aisle? Leave one person out? Anyone have this?
Post # 3
@BriansBride: Mine will be unequal too! I have two bridesmaids and my fiance has three groomsmen. It just came down to who were the most important people in each of our lives and I didn’t want to add an extra bridesmaid only to make things equal as I really don’t have a third girl who I am close to. I actually didn’t have any concerns about this at all – my fiance was the hesitant one!
My one bridesmaid and his one groomsman are a couple so they naturally will walk down the aisle together. As for the rest, I think we will just ask the groomsmen which one wants to walk down the aisle with a bridesmaid and which one wants to walk down alone. Honestly, since they’re guys, I really don’t think they will care. It might be a different story since you have more bridesmaids as women usually care more about this stuff, but it really shouldn’t be a big deal.
As for the first dance, we will just have the one groomsman dance with his wife. She is a good friend of ours also so that works and I really don’t care for photos and the like that she isn’t a bridesmaid but will be dancing with us. I am just pretty relaxed about the whole deal and not worried about it.
I definitely don’t think you should leave someone out who you originally wanted to be part of your wedding party just because you’re worried about things being unequal. It is your wedding and you should have who you want in it without worrying about traditions.
Post # 4
@BriansBride: I’ve seen things where the last group walking would have (in your case) two of your bridesmaids walk down with one groomsman. I’ve also seen where they’ve had the groomsmen and bridesmaids already at the front and then where they just had the bridesmaids walk up the aisle alone.
Post # 5
We had 8 girls (7 BM 1 junior) and 7 guys (4gm 3 junior). We just had my youngest nephew escort 2 of my bridesmaids. He was in 7th heaven and it was adorable 🙂
Post # 6
We had 4 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids. We had the all of the guys walk out together in a line with the minister, and the ladies and flower girl walk down individually. For the recessional, one of the groomsmen walked up the aisle with the flower girl (so cute!).
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@BriansBride: lol well we are having completely uneven numbers and sexes. I have a man of honour and one or two bridesmaids (depending), while FI will have one best man and three groomsmen. We will probably have the groomsmen at the front waiting with the groom and then the rest of us walk in. During the recessional most likely man of honour with the one bridesmaid and the groomsmen and best man in pairs. No biggie.
ETA: I would also not want to name someone for the sake of naming somene. I think it should just be people you are close to and really want to be there.
Post # 8
@BriansBride: I think uneven is fine. We had equal numbers of people, but mixed gender. My husband had 3 male and 1 female, and I had 4 female. So in the end 2 ladies were paired up in photos and walking out together.
We are not fussed by this at all, and the two ladies linked arms and walked out as friends. It was great, but not traditional.
I have also been a BM in an uneven wedding. (Grooms sister had immigration issues at the last minute and couldn’t leave the US, to come to her native Canada) It was great. Pictures and everything turned out great. The photographer was creative and worked with different groupings.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We had two girls and three guys. They walked individually up the aisle, then two paired up walking out, and one escorted my Mom (parents are divorced.)
For the reception, we announced the guys individually, then did best man/two MOHs at the same time.
Not a problem at all!
Post # 10
We had an uneven number. We had the groomsmen stand up at the front together at the start of the ceremony. The bridesmaids walked down alone. For the recessional the groomsmen walked with one or two bridesmaids. Bonus: the groomsmen were thrilled!
I wouldn’t ask someone else now. They will know the are just a placeholder. It’s much more meaningful to have uneven numbers in this situation.
Post # 11
Mine was unequal – three dudes for him and a dude and a girl (my best friend and my sister) on my side. We had DH walk his mom down the aisle and the groomsmen down at the altqr area. We had my dude (instead of a maid/matron of honor) walk down with my sister.
Post # 12
We haven’t finalized our bridal party, but it won’t be even close to even. It looks like there will be 7 GM and 10 BM, so a couple GMs will have a BM on each arm- no big deal. Actually, one of the GMs volunteered and specifically asked FI is he could walk with the hot and single BMs, lol. I wouldn’t stress about it. One guy can walk 2 girls. I was also in a wedding where the last BM walked two GMs. If your FI doesn’t want another GM, I wouldn’t push it.
Post # 13
Mine was unequal! Three groomsmen and 6 bridesmaids. As for walking down the aisle, we had the groomsmen make two trips. We tried it with two girls for each guy but weren’t fans, but there are lots of options! Here’s a couple of wedding party shots:
Post # 14
It just so happened that our bridal party is even, but I actually prefer when they aren’t! It doesn’t look so matchy! I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 15
Ooh… I had three groomsmen on the hub’s side, and then two bridesmaids and a bridesman on my side. So even numbers, but uneven genders.
The Groomsmen just waited down by the ceremony area and us girls (and guy) walked down individually. When it came time to walk back up the isle, the last groomsman and my bridesman linked arms because hey – why not?
You can make it work and it’s really no big deal nowadays and if their divorce is really that messy, I’m sure everyone will understand.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@BriansBride: FH has 4 GM. I have 3 BM’s and a man of honour. The men will be standing at the front waiting when the bridesmaids go in on their own. I want their flowers and dresses stand out and it fixes the two many guys problem. For the recessional I think I might get them to walk out with their own SO’s, two of the bridal party members get married the week before! I don’t think it matters.