Post # 1
I’ve had this problem with my grandparents. They live in Florida and I live in Oklahoma. I’m 20 and just got engaged 4 moths ago and my grandpa totally disapproves of me getting married. Mostly because I think he thinks I’m pregnant.
I called my grandparents the night he proposed and I mean they were the first call because I’m so close to them. The first words out of their mouths, oh no! Who says that? Even though our wedding is 1 year from the day he proposed (12.1.12). I think my grandpa still suspects I either am or was pregnant….
I know it’s incredibly rare these days to get married before starting a family, even in my own family (a 16 & 17 yo preggo right now) I’m the only one who made it to 20 without a baby!
Its just frustrating. I have no idea why they are the only ones STILL unhappy with me getting married.
Post # 3
Sorry you’re going through this! I’m sure they’re just being overly protective in their own loving way. Have they been supportive of the two of you during your relationship? They were probably just surprised and didn’t want to feel like they were losing a grand daughter.
Actually, my cousin asked me this right when she called after finding out! But it was totally jokingly 🙂
Post # 4
We dated for 7 months before the engagement, so they haven’tmeet my fiancé but they were always so excited when he got me out to try new things like rock climbing or camping. So it was a shock to me when I got oh no as theirreaction
Post # 5
Yes. Just get used to hearing it all the time. I am 22 and I hear it a lot. My Future Mother-In-Law was especially bad for this. It took several months before she was convinced that I was not expecting.
Recently, we were at a bar and mentioned to somebody that our wedding was coming up. She flashed me a big smile and said, “Oh! So you’re knocked up!” And I looked down at my drink in my hand, looked down at my stomach and made a sort of confused, sad face. I had been very proud of how good and fit I was looking because of recent excersise programs, but I spent the rest of the night fretting that I looked like I had a baby bump or something. When this woman was assured that I was not knocked up, she said, “Oh, okay… so you’re waiting for the honeymoon for that!”
Yeah. Just get used to it. :/
Post # 6
Yep! Especially when we moved the date up. One of my friends immediately goes “omg, you’re pregnant aren’t you!”
No. I’m not. We moved the date up because I need health insurance and sanity while trying to graduate from nursing school. (Planning a wedding-even just having it looming over my head was sending me into panic attacks)
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
After I told my mom we were engaged, she asked if there was anything else I needed to tell her… lol I guess after being together for 5 plus years and owning a home, she wasn’t sure if we were going to get married at all??
Post # 8
If anyone thought this they didn’t say so to me…..but FI’s cousin who is younger than me (she’s 23) got engaged over the holidays and Future Sister-In-Law has been making wise cracks that she must be. I think that’s just mean….like he would’t want to marry you unless you were? Ugh.
Post # 9
I had 2 uncles ask if I was pregnant. When I said no then they moved on to congratulations.
Post # 10
I got engaged when I was 19, and we planned on the wedding being after I graduated. Then he joined the Marines and we went from “We’re getting married in 3 years” to “We’re getting married in 3 MONTHS…” It got to the point that I began all of my conversations with vendors with “I’m not pregnant, he’s joining the military. Anyway…”
Post # 11
Me and Fiance had a quick 4 month engagement because we just wanted to be married, we always talked about not wanting a long but but people who didn’t know me that well assumed we were getting married because we were going to have a baby-except the small detail that we were waiting till we were married!
Post # 12
Well we’re highschool/college sweethearts, so we got more of a “Congrats, you were married before you got knocked up” reaction from some of DH’s less polite family. We were kind of like, wow, you really went there? It was interesting because these are the same people that are now asking us if we’re ready for babies…no, we’ve only been married a month. CHILL.
I’m sure your grandparents are just generalizing or being protective. Give it time and they’ll realize that you’re OBVIOUSLY not pregnant when there is no baby! Lol.
Post # 13
Yes 🙂 I’ve had a number of people ask when they have found out how soon we are getting married. It became so common that I even started saying “it on…I’m not pregnant”
Post # 14
i didn’t get it when we got engaged because i was a virgin. i waited until i had an engagement ring and was certain of our future.
but… because my parents and sisters want me to be pregnant so much, i get “are you pregnant? you’re pregnant, aren’t you!” with EVERY SINGLE phone call i make to them.
Post # 15
I went through this for 7 months everyone thinking im pregnant were both 19 and getting married this week cant wait to not have to hear it anymore!!!!!
Post # 16
ahhhh, yes, the old “the only reason people get married is because they’re pregnant” trick.
My fiance and I decided on a short engagement, because he’s in the Army so we figure “hey, let’s start getting paid to be married sooner rather than later!” Naturally everyone assumes that if you’re in a hurry to get married, it must be because you want to beat the baby or something.
It was moderately funny in December. Now I’m pretty sick of the jokes, which still continue. Especially when they come out while I’m doing something like eating sushi or drinking alcohol. Yes, not only am I knocked up, but I’m also completely irresponsible!